This came to my attention when a new client of mine came to me for advice on cuckolding but with a bit of a twist. He and his wife are faced 
with a medical problem that makes him impotent. He started doing some research and found out about cuckolding and proposed the idea to his wife who was a bit hesitant at first but soon warmed to the idea when faced with the possibility of the rest of her life being sexless.
What confused him was all the information ‘out there’ describes cuckolding primarily as a kink and this caused him some concern since this isn’t the head space either one of them was coming from. He was actually worried about not ‘getting it right,’ he thought that he HAD to take it from a fetish perspective. I want to reiterate once again that there is no right or wrong way to cuckold or for that matter to do anything in the kink world, with the exception of Japanese rope tying. 🙂
He didn’t want the whole humiliation aspect to it or any kind of fluffing or feminization. He just wanted the chance to watch his wife be sexually satisfied and to be involved in her pleasure in some way. Yes they could go the oral and toy route but as most of you girls out there know, a toy is okay but it definitely doesn’t replace the real thing.
His wife wanted nothing to do with the bull selection and has left that up to him which is actually a really good idea. For this gentleman to find and present a bull male and then to watch HIS selection give her pleasure is so very important to him.
So for any of you guys out there who are doing research and trip over this post, NO you can’t get it wrong and you can create a scenario in any way that pleases and works for the two of you. There are no rules.
I got DE in my early 50s and my wife and I went 10 years without sex. This was really bothering her and we tried the toys but they got old and unsatisfying for her. I suggested we add another man to our bed. She was skeptical at first…worries about getting disease, her body shape, would she be good enough for him, etc. but after a few months asked if I was serious. i said yes and with a few days we had about 100 responses to my very detailed ad. We got responses from men 17 to 80 and a few women too. I let her make the decision on who she wanted and after whittling down the pile and communicating with five of them (emails only) she picked out the one she wanted to meet first. A 33 year old single school teacher who lived just a few miles from us. My wife and I went to his house and we had a long discussion to work out compatibility for all of us and then, satisfied, I left her with him for the evening. I picked her up a few hours later and she was in bliss….she said it was the best sexual experience of her life and I was really thrilled for her (I get high on cuckold humiliation) and she has been seeing him for 5 years now. Sometimes at our place, sometimes at his. Sometimes they go away for a weekend. What started out as a f***buddy moved after 3 years to a boyfriend and he is now almost a second husband. We are all happy together and I can’t be happier for her. She was depressed before she met her guy and now is a completely different alive and sexy mid-60s woman.
How old are you, people? I’m 28 and having similar choices to make which is an unpleasant situation, but that seems too early for me.
You mean you have erectile dysfunction at 28? If that is true, please see a doctor if you haven’t already. I’m sorry if you have a pre-existing medical condition; I don’t mean to offend. However, if that’s not the case, it could indicate a heart condition. So, yes it is too early for you.
Pat is right Xx. If you are experiencing erectile issues at your age there is quite possibly something wrong medically. Unless you are taking some type of medication that would be interferring with your erection I would be getting to the doctor as this could be a sign of a larger issue.
My wife of 20 years was sick of not having sex due to my erectile dysfunction so she said she had to go get sex elsewhere. I never would have imagined how good it would have worked out. She sees 3 different men in the area and she is completely satisfied at least four times a week. We have grown closer since she started this 3 years ago.
Congratulations on proving my point. This is how it’s done right. Way to go!!
I have erectile dysfunction to. My gf is way over sexed. So she has stud service 2 or 3 times a week. I realize it’s just a handicap on my part. But why should my gf suffer.
My handicap was interfering with her happiness. Now she’s so happy and I’m happy for her. PS Viagra made me sick.