The Sissy Situation

Ah sissies, where would we be without your frilly silliness? You gentlemen who enjoy being a sissy are a special breed. For many of you, you are in touch with the feminine more so than even cross dressers, HOWEVER…

There are some of you who go overboard and I’ve noticed a rather unpleasant trend that is quite honestly annoying the hell out of many Dommes, maybe not the Doms but gurls you are getting under the skin of many of the women you profess to want to serve, so let’s look at what you could be doing wrong so you don’t get a harsh push back from a dominant female.

Many of you, and unfortunately the word many is key here, tend to be pushy and very self-centered which is the exact opposite of how you should behave. I watch many sissies push their way in to conversations on social media where their opinion is not asked for and it’s quite obvious that it’s about getting attention, free attention at that.

There are those of you who feel that the Dommes should be giving you free attention for a variety of reasons but what you forget is that this is their job. It’s how they put food on the table and a roof over their heads. For you to just jump in and expect attention for free is downright rude. If you want or require attention you can do so by either paying for a professional live session (I know right now that is not an option) or by paying for a phone call or online session. But pushing your way in to a Domme’s conversations or her DM’s without permission will always get you the cold shoulder. Continue to jump up and down like a Chihuahua trying to get that attention and you’ll get blocked. Which usually leaves you sitting there thinking we’re being bitches when in fact if you would step back and look at your behavior you might actually see why you’re getting the reaction you are.

When it comes to the narcissism and ‘me’ oriented thinking, I shouldn’t even need to show you why that won’t work. No dominant, male or female, needs you topping from the bottom. Insisting on how things are going to go. I’ve watched several sissies get mad if their dominant has other subs because they want to be the sole focus of that dominant. That will never fly in the real world. In these cases I would suggest you look at your behavior and ask yourself why you’re being so selfish. Why are you trying to occupy your Domme’s every waking moment? Perhaps you’re not as submissive as you thought. Perhaps you simply need more training but if you don’t check your ego at the door you’ll never get to where you want to ultimately go.

Another thing I’d like to see you guys do is look at your reasons for wanting to be a sissy. There are some of you who feel that being a woman is punishment. You look at your sissy status as being degrading, that being made in to a woman is the ultimate way to have your manhood stripped and make you weak. The problem with that line of thinking is, you’re putting down the women you profess to want to serve. If you think being a sissy is punishment you may want to do some soul searching and some learning. I know of several Dommes who will not take on sissies at all because of this line of thinking. They find the idea of a male finding being female as punishment as being a slap in the face. Calling your genitals by female genital names as though it’s degrading to have a clitoris is the antithesis of what you’re trying to achieve. Do you even know what a true sissy is? Perhaps you’re more in to forced feminization instead? This is all part of knowing yourself and learning about what you enjoy instead of what you watch as porn, remembering that porn is ENTERTAINMENT.

I am working with a gentleman right now who is one of the rare ones who is truly in touch with his feminine side. He was born this way, not made by endless porn watching. He has had an affinity for women since childhood. He sees women as ethereal and miraculous; their clothing, the way they wear their hair, basically anything that is innately female he finds spiritual. He reveres women in a way that I will say is truly extraordinary. This, in my opinion, is the mark of a real sissy. A man who would never want to hurt or degrade a woman, who would be horrified at the thought of it. A man who, although has a very tiny penis would never refer to it as a clitoris unless ordered to do so. He would never name his own body parts as female like they are ammunition because to him, a woman is truly a Goddess and he can’t think of himself in the same realm.

Now I get that everyone can play in their own way. And yes for some of you I’ll be ‘kink shaming’ again. But all I’m asking you to do is to take a step back and look at your behavior. Look at your reasons for doing what you’re doing. I’m all for everyone living their own lives the way they see fit but that stops when you’re behavior is starting to piss someone else off.

My suggestion if you find yourself in any of these categories would be, as I said, to educate yourselves. First I’d start off by reading my very popular, Are You a Needy Sub? This shows some typical selfish submissive behaviors that happen to many subs, not just sissies. Then I would be heading to TheSissyWhisperer.com and learning from the Queen of Sissises, Ms. Amelia Divine, who has a podcast devoted to the education and training of sissies or better yet, give her a call and learn directly from her.

Regardless of how you choose to be a sissy, doing some introspective work will always serve you well when you want to serve others. The unexamined life is not worth living ~ Socrates

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