I get a lot of questions regarding humiliation and fetish. Some guys don’t think it’s good for them even though they enjoy it. Some guys think they’re going nuts because they shouldn’t enjoy it. It can be a confusing subject that needn’t be confusing.
Humiliation usually runs alongside another fetish such as Financial Domination or Feminization for example and is very common. In the case of Financial Domination some men enjoy the humiliation of having had their wallets raped. But there are submissives who just love being humiliated, period. That usually runs side-by-side with small penises. They love being told that their penises aren’t worth fucking, that they aren’t alpha males and never will be or that they just don’t deserve to be having sex in the first place. Whatever the enjoyment the key that you need to remember is ENJOYMENT!
Is humiliation bad for you? That’s a fine line that you need to monitor yourself. Here’s a rule of thumb that I teach; if when you’re humiliated you feel really bad either while it’s being done or afterward then yes this will have a detrimental effect on your self-esteem. However if you find it erotic and a turn-on and you don’t come out of a session feeling like a sack of shit then it’s fine to play.
And yes I realize that feeling like a sack of shit is part of the turn-on, hence the word humiliation but that’s why I say it’s a very fine line. If it’s just a straight turn on and when it’s all over you can compartmentalize that it’s all in name of a good time you’re doing great and go ahead and indulge. However if you start to feel like you aren’t worth anything, that you really do suck as a human being then we have a problem.
Just because you’re submissive and a Domme is telling you you’re worthless doesn’t mean you’re worthless as a human being. (Sorry ladies but submissives have a place in this world too and a valuable one at that.) Everyone has a place in this world, a reason to be here and joy to bring to themselves. How you get your joy is your own business but it should never, ever be at the expense of your own self-esteem. Everyone is worthy of something. Your dick may be too small but you will be very useful in other ways.
So I reiterate my point that if the humiliation is compartmentalized and you use it to get off and you’re cool with yourself when it’s all over, GO FOR IT. But if you come out of a session honestly thinking you’re useless, STOP PLAYING!