I was asked a really good question today by D. What’s the difference between a Sugarbaby and Financial Domination? Well there are distinct differences but sometimes people blur those lines.
The true definition of a Sugarbaby is someone who is ‘kept’ by a male with a lot of money who doesn’t want the hassle of a relationship. It’s a no-strings deal. (Remember I’m speaking in generalities here, there ARE Sugarbaby males too.) It means that you as a Sugarbaby are available as both arm candy and as a sex partner whenever the Sugardaddy needs you. You are at his beck-and-call so to speak and it usually gives the Sugardaddy exclusivity. Obviously every arrangement is different but that’s generally what goes on.
However, in a financially dominated relationship, you’re no longer referred to as a Sugarbaby for the reasons above. Financial dommes very rarely, if ever, have sex with their money slaves and that is the main point behind the whole relationship. Having sex with the slave evens the playing field so it’s rarely done. The submissive male in this situation who is showering gifts and money on his goddess is doing so from the point of humiliation. He’s doing this and gets nothing in return except more humiliation. The point is to have the dominant person seduce or demand the money with nothing in return for the sub. Nor is the relationship exclusive.
It’s also possible and has happened many times that the Sugarbaby/Sugardaddy relationship turns to financial domination if the Sugarbaby finds out her Sugardaddy is a submissive male.
jimp says
November 27, 2010 at 9:37 pmexcellent
Mistress Kiara says
September 9, 2010 at 11:01 amVery well put, Goddess Sue. Honestly, the thought of Sugar Babies is an abhorrent thing to Me. I’m not dissing them or the fetish as a whole at all, but to Me, a Sugar Baby is basically a female slave to the male or, more importantly, to the money and security he offers. And that’s a situation I could never put Myself into.
Dr Sue says
September 9, 2010 at 11:28 amAh but remember Miss Kiara, there are many submissive women out there, not all of us are dominant and for the submissive female being a Sugar Baby is wonderful. You couldn’t think of giving away your control like that because you’re a dominant woman.
her_atm says
August 7, 2013 at 3:27 pmgood descriptions. obviously all relationships and arrangements are slightly unique, tho I would imagine there is much more latitude for different in the sugar relationships, whereas the financial domination ones tend to go the same route. One correction, which may not be absolute down the lines but I think is pretty typical in the findom world, you said they are not exclusive relationships. They are not for the Female Findom, She has nothing in the way of any sort of restrictions in these arrangements and is allowed more absolute power and freedom to be utterly mercenary than just about anybody in any role anywhere. But the money slaves are absolutely expected to be exclusive. definitely prohibited from submitting money or anything else to other Dom’s, and a smart Findom (and most of them are) will even put her foot down on him dating, becaue those pesky girlfriends are the real dangers. they dont tend to approve of the Money Mistresses
Dr Sue says
August 9, 2013 at 8:10 pmAnd ‘they’ tend to spend all our money! LOL 🙂 Good points her_atm!!