For those of you who don’t know what fluffing is I’ll explain that first. Fluffing is a term used in cuckolding where the submissive male usually sucks on the alpha/bull male to prepare/get him hard for the female.
Many men when you bring this subject up freak out. Again it’s mostly due to preconceived notions that aren’t even 
true. First of all sucking on another male does NOT make you gay. That seems to be the biggest thing stuck in a subs mind. A true submissive person, and I won’t denote gender here because it works both for males and females, its submissive period. It has nothing to do with, ‘I’m only submissive to women,’ if you’re submissive, you’re submissive and it shouldn’t make a damn bit of difference who you’re submitting to, it’s the act of submitting that is erotic. Why I say a ‘true submissive person’ is to point out that there are a lot of people who sit on the fence or are only submissive when it’s convenient for them.
The thing is, once a male fluffs for the first time they understand that it is empowering on so many levels. First of all you have the privilege of preparing the alpha/bull to satisfy your female. It’s your job to see to it that he’s good and hard and horny enough to really ravage her. Another empowering point is that you start to realize that you are solely responsible for the alpha/bull’s pleasure at that moment. Realizing that it’s your mouth that is having an effect on him is intoxicating.
If you are lucky enough to be allowed to insert the alpha/bull’s penis in to your partner you also have control over his initial thrust. In other words, if he is a new alpha/bull and is quite large say 9 to 10 inches and you feel that he might get over zealous and possibly hurt your partner you can grab a hold of the alpha/bull at the base of the penis with your hole hand thereby limiting his ability to thrust all the way inside until your partner is accustomed to his size.
So you see if you can put your fears aside you can easily understand how fluffing is in fact a natural part of cuckolding. Does it mean you have to fluff? No. That’s up to you and your partner. But don’t be afraid or hesitant of fluffing until you’ve tried it at least once.
This article is so true ,The first time my wife asked me to suck her lover’s cock, she spent weeks preparing me. She explained that it was the ultimate expression of love and a privilege to get her lover hard and ready for her. It would also be a complete surrender on my part when the time came to suck him. My wife stroked his huge cock and although I was initially scared, she convinced me that it was an honor. She made it clear that this act was the ultimate sign of love. Now, I am her devoted “Fluffer” and clean-up man.
I definitely think it is empowering. It was a bit of surprise when she asked me to do it – for those who know me, I’m 6′ tall and outdoorsy/lumberjacky kind of person and sucking dick is the last thing I’d do on planet earth. But submitting to her wishes happens to be the draw. The act itself does not matter .. It was strangely satisfying too (anyone else felt this way?). I had to alternatively go between sucking him and licking her throughout the night and it felt fantastic, knowing that it helps her get off. It was my responsibility thru the night to keep his dick hard and her pussy wet at all times and I thoroughly enjoyed it. It was a beautiful experience for all of us!
My wife and I just started hotwifeing style marriage.. I understand what you are saying about submissive etc however there’s a lot of grey area . My wife recently started pegging me and I never thought I’d like it but now I’m starting to like it and feel more submissive each time she pegs me and I also watch her fuck muscular endowed black men and I find myself submissive around them
Hotwifing is the most derogatory word you could call your wife. Seriously.