Hi i am a married guy who about 10 years ago lost everything to a Wonderful Mistress. i swore i would never do this again but there’s always this burning desire deep inside me to do it all over again.??
Let me say that this is a common question or inquiry that I get a lot. Why is that after losing everything, or throwing out my lingerie, or not going to the glory holes do I continue to crave it? The answer is basically two fold. In one respect you could be having addiction issues. Mind you in Jamie’s case after 10 years you’d think he would be okay by now. Truth is if it’s an addiction issue you never lose your craving for it. Just like a smoker never stops craving the cigarette or the alcoholic still craves alcohol. That’s why you find most refer to themselves as ‘reformed’ or ‘recovering.’ We’ve all heard that an alcoholic is always an alcoholic. Same thing here.
The other issue with this is that in many cases if it’s a true fetish it’s an innate part of who you are. You can’t run from who you are. You can shelve it for a while but the desire will always be there. The key is obviously not to indulge if you know this is a behavior that you cannot control for whatever reason. Easier said than done but it really is that clear. You need to be responsible for your own behavior. Will you have cravings? Yup, but it’s up to you if you cave to your crave.
I do want to point one thing out though. Notice how Jamie refers to his Mistress that he lost everything to as WONDERFUL. That tells me that even though he lost his shirt he still thinks of her fondly. This what the naysayers of the world need to understand and let go of. If someone wants to indulge in Financial Domination or any other fetish because it makes them feel good, then let it go and let them do what they want. Like children you have to let them fall and learn on their own. It’s not your concern. Stop condemning what you don’t understand.
I’m off my soapbox now 🙂