Can Cuckolding Ruin a Marriage?

Of course it can if you’re not open.

Here’s the best foundation to make cuckolding work in your relationship:

It’s essential that each partner be honest and upfront about their feelings.  There is no right or wrong way to cuckold. The trick is to make it work for the two of you. There are so many different ways to cuckold that the possibilities are endless but at no time should one person jump ahead and do something without consulting the other, unless you agree on that ahead of time.

I always suggest that couples have at least one day a week where they aren’t dominant and submissive they’re Bob and Carol.  During this time you sit down and discuss what’s working and what isn’t for each partner.  The number one key to making cuckolding work is communication.  If one partner resents something the other is doing, you’re in for a big fall.  Sounds obvious but it’s easy to get carried away with your roles and just start to assume that the other person is cool with whatever you have in mind.

Lay out ground rules before you start.  For some couples the cuckolded male wants to watch his partner get properly fucked.  Other couples find that the cuckolded male wants to only listen or hear about the session after it’s over with no participation at all.  This just has to do with what senses you use in eroticism. Some people are auditory they want to hear it all but not see it and vice versa.  This actually works well to start off with too. Sometimes it’s easier for the newly dominant female to jump on board with the idea of cuckolding if she can choose her fuck toy herself and break the ice by fucking him on her own but telling her partner about it after the fact.  Remember, baby steps, don’t rush things and go with whatever makes each person comfortable.  Once the ice is broken and she’s more comfortable then she might start bringing her toys home with her for the cuckold to watch.

If during your “Bob and Carol” once a week meetings one person says, “I’d rather be there with you when this is going on,” make sure the other is ready for that.  Remember guys, sometimes it’s hard for a woman who’s been newly introduced to cuckolding to get past the fact that you aren’t going to leave her for cheating, or call her a whore during a fight.  That’s a BIG no-no.  If you decide to go this route, you can NEVER…EVER hold what you do behind closed doors against the other person.  The biggest hurdle for a woman to get over is this fear of you doing just that.  You can’t have it both ways.

All this being said, I’ve found that most cuckold relationships are actually stronger than their vanilla counterparts. Why?  Because there’s no cheating and sneaking around.  Everything is above board and both partners are getting what they want.  There’s no need to go behind someone’s back.