Rick writes:
Dear Dr. Sue, I have just read your article on penis size and would like to know your thoughts on a recent study which found that the global average to be 5.2″ long using precise methodology rather than self reporting. The same study also found that women’s preferred average size for both one-night stands and long-term was approx. 6.3″ long / 4.8″ thick. Some observers have considered that those who come forward for tests are confident about their size as well, meaning that the real average amongst the general population could be lower. The reason I ask is that I have come across quite a few submissive cuckoldresses’ adult dating profiles who often request well-hung, VWE, 7″+ etc – so is this the size in reality they are looking for? When you look at further studies, men in excess of 7″+ are perhaps 1 in every 20, again based on data that might be generally skewed because of the subjects’ confidence in coming forward. Many thanks,
First of all Rick, the words ‘submissive cuckoldress’ to me are an oxymoron. The entire basis of cuckolding is that it is a female led relationship. But the more this catches on in the mainstream the more it’s becoming bastardized. I know that’s not your fault but just know that if you have it in your head that women take a backseat to the bull in the relationship then you have it backwards.
As for the issue with penis size. It has been my observation that most women want larger penises. They want to feel deeply penetrated. The problem is when you ask a woman what they want, they lie. They instinctively say, “Oh it’s not a problem. I don’t care how big he is.” That’s a knee jerk programmed reaction. When you press these women to choose between a 4″ and 8″ penis they always take the 8″. I showed this during my show on penis size. [Posted Below] You’ll hear when I push them past that automatic, “It’s not the size, it’s what you do with it,” reaction, that they want the bigger size.
But to be fair it does depend on the woman. Some women are frightened of big cocks. I find most ladies who are afraid of them have never had them or if they did the guy was too rough and didn’t know how to use the damn thing.
So will we ever find out what women really want? Not until we can get everyone to stop playing games and answer honestly.
I prefer cocks in the 7 inch range as I have found them to be the most pleasurable. Anything under 6 inches is not appealing nor acceptable to me as those are not cocks just dicks
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My husband has a 4 I/2 inch dick, but my Bull has a 7 inch COCK! Bigger is better!
I’m not an expert like Dr. Sue. But I feel I have enough experience with men do give an honest answer.
My bf directed me to this article because his size is a concern. He is what I would consider small, around 5 inches. But guess what!!! We have an amazing sex life. We have sex at least 3 times as week. I get great pleasure from his size. Could it be better if it was bigger? Of course it could. But having a big dick doesn’t make you a great lover.
And if I had a list of things that I look for in a partner, dick size would not be at the top. It wouldn’t be at the bottom either.
1. Confidence
2: Sense of Humor
3: Adventurous both in and out of bed.
4: Compatibility
5: Erection Quality able to get and stay erect. The harder the better
6: knows how to eat pussy
7: Dick size. Nothing below 4.5 inches for me.
8: knows how to last long enough
9: willing to learn what gets me off
10: if you have a small dick you are willing to use a large toy when I need a good stretch without your ego getting in the way
I have been told by all women I have been with that I have a small penis. it’s a little bit over 5 inch. “I don’t feel you” is not a comment a guy like! Early on, cunnilingus became normal for me. Most women are not shy about sharing these intimate details with their friends. This changes the way women look at me and also how I behave around them. I accept now being submissive in a relationship.
I think every woman want a cock at least 6 inch or more. Maybe dominant girls want a smaller one but not for satisfaction.
I think you will get as many responses as you want to ask for. There will never be a definitive answer. I think that even though every woman has her preference, situations matter. Other factors can sway most women. Sure, in her ideal case, does she have a preference? Yep. But then again, so do men.
Don’t be hung up about it Rick. Remember, you have standards too. She’s not the only one that gets to be choosy.
I’m sure you’ve been with women who weren’t your ideal in many ways. Often, I find I end up with women that I never would have chose in the abstract according to “my type.” However, this particular woman hooked me. Who would’ve thunk it?
Please don’t scour the internet trying to find out “what women really want.” It’s a dead end and it doesn’t really matter – you can always get laid if you want to.
Many thanks for your response. When I mentioned submissive, I should have been clearer in that they favour submissive sexual positions, even though they are still in control of what they want.
And what you say about penis size makes sense now because women have been programmed by society to not be sluts. I think even the stuff you read in the media about what women want is suppressed, probably because the material is produced by women representing women on a large scale, so it is good to hear the real truth from the inside – as I suspected. I think you just have to call their bluff!
Hey doc. Again you have posted an awesome article. Yes it’s true that women really prefer well hung manhood which can really make them feel like a woman. Moreover when it comes to sexual intercourse, any woman will consider other factors like time, place, mood, timing, foreplay, the personality of her partner, how horny she can be with him etc etc. A jerk with a large penis us going to be a lot less enjoyable than a skilled considerate man with an average penis. But yes size does matter. And if I have to choose I will say I find a large penis much more exciting and pleasurable. The sight of a large penis is very exciting and since the pleasure of being penetrated comes from feeling stretched and filled up, a large penis is going to feel better. Besides multiple times orgasms are also a part of great sexual experience. Having said that I must say, it also depends on the woman’s level of comfort. Some can handle large penis and some may not. But sex doesn’t only mean intercourse. It’s a whole canvas and the more color and shades you use the more colorful and gorgeous your canvas is.
Your posts and articles are really awesome DOC. LOVE to read them.
Thanks.
M.