Rick in the UK writes:
Dear Dr. Sue,
I came across a cuckold’s blog who was in awe of black men and their size, whilst talking on behalf of white men being totally inadequate with regard to all this, which gave me a thought; are most beta males potentially cuckolds who have been prevented by society from being their true selves?
I only ask because I consistently notice that white beta males, and particularly millennial men, don’t question multiculturalism, unlike Alpha males, who surely instinctively see other tribes as a threat to their own women and everything else. It has also been suggested that white single women favour multiculturalism because it is nothing more than a giant shit test for their own men and the patriarchy as a whole too.
First of all thank you Rick for writing in such an awesome question. Unfortunately it’s a question that has no real definitive answer. Only because when we start to talk sociology there are an infinite number of possible outcomes. I think the key to your questions lies in one word, ‘most.’
…are most beta males potentially cuckolds who have been prevented by society from being their true selves?
The answer to that is it’s possible. Where it unravels is in difference and choice. I think many beta males would love to be cuckolded but not all. I will say that I do believe that society prevents all beta males from being their true selves regardless of their individual kinks.
We raise all of our male children to be strapping, alpha men. We push them in to sports, we shove toy guns in their hands at a young age and in many cases we even teach them to stuff their feelings down. It’s sad and it’s wrong. It puts undue pressure on men to be something deep down inside they aren’t.
I can’t tell you the number of calls I get from men who are in complete inner turmoil about the fact that they shouldn’t be having submissive thoughts at all. That it means they’re weak. And THAT is sad and wrong. Submissive doesn’t equal weak. It never has but pop culture and the media would like you to believe that it does.
As for the multicultural aspects of cuckolding I can tell you that you’re right there are two schools of thought. There are many black men, regardless of their D&s position who feel that interracial breeding is actually ruining the black race. That by breeding with a white female you are essentially diluting the race. Which in biological terms it does.
But there is also the school of thought that by breeding with what society deems as the perfect female which unfortunately is a blonde haired, blue-eyed, white woman, that you are taking the best of both races and combining it to be a ‘perfect child.’ And when you think about it both theories are correct.
Now when it comes to women and multiculturalism you’ll have that same multi-layered effect. Are some women banging black men as a giant fuck you to white guys and possible men in general? I personally don’t know of anyone with that motive but I have no doubt that it’s out there. Just as much as the reparation thread runs between alpha black males and cuckolded white males. If you think that black men aren’t fucking white women in front of their husbands because it’s another giant FUCK YOU to the white man you’d be mistaken. They are and they are more than happy to tell you that.
From my own experience and those of other FLR wives who are in to interracial sex, remember not everyone is, we fuck black men because they fuck better than white men. It’s really that simple. I have found that even the most alpha of white men don’t hold a candle to black men. Sorry gentlemen but my beautiful boys of color are better at it than you. Don’t believe me? You can test it yourself simply by analyzing porn. There is an innate quality that black men have that isn’t in the white male; primal confidence. And it cannot be replicated.
White, alpha, males come from a place of desperation and fear. They try too hard. They are constantly trying to prove their alpha-ness. But black alpha males don’t need to; they just know they’re the best. That’s as simple as I can boil it down. And that confidence plays a huge roll in the bedroom.
Look at racist white males for example. Now there is an exaggerated form of what I’m talking about. They fear men of color. Why? Because they know that they suck and they know what they did and they fear it being done to them. Even if it’s not conscious, which it won’t be, that fear is being replicated generation after generation. Whereas alpha black males are more like the characters portrayed in Black Panther. There’s my pop culture reference for the day. But do you see the confidence that every person of color portrayed in that film? Wakanda Bitch!! That’s what white men fear. That’s why they teach their sons to shoot and protect their poor, frail, little white wives from the big, bad, black man. It’s why they sleep with guns under their pillows. They know if given a chance their frail, white wife would probably have a kick ass time with the scary, black man. And because of that fear now anyone of color has to sleep with a gun under their pillow because they fear getting their ass capped by a nervous white dude.
Okay that’s a bit over simplified but it illustrates my point. You see how the confidence is different? That plays out in the bedroom and women love it. And beta white males love it because they know they can’t compete. It’s part of the mind fuck. They know they’re looking at a more superior race and more superior cock than their own and they LOVE it.
So you see how there is no real answer because there are so many different motivations, opinions and feelings involved.
What do you think? Sound off in the comments below.