Mistress Kiara shares her take on the fallacy of pimping out sissies in this guest blog:
All professional Dommes have their favorite fetishes; those kinks that, when a sub approaches you and requests them, make you super excited for your first session with that new client. I find Myself cycling through fetishes as the years pass and My likes and dislikes change, and for right now ‘feminization’ is near the top of My list. But as any Pro Domme will tell you, there is nothing more upsetting than someone approaching you for your current favorite kink, getting you fired up to play, and then telling you that what they REALLY want is something completely different. What I’m alluding to, of course, is the sissy fantasy of being “pimped out” by a Mistress.
“But what’s wrong with that!?” I hear some of you demand. “Sounds HOT!” And, to be fair, you’re 100% correct. It does SOUND hot. It’s a great, sexy fantasy! But what isn’t hot is the reality of setting something like that up…
First off, most of the ones who want to be feminized and pimped out are “needy subs.” They demand far more attention than most other subs. Many often request assignments, sessions, progress reports, or approval for something every day, sometimes even more often than that. And, for the most part, subs who request this fetish don’t want to pay, which is a big problem on its own.
“But Mistress!” they protest, “Once you completely feminize me and pimp me out you’ll make SO MUCH MONEY off of me!” Sounds great, doesn’t it? And it would be, if it were feasible or true.
What do you think of when you hear the word “career” or even just “job”? Usually, it’s something stable, and hopefully profitable enough to live off of. So what does it take to make that kind of money as a professional whore?
Your first option is making a listing on a website like Niteflirt. Are you proficient in graphic design and HTML? Better start learning, or else hire someone who is since you’ll also need to make attractive listings for your new phone sex lines. Do you have a bunch of Twitter followers or some other social media platform which you can legitimately use to send traffic and potential clients to your listings? Niteflirt has a small customer base, but if you really want to make money at it you’ll have to find ways to promote yourself. And that’s just the technical issues…
Do you have a career or even just a job already? Most adults do, so when are you actually going to be available to take calls and promote yourself as a phone whore? Being successful on a website like Niteflirt requires that you keep a frequent (and preferably consistent) schedule. Can you handle doing that? If you have a roommate or family who lives with you, will they be accepting of your new job, especially knowing that all of that potential income is going to a random Mistress from the internet?
But you’ll have your Mistress as a boss, right? Not necessarily. I bet your Mistress has a phone sex line of her own that she’ll need to be doing all of the aforementioned work for. Does she have time to do that for yours too? Probably not. And even if she DOES agree to act as your ‘boss,’ what’s she going to do if you slack off? Fire you? So what? You’re not actually keeping any of the money you generate with the listings, so is that really a penalty? Will that threat even motivate you? I doubt it.
On top of the logistical issues, I’d also like to make a point to mention that phone sex isn’t what you think it is. You think you’ll be talking to all men with huge dicks who want you to suck them off, right? Probably not. More than likely, you’ll be talking to other submissive men who want to chat with you about your shared kinks at least some of the time. How do I know? Go to Niteflirt and search for submissive males. Hard to find, aren’t they? Even the submissive males category is full of male doms. Look at the top-rated submissive male profile. The one I found was santtxx. Look at his feedback. “So nice to be able to chat openly with a fellow BBC worshipper,” and “He understands. Great call,” and so on. Sure, there are a few dominant men, but there are also quite a few submissive men too.
What about being a whore in real-time? Take it from someone who does real-time sessions; it’s even harder than phone sex. With FOSTA/SESTA shutting down Backpage and Craigslist personals, where are you going to promote yourself as a male escort? And if you find an interested guy, where are you going to meet him to do the deed? Meeting at his place could be dangerous. Can you invite him to yours? You could rent a hotel room or a room at a local dungeon, but that’s going to cut into your profits.
I hate to completely burst your bubble, but even if you can somehow get past all of the issues laid out up until this point, there’s another major issue. Nobody wants to pay for a sissy whore, either on the phone or in real life.
Let’s look at santtxx’s profile again. He has a rating of 192. Without going into the logistics of how Niteflirt calculates rating, that averages out to roughly 158 minutes of on-phone time (assuming no pay-to-view or goody bag content was sold and rated). Since he charges $0.85 per minute, and since Niteflirt takes 35% of every transaction, we can calculate his lifetime income for that listing to be roughly $90. His other listing has more feedback, at 1196. Using the same calculation, that’s about 1094 minutes, but since he only charges $0.79 per minute on that listing it brings his total to be around $560. Not bad, except for the fact that his account was created in 2009. That means that, over the course of 11 years, he’s made well under $1000 (unless he’s been getting some SERIOUS tributes).
As far as finding someone willing to pay for you to let you suck their cock or fuck your ass, think of this: Why would anybody do that when there are free apps out there like Grindr, Doubelist, and Fabswingers? These apps are full of thirsty men looking to offer their bodies up for free. So why would someone pay for yours? It just doesn’t make sense. Sure, there might be a few, but I would be shocked to learn of any sissy male escorts who were making enough to support a Mistress and themselves.
Lastly, and this is honestly the biggest issue for Me personally, sex trafficking is very, Very, VERY illegal. I live in the United States, where we passed the aforementioned laws of FOSTA & SESTA. These laws not only make it so that the sex traffickers themselves can get prison time for the act but also the owner of any website that was used to find a client for the trafficked human. In layman’s terms, means any Mistress who offers to advertise you on her femdom blog or website could get popped as a sex trafficker even if everything is completely consensual.
“But Mistress!” you cry, “I’m DIFFERENT! I can handle it, I know I can!” That’s great! Then I’ve got two words of advice for you; prove it. Make a Niteflirt account, do what it takes to become profitable, then talk to a Domme about her being your online pimp. If you’re interested in being a real escort, figure out how and where to market yourself, become a profitable escort, and then send the money you make to a Mistress.
Until you can do that, you’re not going to find a Mistress who wants to be your sissy pimp, you’re just going to annoy Dommes who understand all these things you were too busy jerking it to think about…
by Guest blogger:
About Mistress Kiara: Mistress Kiara has been a femdom Mistress both online and in real-time since 2005. You can find Mistress Kiara on Niteflirt, Twitter and NOW Mistress Kiara has an erotica short story on Amazon: The Transformation Pt 1 GET YOUR COPY NOW!
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