Originally Published in KinkEMag.com
There’s a phrase and ideal in cuckolding that I don’t like and that’s, ‘hot wife.’
I know a lot of people in the online cuckolding forums and such volley the phrase around all the time. It basically caught on around the time cuckolding started gaining speed online many years ago. But why I find it off putting is because it divisive. It’s saying that only ‘hot wives’ participate in cuckolding and of course, that’s ridiculous. It, once again, puts an enormous amount of pressure on the woman to be perfect – like that isn’t happening on the daily anyway.
The idea that cuckolding is only for hot women is insane. It’s for ALL women who want to participate in this type of alternative relationship. I suppose one could argue that if you’re not ‘hot’ you won’t get any bulls to play with you and I can say that it’s been my observation after playing in this lifestyle for decades now that you would have to look pretty damn gnarly not to get laid. And I’m assuming you married this woman so you think she’s hot, otherwise wtf?
I’m in no way a feminist or female supremacist but I do believe that we need to empower women not make them continue to live up to retarded standards. Hot wife makes it sound like if you’re not Gigi Hadid that you can’t participate in this lifestyle which is ridiculous simply because the term is subjective, what’s hot to you is going to be different than what’s hot to me.
If you’re a woman who finds the term ‘hot wife’ empowering then by all means continue using it but to me it will always sound derogatory like something that’s called out to a woman as she’s walking past a construction site. And the funny thing is it’s only the subs who bat the phrase around.
Perhaps it’s the way it’s used, I’m still not sure. I mean a guy wearing the t’shirt in this picture, “I Love My Smokin Hot Wife,” isn’t being derogatory at all I assume he is really proud of his wife. But when I hear it used in the cuckold community it’s more like, “oh she’s not hot wife material.” WTF is that? In cuckolding it becomes very judgmental, which is why I’d like to see a little more respect and a little less labeling going on.
Whether your wife is hot or not if she’s willing to play with you this way then I would suggest getting down on your knees and thanking her because there a line of guys who would give anything to be in your position. She’s your wife, not your hot wife, cold wife, warm wife or a wife that’s on spin dry, you should respect her enough not to engage in the label.