Rich once again, has brought up a couple of good points for you newbies who are considering getting in to financial domination that should be mentioned.
Blackmail was and still occasionally is something I love doing. Unlike many of the girls I never had a slave or blackmail application. I think asking someone for all their info is quite honestly anticlimactic. You fill out the form with all your info and hell what’s there for the Domme to do? It takes away a huge part of the thrill; knowing she’s found out info about you that you didn’t give her. Of course you will always let things slip in conversation with her which always helps and gives her a starting point. For me I love hunting for info on you guys, I enjoy it so it’s fun for me and that’s why I don’t go the easy route.
The point Rich brought up was blackmail contracts. Blackmail contracts are a crock. If you think they are legal and binding you are very sadly mistaken. If you think that just because you have an agreement with a Domina with a buy-out clause that you’re safe, again you are very wrong. Don’t get caught up in the false sense of security of a contract that has no value. Your Domme doesn’t have to abide by it nor do you for that matter so it’s all smoke and mirrors.
So you have a contract or an agreement of some kind with a Domme, you feel like ‘hey this is no problem I can always get out of it,’ WRONG!! When you enter in to any kind of arrangement with a financial Domme it is her way or the highway guys. As Rich pointed out, you’re there to make her life easier, pay her bills etc. Do you seriously think that turning off that tap is going to make her happy and she’s going to let it go? If you’ve been contributing to her mortgage or her utilities and you just say ‘I don’t wanna,’ she’s going to say ‘Oh okay, see ya!’ Not a chance Lance. Now not all girls are that ruthless but it’s best to err on the side of caution and assume that she is. Oh and by the way, crying, begging and pleading has no effect on a true financial Domme, it just makes us smile more because it shows we’re doing our job.
Advice to you newbies is to really think about it before you enter in to any agreement with a Domme. I make guys think at least 2 days before saying they want to jump in the deep end. Now I’m not as hardcore as a lot of the girls and usually, depending on the reason, I let you buy out but if the reason is lame or I’m in a bad mood, you’re not going anywhere and neither is your cash.
There’s lots of ways to play the financial domination game without long term commitment too. You can play in spurts of having her take a lot once in a while as opposed to promising to pay a set amount at a certain time all the time. You can simply mail her money or Visa cards or buy her gifts from her wishlist. It’s dancing on the edge without really getting sucked in but don’t think that she won’t try to sink her teeth in while you’re doing this. Financial domination is a dangerous but incredibly erotic and sexy game to play and as with anything just be careful who you’re playing with. Or don’t and really feel the thrill of the rollercoaster ride from hell, but man it’s a hot way to go.
I got into the blackmail game quite unintentionally. A hypnodomme who I’d had a relationship with got ahold of the woman to whom I confide all my secrets. The domme spent 7 hours breaking down my friend and then drained her of all the secrets she was keeping. Then she presented me with the bill. I paid $1500 immediately, and another $8,000 over the next month. The domme kept control of my friend for about 9 months. It was scary and expensive at the time; but looking back on it now, I was sorry when it ended.
Hello Dr. Sue, thankyou, your insight and advice is once again unparallel. I appreciate you posting my thoughts. Maybe some will be educated by this first before jumping in with both feet. But there’re clever and very manipulative Dommes out there who’re extremely good at what they do, so as some may heed the warnings, so many more will be ensnared by the beautiful and intelligent Mistresses they approach. I did want to state though, when i submit these thoughts i by know way fault the Findom, i mean as you have stated many times Dr. Sue they don’t seek the submissive out, it’s the other way around, the submissive seeks her out, and then in one day your entire world can change.
It’s very true Rich. All a Financial Domme is doing is HER JOB! You can’t rape the willing gentlemen.