If you read my article about Fetish and Society you’ll probably notice the same theme running here. I would say 80% of the people who call me want to know that they aren’t going crazy and that what they’re doing is okay.
When I’m asked, ‘what is normal?’ I reply, ‘who cares?’ What’s normal to me, isn’t going to be normal to you, which in turn isn’t going to be normal to your neighbor. We as human beings are very diverse that’s what makes us all unique and wonderful and it’s this diversity that allows us to look at someone or a situation and say, ‘I like that, but I don’t like that.’ And that is the basis of why we’re all here in the first place, to reach for the things we like and disregard those we don’t.
The problem is we focus too much on what we don’t want. Again we’re minding everyone else’s business but our own. There is no such thing as normal so quit trying to attain it, and for those of you who spend most of your time criticizing everyone because they’re not doing things ‘your’ way shut your lip and live your life. Stop trying to live other people’s lives for them. You may not like what they do, you may not agree with what they do but unless they’re forcing you to do the same, it’s none of your concern.
If a man wants to give his life to a lifestyle Domme and live as her slave for the rest of his life because he thinks it’s the most wonderful way to spend the rest of his life, so what? As long as he’s not being held against his will, what possible harm does it do to you? If you go out for dinner and you order lobster and your friend orders steak do you spend the rest of the night bitching and fretting about what your friend is eating because you don’t eat red meat? Unfortunately there are people who do. I’d like to hope that you can now see the absurdity of trying to control other people, thinking that if they do what YOU like then YOUR life will somehow be perfect, because you’re only making YOUR life miserable in the process.
Why is there so much crap going on in the world? Look around you, when you boil it all down to the barebones you’ll see it’s because people are trying to make other people do things their way. Each religion thinks it’s the only one. Each government thinks it’s the cat’s ass. And instead of just staying in their own backyards and playing nicely alone they push their views, ideals and personal morality on others who don’t want to live that way.
So instead of submissives trying to live dominant and vice versa just be what you’re happiest being. Now would I shout it from the rooftops? No. But only because doing so will bring you more negative people around you telling you you’re wrong. Just sit back and enjoy it, quietly until the rest of the world gets to a place where we can all just live and let live. Just don’t hold your breath.