I hate to shit on the kumbaya moments some of the ladies in this industry try to create with their ‘Femme Domme Sisterhood’ ideas but in my opinion it’s all crap. YES CRAP!
I’d love for all of the women in female domination to live our lives in a tampon commercial; running slowly through a field of flowers on a beautiful sunny day, hair billowing, flower print dress flowing as our equally beautiful friends run towards us with their arms outstretched ready to embrace our sisters in love and respect.
Unfortunately that’s NEVER going to happen.
In reality you might find one or two ladies who will support you and be friendly as long as everyone has had their Snicker™ bars. What’s more likely to happen is those same women running toward each other with the tampons in their mouths, blood dripping down their chins, hot and sweaty in their leather and latex with a flagrum in one hand and a cell phone blasting social media in the other.
You can say I’m cynical and you’d probably be right but I like to think of my cynicism as realism. I’ve been around the block in this industry and business enough to know better.
Here’s why the ideal of women helping women in female domination won’t work and one is the same reasons why female supremacy will never work despite what some of you would like to believe.
.001% of women in either professional or online domination are in it because it’s in their soul and don’t get paid for it; the key being not getting paid for it. Of course many women are naturally dominant but once you start getting paid for it the game changes, now its business and once money comes in to play both women and men get territorial and mean.
Every week I’m approached by women telling me yet another horror story to add to my own about something yet another Domme has done to ‘destroy’ her in some way, shape or form. Just check your Twitter timeline it’s not hard to find.
These attacks can take the form of simple social media insults and unfollows to websites being hacked to real-life identities being exposed and ruined to stalking and physical confrontations. Let’s face it girls no one fights dirtier than we do. And this foolishness can come from something as simple as a ‘slave’ being ‘stolen’. (Why the quotes? Because if you guys had half a brain you’d realize there is NO LOYALTY in sex. You can’t steal something that was never yours to begin with. Men will ALWAYS be looking for the latest, shiniest, newest woman out there in the ridiculous hope they will be the answer to their domination prayers.) This is called COM-PE-TI-TION and its part of doing business. Now before all you good boys come out saying “HEY I’M NOT THAT WAY,” yes there are a few of you gentlemen who behave like a real submissive and love and adore your Domme but you boys are RARE and this is something all you ladies out there need to beat in to your brains.
As long as money is involved there will be no warm fuzzies between Dommes. Think of it this way, do you see Burger King cuddling up to McDonalds putting out commercials about the Burger Brotherhood? No! Does Ford put out advertisements to get your next car at their bestie Toyota’s dealership? No!
Sorry girls but we haven’t evolved enough to pull off any sisterhood femme domme or otherwise. And the aforementioned behavior is my case-in-point. As long as women continue to fight, scratch and claw at each other for a myriad of retarded reasons it will never happen. We fight each other instead of the men who keep us in a minority, repressed position. I’m not a feminist and even I can see that. Without getting overly political men want minorities such as women and people of color for example fighting amongst ourselves, it keeps us busy and not moving forward. Fighting equals stagnation. So the irony in all of this is, the more you bitch and moan at each other the more you’re a puppet of men, the same ones you claim to control.
Yes there is always strength in numbers and collectively mankind will always move forward in a marvelous (I’m trying not to use the word great for obvious reasons) way when we all work together for a common goal. But what is the common goal of a femme domme sisterhood? A bunch of business owners most of whom loathe each other giving virtual hugs. Until you can come up with a strategy, a mission statement that defines what you’re trying to do, you’re wasting your time. Most women who are trying to create these femme domme sisterhoods spend their time mediating audacious arguments.
Look I’m not saying you can’t acquire friendships in this business, of course you can. I have a few myself, a few as in I can count them on one hand, on purpose. But I will say that most of the women I was once friends with I am no longer for various reasons, not all of them negative but some. People come and go in your life that’s totally normal.
I’m not trying to say don’t be friendly, of course be friendly, be supportive just don’t waste all of your time trying to get everyone to get along or to try to be best buddies with everyone you encounter. This is business not a support group and in business there are no safe zones. No little rooms that you can run to and pet a puppy to make yourself feel better.
Listen if you come out of this life with one ride or die friend then you are truly blessed, in business expect none. Stop wasting your time trying to be everyone’s best friend, it won’t work and it causes you to take your eye off the prize, your business. And when it comes to business learn to mind yours and quit worrying about what everyone else is doing. Put your efforts in to refining your craft and building a niche for yourself. The best Dommes are the quiet ones not getting in to drama. They’re the ones laughing all the way to the bank while the idiot squirrels chase each other’s tails and throw nuts at one another. Cause ladies if men wanted drama, they’d go offline and listen to their wives.