I see you there lying in the gutter with your phone in your hand shaking, perspiring, your mouth dry, feverishly checking the listings of your favorite phone sex site or chat line for the latest Dominatrix like a junkie trying to score a hit to make the ‘sickness’ end; jumping from one Domme to another in the quest for your next erotic high. After all you never know, there could be the PERFECT DOMME ‘out there’ and you might miss out.
Or perhaps you’re that sad little money slave who thinks, ‘hell it’s so fucking hot serving one Domme, imagine what it would be like serving two or MORE!’ Your mind exploding at the thought of being under the spell of a handful of powerful women all of whom have the ability to pull your strings and make you completely weak with their demands as you watch your 401K dwindle.
If either of these scenarios rings a bell I hate to break it to you but you’re deluding yourself. You’re also cheating yourself out of the most intense submissive experience of your life – serving one woman.
I can hear you attention deficit types now, ‘MY GOD HOW BORING!’ But hear me out.
I know it’s hard for you not to think newer is better!! Think about it, what could be better than a direct from the factory shiny, brand new Domme?
Simple, new usually means inexperienced, the ‘I’ in inexperience becomes capitalized the younger she is. Many women trip over online domination and think that it just means being a bratty bitch and the money will come rolling in. Most of these women are NOT dominant. They’re playing a part, a role. You’ll know the minute she picks up the phone and DOESN’T LISTEN TO YOU! Or worse, reads from a script. Newer usually means MONEY WASTED.
Gentlemen I can’t make this point any clearer to you, there’s a reason why you keep coming across the same names over and over when you do your frantic searching for NEW, it’s because they are good at what they do. You don’t stay in this business long if you suck at it.
What happens when you keep jumping from Domme to Domme or serving several at one time is you completely miss out on being submissive. The whole point of being submissive is putting yourself in the control of your Mistress (Master), no questions asked. Why? Because it’s only through the deep connection you have with your Mistress that you really feel the intense devotion and love for her. It’s through this devotion that you truly reach profound levels of submission.
Here’s what you miss out on:
You open your eyes for the first time in the morning to greet your day and the first thought to go through your mind is, ‘what can I do today to please HER?’ While you work throughout the day you thoughts remain on HER. Your love for HER. The pleasure SHE gives you. The time you might be granted with HER. You race home to see if SHE’S online. If it’s a really good day SHE might have posted a note or picture about what SHE did that day. You live for the moment when you can click that button to send HER your tribute or buy her that gift knowing that you’ve just made HER life a little better. As you close your eyes for the last time at night you’re filled with the excitement of what you can do for HER tomorrow.
You don’t get that by bouncing around from one woman to the next or serving a pile of women. You’re completely missing the point of servitude and submission by participating in this type of behavior. If deep submission isn’t your main reason behind your quest for the perfect Domme then I question your motives and your ability to submit.
Some of you will always be ‘subs of convenience’ and will only be submissive when the mood hits you once or twice a month and that’s all well and good but don’t cry about not being ‘fulfilled’ as a sub. The only way you will really experience meaningful submission is by serving one person and devoting yourself only to them. Otherwise you’re wasting your money and your time.