What NOT to do to Get Your Wife to Cuckold You
These emails came in a few weeks ago. I sat on them for a long time before responding to them and as it turns out the email address was bogus. But despite that this is not an unusual thing that I hear. More and more, as I’ve told you previously, this is what men think cuckolding is. Read it for yourself.
[sic]“I am married for 15 years to a great girl, we just started to get our sex life back together after a bought of illness over the past 2 years. My wife is 45 and I am 50. My wife has always had a lower libido, where mine is high.
At my request and begging we started plaing out bedroom cuckold roleplay fantasies which I am enjoying immensly, and I will say with guilt whereas my wife just goes along with it to keep me happy. She tells me cuckold fanatasies do nothing for her and she preferes romantic sex. I don’t mind it but prefer cuckold fantasy as I get erect quicker and I cum harder whether through mutual masturbation or sex.
I would like this to go further in terms of cuckold roleplay – we currently talk about a ficticious guy who fucks my wife at nightclubs, bars, hotels, etc, and my wife comes home to tell me about her experiences while humiliating my small erect cock (4 inch) and difficulty keeping an erection.
I love it when she whispers dirty words of humiliation into my ear – makes me cum really hard, but I feel guilty becuase she is left out.
So now you know my story a little, could you help me with the following:
1) I am using subliminal sex training files from _____. Per your podcast I am using WAV files. I only started using this audio for the past 1 week. Can you advise if they work? do you have advice to make them successful how they should be used? Can you recommend other systems you know work? What else can I do to raise her libido without being too obvious?
2) I keep having a recurring fantasy where my mother is in my cuckold fantasy – I see her humiliating me while supporting my wife to continue cucking me and forcing me to get the snip. How do I introduce my mother in the fantasy without upsetting my wife who truly hates her?
3) My wife says she likes romantic sex. How do I get an erection with romantic sex when all I think is cuckold fantasies?
But wait there’s more
“My wife and I perform cuckold roleplay i the bedroom – this is where we use an imaginary bull. So far so good. I keep having recurring fantasies where my mother is in my fantasy, where she supports my wife with cuckolding me. She tells me that I deserve to be cuckolded due to my small cock and erectile dysfunction. Now, my wife hates my mother in real life.
Could I ask if I should introduce my mother in the fantasy, and if so how to introduce my mother without upsetting my wife?”
Oh the humanity. There is so much wrong with this I don’t know where to begin.
This is the most misogynistic pile of selfish, non-consensual garbage I’ve heard in a long time, and I hear a lot.
What you have here is a male who not only feels that it’s all about him, but also wants to cherry pick what I teach.
This type of email is the reason why I don’t do the show anymore. I’m done trying to get you idiots to do things the right way. You all clearly don’t give a rat’s ass. You have taken my advice and turned it into your own debauchery that has nothing to do with what I teach.
Let me pick this apart so you can clearly see where this particular moron has gone off the skids. And I am going to be very picky so hold your jock straps.
- You’ve been married to the same GIRL for 15 years. She’s 45 she’s not a girl she’s a grown ass woman. This actually tells me more about what this male thinks of his wife than he notices. He’s already diminishing her.
- He diminishes her yet again because her libido is not the same as his. His is bigger and better than hers.
- Did you request or beg? My guess is both. Neither of which is what you do to get your own way with your partner, that’s called manipulation. Look it up.
- Wow sex in your house must be fabulous. Your wife is just placating your deviances. How thrilling a sex life can you get? Nothing hotter than your partner doing what you want just to please you.
- So the fact that your wife tells you that cuckolding doesn’t turn her on doesn’t matter to you at all. It’s all about the wannacuck and his pathetic, barely functioning, [self-admitted] dick.
- Love how you keep saying you feel guilty about this deplorable behavior. I’ve yet to see one shred of guilt in any of your behavior.
- So because your wife tells you that something doesn’t turn her on you feel that her libido is fucked because of course she’s not turned on by the same things as you therefore there is obviously something wrong with her so you decide that the right thing to do would be to PROGRAM her to like something she doesn’t. I don’t see any guilt statements about this? Here you are with the audacity of wondering how you can make it more effective as if you think I’m about to tell you how to fuck over you wife even more than you already have. Christ I’m surprised you haven’t been spiking her morning coffee with something. Why don’t you just roofie the bitch while you’re at it and have some random guy fuck her while she’s out so you can get off? Oh but wait, maybe we’re not into necro but we certainly do want to perform for mommy now don’t we?
In what fucking universe does this moron live? Clearly this a white boy with a dinky, peanut, of a dick who has fallen into the porn trap of thinking cuckolding is all about the bull and the cuck. Not one drop of thought to the woman in this at all, well except for programming her to get what you want.
You do realize that what you’re doing is against the law right? You cannot program someone against their will. Also for what it’s worth, BDSM has strict consent rules that we all live by, well those of us with any standard of moral values anyway. #1 rule is you never do anything without consent. This freak clearly thinks of his wife as property that he can just do what he wants with to get to his end goal of satisfying is depraved sexual thoughts.
This male of the species is in dire need of sex and porn addiction therapy along with coming clean to his wife about what he’s done. She deserves a better man. One who will respect and love her, not train her like a fucking poodle.
When will you wannacucks get it through your heads that this is not PORN this is real life and in real life it doesn’t go the way you see it in your porn addled brains. When you go to these lengths to get what you want, you’ve moved to a whole new level of mental illness.
For anyone to think I would ever give information on how to do something like this to your wife or that I would help you do the horrid things you’re doing shows how little thought you give to anything other than the skin tag between your legs.
I pray, yes pray, that your wife finds out what you’re doing to her and leaves your ass. You don’t deserve her. And be ever so thankful that I don’t have her email or know you in real life because you’d be very sorry if I did.
I’m dying to hear what you guys think. Let me know in the comments below.
Hi Doctor Sue
My wife and I have discussed having a cuckold relationship in depth with a black guy . This in depth is due to the fact I worked with a black guy and and one particular day we were stood next to each other at the company urinals I happened to glance down and was totally shocked by the size of his penis .
He caught me looking and said I bet you’d like to see. Me with your wife . I replied she would never entertain such an idea . He replied once the wives see it they can’t resist it.
I told my about him and our conversation, she said I wouldn’t break my wedding vows so no way will I have another man only you . I went to work the next day and he said did you speak to your wife, I said yes but it’s a total no no . He said well invite me over and she’ll change her mind . I told my wife being open to her she said you can invite him over but I will not break my wedding vows so do not expect anything to happen.
He came over and was dressed in a tight fitting white sports top and loose fitting track bottoms. It was very clear that he had no underwear on as his penis moved loosely as he moved. My wife took a few sly glances at his crotch but nothing happened.
After he left and I had the best sex with my wife for a very long time. But we are still a vanilla couple but I would really like to try a cuckolding. Experience and I believe she may do as well as when I bring the subject up while in bed she seems to be more into sex .
Hi Dr. Sue,
yes, you are right. Women want to be seduced as you have written in your other articles. It’s that simple.
Introducing the cuckold lifestyle at face value is the same as asking someone to eat a plate full of hot chillies.
As you have correctly written, if a woman is seduced however, she will eat the plate blind folded and enjoy it.
Omg! Men will do shit like this and then wonder why their wives lose ALL sexual desire for them. Acting like a woman’s sole purpose is to dispense your fantasy, sick.
I would say that I have a hard time understanding why a SUBMISSIVE man is so manipulative and controlling, but I don’t. It’s not about the dynamic. It’s about his useless dick. And his excuse for not wanting to be romantic is that he “cums harder” smfh.
OMG this is super cringe. I hate these “males” who want to force something on their partner/spouse that they aren’t interested in. And I say “males” not Men because clearly they are insecure and not strong Men who respect their partners/spouses. These Women deserve better than these insecure disrespectful “males” who should stick to jerking off rather than bothering others.
I’m glad you hit on the male thing Steph. I always use the word male now. As you said, what men?
This guy needs to pull a George Costanza, “if everything I do is wrong, I’ll do the opposite”.
My wife, C.S., and I reviewed an article of yours yesterday. Part of the “sit down once a week” chats. The article, Top 6 Reasons Cuckolding Can Kill Your Relationship. 1) Understanding Cuckolding is female led – absolutely no exceptions – wife and husband need to understand this, 2) ladies, ONLY do it if your into it, NEVER just to please your husband – that is a huge risk, hence the article mentioned, 3) The female leads and takes charge of her own sexuality – men you MUST find the joy of completely letting go of her sexual choices, and at the same time constantly work with her to keep the rest of your marriage healthy. Your joy rests in compersion, basking in her glow, intimacy with your wife during re-claiming, denial, or whatever you and your wife are both into. Keep everything fun, consensual, and healthy. Read the rest of Dr. Sue’s article and more of her teachings. My wife and I believe Dr. Sue is the Number One source of good cuckolding advice!
C.S. and I are still new, but things are going great. I asked her recently, “you aren’t doing this just for me are you? She said “absolutely not”. She’s evolving into more of a leader – better at the humiliation and teasing game and finds her own Bulls. Then keeps me informed on almost a daily basis just to keep balance in our marriage dynamic. But, if she wants to have sex with someone she does. That’s how we roll. And she is great at keeping our sex life alive in our bedroom – not always PIV, but always fun and fulfilling for us. I let go of finding Bulls for her – most frustrating experience ever communicating with guys – my wife said, “now you know how women feel” and “why we think guys are morons”. She is right and I’d rather not know every detail of her finding a Bull. My imagination is very good to me. And my wife is absolutely wonderful taking care of her Cuck.
Thank you A & C, I do try to espouse commonsense but even I can’t fix stupid. The way you two are approaching this is fantastic! Keep up the good work!
I have heard weird stories far worst than this!
Doc you already know my point on this but DAMN he really needs therapy if his brain is adding his own mother into his screwed up cockolding fantasies.