In a word, for most women, YES! Okay, I understand that some women say they really don’t care but they are few and far between and if you really nailed them down and got them to confess they’d tell you that yes the size of a man’s penis matters.
Now let me qualify that. I’m sure that if you’re a five foot tall woman and some guy came at you with a 10″ cock my guess would be you’d be a little apprehensive but even that’s not always the case.
First off we need to establish what the average white male’s penis size really is and that would be anywhere between 5.5″ and 6.5″. If you fall below the 5.5″ you’re getting in to territory that would be considered small. Remember of course that all of this is also relative to the size of your body. Obviously there are many variations on that average but we’re talking generalities again. (Yeah I know I say that a lot but I’m trying to reiterate that I speak in generalities. There will be exceptions to all the rules of course.) Generally speaking though, the stereotypes you hear about are true and there are a lot of women out there who would consider 6.5″ to be small.
For the female who likes larger men and in my own opinion, a woman wants to feel penetrated and unless she is of a very tiny stature 3″ or 4″ just isn’t going to cut it. Most women when faced with a man of this size who has just dropped his pants will smile and use the time during sex to figure out what she’s going to take to work for lunch the next day and you’ll never hear about it, but you’ll also never hear from her again either. So don’t go thinking that because she didn’t say anything it makes you a stud.
We also have to factor in thickness or girth here too. Many women will forego length for girth because it can be just as satisfying but again not in the 3″ or 4″ range. When you get in to sizes that small and lower it’s not likely you’ll have a huge amount of girth anyway and if you did it would look very weird. Think about it.
Most women learn to ‘settle.’ They figure if he’s not cheating and he has a job and teeth they’ll deal with the lack of size. Those are the women who say it doesn’t matter to them but I will guarantee you that if you gave them the chance to have something much bigger, they’d take it. And once again, in my opinion, this is why cuckolding is becoming more popular. A woman deserves that sexual satisfaction and as men have been saying for many, many years, ‘it’s just sex.’
Hi Dr Sue,
ive always considered myself average But now im confused? Are others just being nice to spare me my feelings. Hmmmm never thought much about girth as well. Are there otherways i can make up for this
gweggy
We have been over this privately Gweggy. The answer is NO. You are below average.
Yes Dr Sue
its hurts to hear but i value your opinion. im having trouble accepting. Maybe i am not measuring correctly . What can a smaller guy do to compensate. My bigger belly doest not help either.
gweggy
I fall into the small territory with a 4” dick and have found that size really does matter. I have had woman look genuinely disappointed when I have taken my pants off, I’ve been made fun of and denied sex. That is why I’m a cuckold now.
I just read these threads about 2 years after they were originally written. I have to say, truth bomb put into words her experience very descriptively and this really helped me to understand how and why women feel as they do with penis size. I am just about average in size and have been trying to engage my wife to try bigger dildos. She told me for a long time that she did not want to try because, “that is not what she has.” I suspected after this comment that she knew it would feel good but did not want to open Pandora’s box. She was afraid to maybe? Since then she has allowed something bigger but always claims she likes me better. She also will only try the bigger dildo once in a great while. She was a virgin when we married and that is one of The reasons I want her to try something bigger to expand her universe about sex. Any suggestions on how to get her to open up to this idea even further than she is now? No pun intended of course. Thanks for your help.
Hello, been reading around. Most of these stories sound fake. Then someone comes in saying it isn’t about size, and they are right to a certain degree. I am here to tell you my real experience. Right to it.
I had been with a couple of guys with larger dicks.
However, I was drunk, and don’t really remember the feeling.
So to me, size wasn’t a big deal.
Fast forward.
I had a boyfriend for 4 years, I will call him Tim for this. He was not small. A little above average. We had measured it and it was around 6 inches in length and 5 inches in girth.
He was always trying to increase his size by using methods like pumping and jelqing. I know this because he talked about it alot, I have seen him do it.
He did get better erections, and maybe a little thicker from it, but it wasn’t anything I could feel a difference in.
He gave me the best sex I have ever had. He could give me an orgasm really fast.
He was so hung up on dick size, we would argue about it. I was an idiot when we first met and told him I had some big dicks, but to drunk to remember. That I do remember making some crazy noises, but again drunk.
He would always bring up how I don’t make alot of noises with him and bring that up. I mean, I moaned here and there. I am a little shy and don’t make alot of noises. It still feels very good, but I don’t make noises like a fake porn star.
He would tell me that he knows that he is good, that he can satisfy me, but he knows that if I was to be sober and into it, a big dick that fills me up, would be more satisfying and would not just feel like an slender object thrusting in and out. He would say he knows he is not stretching me out like he wish he could. He would say that he feels like he is holding me back from experiencing great sex.
Sometimes while doing it with Tim, it would get real wet, and I would think I was numb, and he would wipe away the wetness and I could feel friction again. He would say “it feels like I wasn’t even doing anything to you, like you couldn’t even feel it, I couldn’t feel much tightness” He always said I had a tight vagina, but after about a couple of mintues he felt “a bigger dick could go in here right now, I am just not doing any damage here, I don’t see how you can feel anything.”
He researched and mentioned that it is from me acutally being very aroused, and my vagina opeing to accomodate. He would turn that into, “accomadate a bigger cock”/.
Tim would also get into it and slip out. Many times during an orgasm, I think my vagina would tighten and push him out. It really would ruin the experience somewhat. Felt like I was cumming with a ghost dick or something.
He mentioned getting a toy dildo and using it on me, but I wasn’t into that.
He mentioned this thing that goes over his penis, and showed it to me online, and said it feels like the real thing. He said that he would start out with his dick, work me for a couple of minutes, then slip on the sleeve thingy, and slowly put it in, and that I would like it. However, I was pretty sure that I wouldn’t, and would always tell him that he was good enough, how else could I cum so fast. He always felt like I was lying, but I was being truthful.
He was always angry about this, so sure that I would enjoy it. He was so angry that I did not want to at least experiment or something. I would just think back to how I had a big dick before. My friend slept with one of the same guys, and told me how big the guys dick was, and how good it was. I told her that I don’t think size matter. That my current boyfriend is no where near that size, and the sex is better with him than with the guy with the big dick. She knew I had been with him in the past. It was a one time drunk thing.
Fast forward. We break up. I actually wanted to get married to him.However it did not work out.
I am going to speed up this next part to get to the freaking point.
I end up getting with a guy that my friends hooked me up with.
We hit it off. I can feel his dick in his pants and it’s pretty big. I am actually excited, and feel guilty because I was always denying it to my other boyfriend. My other boyfriend Tim would always say if I wasn’t in the mood “if I pulled out a big dick right now, you would be so excited and want to use it, touching it would excite you more…”
We go back to his place and make out. I am not big into sucking dick, it’s not my thing, but I will lick and suck a little. I pulled out his dick and finally got to see what all the fuss was about. I held my hand at the base, put my other hand over the first hand, and there was still about 2 or 3 inches sticking out of my hands. Tim would barely stick out, just the head. I could not fit my hand around this guys dick. It was way thicker than Tim’s. I was actually concerned. I asked how thick and if he ever measured it, and he said he had measured around 6 1/2 inches in girth, and almost 8 inches in length. I could not fit my mouth around his dick. I could only lick around it.
We go to his room, and I take off my panties, and he walks over and I am just like “this is really about to happen” and at the same time thinking “it’s probably not going to be any different, and he probably won’t even last as long as Tim”.
He goes down on me, gets me wet.
He comes up, and I reach down and grab his dick and put it at the entrance. I am pretty tight because I have not had something this big in me.
He was gentle, slowly pushed, and moved around. I could feel a small peircing stretch happening and made a little noise. It didn’t heard, just took me by surprise.
It started to work its way in, and right when he got the head in, I felt this stretched out feeling I have never felt. It was not really painful, but I could tell there was a big dick about to be in my vagina. He slowly slid his dick in me, working it in slowly.
At that moment I realized that my boyfriend was right. This feels so much more exciting. I can actually feel like I am being stretched. As he slides the whole thing in, I start to feel something in the back I had never felt, i felt like he was entering a part that had never been stimulated. Now, he was not just sliding it in, he ws going in about a half inch, then pulling back, then pushing it in a little further, then pulling back a little, then a little further. Slowly working it in.
I immediatly begin to feel like I am going to orgasm so I stop him from moving because of that. He then moves just a little and I cum.
Now usually, with Tim, if I cum first, I will let him finish, but I don’t have much sensation, and it feels numb.
So I figured I would let him finish.
Well, as he begins to slowly slide it all the way in, I feel something different again, until it is all the way in. I am getting excited again. He doesn’t even have to move that much and it is so stimulating. I do not feel numb, I feel good.
He starts to work it and it feels like I never came.
Let me be descriptive. This big dick in me does not even have to move very much. Any small movement I can feel far more than when I was with Tim. Tim was right, and big dick barely has to move to excite me. Tim said it would create more pressure on my G spot from being stretched. That is why he wanted to use the sleeve on me. Now I am regretting it. This feels so damn good. The feeling of being stretched, like I can actually really feel that there is a dick in me. Not that I could not feel Tim. But comparing, if Tim went in and out, I would just feel a little stimulation and stimulation from him going all the way in and his body touching my clit area.
For some reason, I could feel both clit and internal feelings I had never felt. I researched and found that a thicker penis stretches the sides where the clits has nerve endings or something, so I get more clit stimulation without actual direct clit stimulation.
Long story short. A bigger dick did make me more excited, I crave his dick all the time and thought about it all the time, and still do. We have been together 3 years, and everytime I see or think about it, I want it in me.
I do make noises of pleasure and moan. I have no choice to. It just happens. I never had that with Tim.
I never had a big dick sober, and now that I have, I can tell you it is far more pleasurable and does not just feel like a noodle slipping in and out. There is no need to dry off the wetness because I feel numb. The feeling was actually that I could have a larger dick. I always feel this bigger dick. I always know it is in there.
The bigger dick does not slip out during an orgasm.
It has slipped out before, but only a couple times.
Me and the big dick guy do have some issues right now and may split up in the future. I almost want to get back with tim and let him use that sleeve thing he had.
Tim made noises during sex. The big dick guy not as much.
I felt like I was really pleasing Tim when he made noises, and I don’t get that from big dick guy. However, the sex is more intense I will say.
So all these girls saying a big dick doesn’t matter, or size doesn’t matter.
Here is to what degree.
An average dick will get you off, yes.
An average dick could be your lifelong companion.
However, if you have never had a bigger dick, what are you comparing the average dick to?
I am telling you a bigger dick is better once you have had one.
NOT so huge that it hurts evertime.
Just one that has to be worked in, and once in, it’s all good.
There are things a big dick can do, that an average dick can’t.
So stop freaking lying, and stop giving input if you have not had a good big dick.
Very interesting and insightful truthbomb.
I dont think any man should be ashamed to use prosthetic support, if that is what it takes to pleasure his woman. After all, her needs come first.
Pete
There is so much misinformation and so many bogus products surrounding penis enlargement that when they discover the solution, no one will believe. So here goes; any male can permanently increase length and girth in the same way a bodybuilder adds mass and becomes larger. As you stress tissue, the body goes into a natural process of creating new cells making you larger. The question is not whether permanent enlargement is possible but instead, how do you safely stress penile tissue to promote cell growth?
Hi Dr. Sue,
OK, so let’s take it as a fact that “size matters.” Of course it matters, but it’s not the only thing that matters. I guess that’s what you mean when you say most women settle. Don’t we all settle for our partner in some way? I mean, nobody’s perfect. Does that mean we should have a separate partner for each of the traits our partner lacks? I would say no.
Cuckolding, as presented here, seems like it’s for women who want the benefits of monogamy but not have to be monogamous and not have to sneak around. I’m sorry to say but that just sounds selfish and immature. It also shows a great deal of insecurity on the part of the woman to need her old stand-by waiting at home, while she has her flings with men who can’t provide anything but a big dick.
Make up your mind, lady. What do you want? Life’s all about making choices and yes, sometimes you have to “settle” in some respect in order to get most of what you want. It’s a matter of setting priorities. If she wants to be free to cruise the meat market then by all means, stay single. After all, a woman’s entitled to sexual satisfaction, right? But she’s not entitled to step out on her monogamous partner whenever she needs a fix.
If penis size is really a deal maker or breaker for you, if seven inches is the minimum MUST-HAVE, then keep searching until you find it. Don’t shack up with a four or five inch man who devotes all of himself to you and then go prowl the bars every night looking for your stud.
To the woman who feels the cuckolding is selfish and immature. Perhaps, but maybe we’re all a bit selfish and immature.
Am I selfish and immature because I want to be with a beautiful woman? Well, I am with one. I have a skinny little dick and I’m with a beautiful woman. I love her and she loves me. We have a great relationship.
Early on, we both admitted my inability to satisfy her sexually was getting in the way. I could have become all indignant. She could have decided to forgo the joys of great sex. But we loved each other.
Long story short … no pun intended: I’m monogamous, she’s free. Of course, I wish I could satisfy her, but I can’t. What I can do is not be selfish. What I can do is not insist that she make do with my sub par equipment.
The first three months, it was great. She dated all she wanted. We continued to have sex. After that though, she became less and less willing. Soon it was down to the occasional hand job. It was about five months in that, while giving me her perfunctory hand job, she informed me that jerking me off was tedious. She suggested I finish myself off. I was embarrassed and objected but she insisted. She opened her shirt with a Cheshire Cat grin. I knew at that moment she’d touched my little dick for the last time.
Since then, we’ve agreed that I’m allowed to jerk off to BBC porn only. I know that’s weird but once she found out it turned me on she immediately loved the idea.
We’ve been together for four years now. It might be unorthodox but it works for us. I’m a great provider and dependable partner for her. I get to have a gorgeous woman on my arm. She’s very discrete and never embarrasses me in public.
She gets to have real men in the sack and have the great sex she both needs and deserves.
So, I don’t know. Doesn’t seem selfish or immature to me. We’re two adults who have found a way to be happy together. Considering how many unhappy marriages there are, it seems quite mature to me.
John Q
Congrats!!! You make it work for you as a couple and nothing else matters.