Cuckolding, when we boil it all down to its basic premise, is when the dominant half of a relationship – and because this site deals with primarily female led relationships I’ll use it in that context – decides to take on other lovers with or without the consent of the submissive partner. The cuckold is the submissive partner.
Now let’s look at it in all its individual glory. Those of you who know me know that I hate everything being put in nice, neat little boxes and that I hate the word normal. Cuckolding is as individual as those couples who are participating in it. For the most part though, the male feels inadequate, and usually is from a penis size perspective (remember I’m talking generalities here), and wants to watch his partner have sex with another man who is usually larger, more dominant/alpha and therefore more worthy of his partner than he is.
The key to making cuckolding work for you is to make it totally your own. As a couple you need to agree on parameters that will work for both of you. The keys to success are compromise and communication. Here are some ideas to mull over when you’re considering making cuckolding part of your life.
- Does the cuckold want to watch or just be told about what it was like for the woman to have sex with the other man? Some men want to watch, some men don’t. Some figure that the old green-eyed monster will kick in if they’re in the room during sex. (If that’s the case I’d suggest really thinking it over BEFORE you go ahead with this.) For the cuckold’s who don’t want to watch, being descriptively told about what it felt like, how big the other guy’s cock was, how long the sex lasted etc, works just as well. You may even consider taking your cell phone to the encounter if it’s in a hotel and calling the cuckold at home and letting him listen.
- For those who are watching, will you be allowed to participate in some way? Some cuckolds are tied to a chair at the end of the bed and left there not able to masturbate during the session or they are put in chastity. Some with bi-fantasies are made to suck the alpha male hard first preparing him for his partner. And some cuckolds are allowed to hold his partner’s legs back facilitating entry or even to hold the alpha’s cock and guide it in to her.
- Will the cuckold be humiliated verbally? Many submissive males enjoy being humiliated during a sex session with an alpha male. Either by the alpha male the female or both. Hearing your partner tell you how much better it feels being fucked by a bigger cock, listening to the alpha male say how much he loves being inside of her and that he’d never let anyone fuck someone as beautiful as this etc.
All of these are just ideas to get you started. Remember to make it your own by coming up with your own ideas that work for the both of you.
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As a polyamorous person, I love cuckolding. I find more often than not that the the consent is freely given from subs who enjoy cuckolding – they love the idea of Me with multiple other men, hearing stories about what I do with My other partners that I will never do with them, etc. As a Domme who does not do nudes, I never film or let My subs watch, but the stories are always a great mindfuck.
The humiliation is wonderful too! Almost every single cuck I have loves to talk to or about My partners. How much bigger they are, how much more stamina they have, how much better they make Me feel than anything the sub could do, etc. I think it’s the most fun when the partners in question join in and throw Their own humiliation into the mix, letting the sub hear it right from the source of their envy.
Dr. Sue spoke, in one of her call-in broadcasts, about the cuckold husband (or boyfriend) feeling envious of guys with a large penis. And, speaking for myself, I find this to be very true. As a cuckold, who is rather small, I am very envious of men with a large package. Likewise, seeing my wife with such a guy brings out these feelings, within myself, feelings of envy, and, seeing their sexual connection and how much more she truly enjoys his larger and thicker penis, causes me to feel totally jealous along with my penis envy. These two feelings combine as the causation of additional feelings which include feeling inadequate and at times even feeling betrayal; however, I know any feelings of betrayal are not anchored in reality since I assured my wife, before the cuckolding actually began, that I wanted her to have more pleasure than I was able to provide. And I assured her that I would never hold it against her; and, that her wanting a large penis, or at the very least an average penis, was very understandable and natural. It is amazing to me how well versed Dr. Sue is concerning just how the cuckold feels. Seeing my wife with a large and thick penis, making-out, causes me to deeply confront my penis envy. And these feelings can feel unsettling and even hurtful. My penis envy is well founded in reality. A decent looking guy with a large and thick penis has much more opportunity with women than I ever had. And this larger guy has a better chance than I ever had to sexually satisfy my wife. While seeing my wife locked in sex with another man; my enviness consumes me; I so much want his large penis and balls. I want to be able to please her like he does. And so I have come to let this happen. I totally love my wife and her pleasure matters to me. I am willing to feel the flood of so many feelings so my wife feels pleasure. Seeing his confidence adds to my envy. Seeing their kissing adds to my jealousy. Perhaps some will agree that living with the truth is something which is good. One day my wife told me the truth; she admitted that the large cocks which she experienced before our marriage were able to provide more pleasure than I provide. She told me that she married me because she loved me and because she totally trusted me. She thought the size issue would become an unimportant issue; however, this did not happen. My wife admitted that during sex she would try and think that my penis was large. She admitted that she wanted a large cock inside her once again. And such has come to our marriage. And let me add that embarrassment has also entered into our marriage; my wife satisfied by a large and think penis, while I stay to myself and feel so powerless and stripped, as I watch, of my masculinity, is very embarrassing indeed. My meeting her lover and shaking his hand in front of her, is a giant embarrassment. Looking at him, with confidence which totally exceeds my level is most embarrassing. Knowing that he knows of my inadequentcy becomes a large part of the common denominator; this is the highest intensity of embarrassment which I ever experienced. Watching her breasts kissed and sucked and kissed lots more, is embarrassing and causes me to feel very left-out and alienated from their lovemaking and from my wife. Such is with pain and hurt. At times I will sit back and simply close my eyes while not touching myself. Listening to their individual moans and the sounds of their kisses puts me in a special kind of sub-space. It is a place that a man who cannot properly satisfy his wife deserves to be; assuming of course, that he is totally honest and that he truly accepts the honesty of his wife or girlfriend. One day, not too far in the past, I decided to listen and accept her honesty and I accepted my own feelings as well. Seeing my wife satisfied is worth feeling some hurt. In fact, this honesty is a part of our relationship; not just my honesty, but my wife’s honesty too; this is what we are made of. On a final note, Dr. Sue, please allow this couple, now to reach-out, and hug you, while we both say Thanks. Your words speak true!