I had a request last week from a guy who wanted me to humiliate him by posting pictures of his wife, naked, all over the internet. He, of course, would supply me with all these photos that he has taken of her probably during intimate moments she thought would only be shared by the two of them. My flat out answer was HELL NO!
Not only is a violation of the law but it’s a supreme violation of this woman’s privacy and human rights. It honestly disgusted me that he wanted someone else to put her pictures all over the internet so he could get his rocks off.
Now guys I know some of you go into chat rooms and post pictures of your wives (ladies make a note of this) and essentially you all have a nice little circle jerk. Or in some cases you’ll share them in chat rooms with dominant males who then tell the husband what he’d do to her blah, blah. Even this disgusts me because again you’re doing this without her knowledge or approval.
I’m all for having a fetish but I don’t think it takes a freakin rocket scientist to figure out how really horrible this practice is. So let me reiterate, you have ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT to be doing this. Just because you may be in to humiliation at this level doesn’t mean your wife or girlfriend is. As a matter of fact I can guarantee you she would be subject to a range of emotions from shocked, to horrified, to violated and everything in between.
Obviously what I say isn’t going to change what you morons are doing you’ll continue to do it. I am however more interested in letting the ladies out there know what you guys are doing so hopefully they can keep an eye on you.
One way of dealing with this is if you don’t want pictures out there then don’t take them in the first place. I subscribe to this to a degree. Think of all the sex tapes and pictures of celebs that have been leaked. Granted most of this is publicity based but it’s the same thing. Don’t want anyone to see you naked, don’t take naked shots. But when you’re in a trusting relationship with someone you expect them to respect you. You assume (never do this) that the person will only use the pictures or videos for their own purposes.
And please Dominas don’t fall in to this trap. I’m not saying you have to respect your sub’s wife or girlfriend but you certainly shouldn’t do something to someone you don’t even know. You have no idea what this could do to a person. I’m not saying it’s wrong in the cases of blackmail where the sub supplies you with pics and you hold them as leverage, but holding on to them and publishing them are two very, very different things. Pictures distributed that way can ruin careers, families and worse. So use your heads girls. And gentlemen, I know it’s hard but try not to be pigs, cause this really is pig behavior.
I’ve been married for 24 years, certainly consider myself mildly kinky, and have run into this issue with my husband. He likes to have photos of me so being G,G, and G I agreed and we had quite a few photo sessions. Well… then I found him sharing my photo via chat with some guy, whilst pretending to be me. Um… excuse me??? I don’t know who he thinks he is but that is NOT OK! I chewed him out, reminded him that ALL photos of me are owned by me and that technically I could probably have him charged. I deleted all of my photos took back all printed pics, etc.. Play time is over. He can not be trusted period. Trust with an item like this is no joke. I’ve never gotten over it. What a jerk!
I’m so sorry you had to go throught this. What happened to you is exactly why I wrote this article. I hate to see women being used this way. It was done without your consent which makes it abuse in my books. I hope you’ve been able to resolve your trust issues with him and I certainly hope he’s not still doing it but I’d be keeping an eye on his computer.
I can’t imagine what would lead a man to give out naked pictures of his wife online. You’re right, Dr Sue, it is pig behaviour. I heard about a family court judge who was stripped of her position because her husband posted pics of her in bondage gear on an interracial cuckolding website and tried to recruit guys to have sex with her. All without her knowledge. He even went as far as to show the site to one of her co-workers and constantly harassed him to cuckold him with her.
This is femdom on the internet though – a bunch of married middle-aged guys going behind their wives backs to get their rocks off with other men. It makes me wonder…is any of this shit real? It seems like it’s mostly men using the veneer of “female domination” to get themselves off in just the way they want to. Where is the femdom in that?
You’re so sweet Pat. This was based basically for the average woman out there. Not anyone necessarily in the ‘scene’. I’m talking about the average guy who does this and yes it does happen… a lot! It’s sick. Now guys posting pics to find guys to fuck their wives is common, I’m not talking about that. I’m talking about Jane Doe who thinks her loving husband is playing video games in the basement when he’s actually pilfering personal photos meant only for his eyes and letting other men jerk off to them without her knowing. That is what I’m talking about.
I see what you’re saying, Dr Sue. The worst part is that those pics are out there, possibly, forever. The younger generation especially is going to be sorry when they’re forty years old because of the revealing stuff they’ve shared online or through text messaging. It’ll come back to bite you. All the young girls that are sending naked pics of themselves to a guy’s phone, believe me, it’s being shared. A husband doing that to his wife is particularly violating though. I can’t imagine what he gets out of it.
I will be a gentleman and respect a woman’s privacy but she must also respect mine. Mutual respect is all I ask. I have heard of women who have taken naked pictures of men without their knowledge and posting them on the internet.
I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t be saying HELL NO if it was a woman asking to humiliate her man by posting him naked! Because men don’t deserve privacy or respect. We have no feelings, right?