Are Dominatrixes Sex Workers?

Irony; the use of words to convey a meaning that is opposite of its literal meaning, an intention or attitude opposite to that which is actually or ostensibly stated.

A dominatrix walks in to a bar. No actually a dominatrix goes to Las Vegas to take advantage of the AVN Awards/Expo and subsequently the influx of horny men to do some sessions, which is a savvy business move. The same dominatrix then spends an inordinate amount of time on social media telling her ‘potential clients’ that if they attended or have anything to do with the aforementioned AVN Awards/Expo not to bring, well, their disgusting selves to her door. That does leave one scratching one’s head, doesn’t it Mr. Rufie, I mean Cosby?

Let’s get this straight for anyone out there who thinks they are better than anyone else period, but since we’re only dealing with this one issue for today we’ll narrow it down to the sex industry, if you think that you out rank someone based on what they do in this industry you’re a complete idiot.

This story of the judgmental domme brings to mind a time a few years ago when I was asked this fart in the wind question and I thought the entire subject had died a very foolish death but alas, who was I kidding? The question in question is, “Are dominatrixes sex workers?”

I sigh a lot these days. But this subject is yet another sigh worthy non-issue issue.

So in answer to the question, “Are dominatrixes sex workers?” Fuck yes.

Let’s make this crystal clear here:

If your purpose either for a living, as a side-line business, or as a hobby is to facilitate the sexual arousal of another human being AND you get money for that service…

…you ARE a sex worker!

Where’s Maury when I need him.

It doesn’t matter what you do for that money. Street hooker, stripper, dominatrix, porn actor/actress, escort, erotic massage therapist, erotic hypnotist, erotic writer, sex therapist, fetish model, erotic photographer, amateur clip producer, financial dominatrix, sex shop owner and any other obscure sexual service, if you receive money for what you do you are a sex worker. End of.

If the next argument that shoots through your mind is, “well I don’t have sex with my clients so I’m not a sex worker,” nice try. You do not have to have actual penetrative sex to be a sex worker and you need to re-read this over and over until it sinks in; “If your purpose either for a living, as a side-line business, or as a hobby is to facilitate the sexual arousal of another human being AND you get money for that service you ARE a sex worker.”

So now that we have that cleared up the idea that our uppity bitch domme thinks she is in any way above ANYONE participating in or having anything to do with the AVN weekend becomes even more ridiculous. But more so it shows shame in her game. Honey if you can’t say you’re a sex worker then you are in the wrong business and don’t think for one minute your social media behavior is in any way dominant because, it’s not.

Look, whether you like it or not we are all sex workers and as such, should be supporting one another not tearing each other down, trying to one-up each other or divide ourselves in to smaller groups with some fucked up hierarchy (except in D & s, I know don’t knit pick). And as I just said, if being a ‘sex worker’ leaves a bad taste in your mouth you need to re-think your decision to do whatever it is you happen to do.

We’re SUPPOSED to be the ones with the open minds, yet this community opted to use social media to launch a vicious attack on an adult film star to where she felt the need to kill herself over defending her right to choose who she filmed and thereby shared her body with.

Come on you guys we should be the ambassadors of how ‘it’s’ done. Show everyone how the sex industry supports each person in the industry regardless of what they do. I hate labels but society is always hell bent on using them so wear ‘sex worker’ with pride. I do. I’ve never been ashamed of what I do/did regardless of what it was. My tiny family knows what I do and supports it. My extended family judged me but I don’t associate with them so I don’t care what they think.  Fuck you Tracee! They barely know me so judge away.  Hell when I had my sex shop my 75 year old mother worked there.  That sometimes freaked the customers out but that was half the fun.

Not one of you is better than the next, whether you have sex with your clients or not. So the long and the short of this deeply stupid issue is, GET OVER YOURSELVES.  If you’ve sucked back so much of your own ego inflating PR Kool Aid that you think you out rank anyone, you need to sit the fuck down, shake you’re damn head and get a colonic because you’re so full of shit you need to be Roto Rooter-ed.

I’m all for confidence and pumping yourself up, we ALL need that. But when you over inflate yourself to the point of looking at anything else as garbage, you need to let some of the air out of your head. And I understand that when guys are telling you you’re amazing all day long it can go to your head. It can.  This is why you need someone in your life to give you that smack in the face to remind you that you shit the same as everyone else and girl, yes it stinks.

Here let’s go all zen and think of it this way; if it breathes, it is not only viable but is also purpose driven the same as you and deserves respect until proven otherwise.

Translated; If you don’t have something nice to say, STFU.