I’m still amazed at how many men are paranoid of playing sexually with their asses. You guys are missing out on the best orgasm of your life. The universe played a joke on you guys by burying you’re personal ‘clit’ inside your ass. Also to be technical it’s not inside your ass but on the opposite side of the rectal wall. For those of you who don’t know it’s your prostate gland.
Hetero couples are really starting to embrace this as a blast in the bedroom because of the intensity of the orgasm. Put it this way, you don’t have to touch your cock at all to cum. Women are starting to realize the power of giving a man an orgasm this way. It’s the same power we get from giving you guys head. WE control if you cum or not and when.
For those of you who are sitting there thinking playing with your ass will make you gay I say, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD COME IN TO THE 21ST CENTURY! You CANNOT ‘become’ gay. You are born that way. And it is my personal opinion that we are all inherently slightly bi-sexual anyway. Again, people, stop with the labels and learn to relax and enjoy yourself instead of freaking over something that no one really cares about anyway what goes on in your bedroom.
When I had the sex shop I was teaching the use of toys to play with anally and actually had one couple come in and tell me that what I taught them saved their marriage. A bit dramatic I think but very nice of them to say. So let’s move along here so you can learn HOW to play either by yourself or with someone else.
First of all yes you can play with your finger, your dildo or your buttplug but to be honest these aren’t as good as playing with a vibrator. The problem with dildo’s and buttplug’s are, they just sit there and don’t do anything. Another thing to keep in mind is your P-spot (which is what we’re talking about here) is located at the front of the body which requires a bit of a curve in whatever toy you’re using. Similar to a g-spot.
This is probably one of the best diagrams I’ve seen showing you where to locate it. Notice that you have to push through/against the rectal wall. This is another reason why a vibrator works perfectly. I find that if you put the vibrator in as far as you can stand it to go, push down on it so that the head of the vibe (not turned on at the moment) is then pushing against the rectal wall at the front of the body and slowly remove the vibrator as you’re sweeping back and forth you’ll find it pretty easily. Now how do you know when you’ve found it? Simple, it will literally take your breath away. If you’re thinking to yourself, ‘Hmmm I think I might have found it,’ you HAVEN’T found it. If you have to question it you haven’t found it. So keep searching. Another issue is some men have a build-up of fecal matter/plaque against the rectal wall which can deaden the feel somewhat. If you’re using fingers I suggest gloves. I’m big on being clean and safe. Remember…feces contains e-coli which can kill.
Now what kind of vibrator to get? Now that I have a sex shop again, thank god cause I miss being in the biz, I can show you exactly what the best ones are.
The cheapest and simplest one that I recommend every one use when you’re starting out is The Dr Joel Kaplan Prostate Massager. It’s a hard vibe which is excellent for P-spot manipulation and to keep clean.And then there’s the latest in popularity The Rude Boy. 100% waterproof, with a removable bullet vibe that is super powerful. The nice part about the Rude Boy is that you can sit up on it and rock if you’re playing alone.There are all kinds of P-spot toys out now so here’s the link to the main Prostate Massage category if you want to peruse it. Just remember, make sure it VIBRATES. And always, always pick up a good lube for anal play.
And if you want you can always call me when you get your new toy and I can walk you through using it on yourself. 😉