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I sure hope when your husband asked you to cuckold him that you found this site relatively early in your search for cuckolding information because there is a lot of crazy stuff on the internet that could scare the bejesus out of you. And most of the more prurient information you find on cuckolding is coming from men. What I discuss here is a more sane approach to cuckolding that I call Common Sense Cuckolding. It’s a more laid-back way of looking at the cuckold lifestyle.

But first, let me apologize on behalf of your boyfriend or hubby for the way he dumped this on you, depending of course on how he did it. Many men tend to find themselves getting turned on by the idea of cuckolding to the point where they forget that you, his partner, are not on the same page, your man being miles ahead of you wondering why you aren’t as excited as he is. They forget that they have been looking at this type of porn or reading about it for years and you’ve never even heard the term cuckold before. So I’m sorry if the concept of cuckolding was just barfed on you with no background or context other than your man wants you to have sex with other men. I’m also sorry if your partner dumping this idea on you has made you feel “less than.” I can assure you that you feeling disposable is in no way what cuckolding is about, but it’s completely understandable if you’ve been left to feel this way. Hopefully I can make you feel better about what he’s asked you to do and why.

If your guy just said he thinks it would be hot if you had sex with other guys I want you to know that is a very simplistic and pornographic way of putting that he wants you to cuckold him. What I mean by that is, it’s a very self-centered view of what cuckolding is. It tells me that your guy is thinking only of how it makes him feel and not about you. Doesn’t mean he’s doing it on purpose but it shows you where his head is at and what needs to be corrected.

Cuckolding, despite what he may think, is not about him getting to rub one out while you fuck other guys. It’s about YOU taking control of your sex life and designing it the way YOU want it. So before we go any further, if the idea of you fucking other men makes you want to vomit, YOU DON’T HAVE TO DO IT. Just because your man brings you the idea, doesn’t mean you have to fulfill it. And there are ways to compromise in cuckolding without you having sex with other guys. But I’m getting ahead of myself.

So we’re clear, if you don’t want to do this, you don’t have to. And gentlemen, if your wife says, “Hell No,” after FINISHING this article, then you respect that and find a compromise.  But before you close the book on the idea I want you to give me a bit of your time to show you that it’s not as bad as it may be playing out in your head.

I think it might be easier for you to understand the concept of cuckolding if I discuss why your man is interested in the idea in the first place. Because I have no doubt that you were left at some point thinking, “where the hell did all this come from?”

We, as a society, still raise our kids in a very archaic manner. We insist that our boys be tough, show no emotion and always be in control. “Walk it off.” “Be a man.” We bark this shit at our males all the time. And in the same vein, we still raise all our female children to be good, submissive little girls. We haven’t strayed from this for millennia but the irony is, most men are not alpha males, they are sexually submissive males made to pretend and “play the game” their whole lives. Deep inside there’s nothing they want more than to drop all the macho crap and let YOU take the controls for a while. And because we, as women, are not raised to be aggressive we miss out a lot of fun on the other side.

Put yourself in a sexually submissive male’s position. He has to pretend to be an alpha male to get you to notice him in the first place. He HAS to be an alpha male in the work place. Then he has to pretend to be an alpha male to try to sexually satisfy you. It’s a hard way to live. It’s no wonder men live shorter lives than women.

If your man has brought the idea of cuckolding to you the chances are very high that he’s sexually submissive. Does it mean he doesn’t love you? Absolutely not. If he’s coming from a place of genuine submissiveness he’ll be doing this because the idea of you being sexually satisfied in ways he cannot provide arouses him. And when you think about it, given that most men are sexually submissive and are forced to play the game, wouldn’t it be a huge relief to have that one thing taken off your plate of demands, even if it’s just a few times a year?

Because men are forced to pretend to be alpha guys just to get a woman in the first place, when your man comes to you and says, “Honey, I’d really like to see you have sex with other guys,” it hits you like a two by four between the eyes because you get a glimpse of the guy he really is and you feel like you’ve been duped because no alpha male in his right mind would dream of sharing his woman. But remember if he didn’t present himself that way you would never have given him a second look and that’s because we, as women, are looking for the alpha guy and to be fair, that’s coming from an instinctive need to procreate with someone who can move the species forward. It’s all game playing that’s being done on a sub-conscious level by the time you’re an adult. So try not to be mad it’s all part of living within our sociological system.

So where does this leave you? Well, right now you’re probably in decision mode because it’s still a weird concept. You could be wondering if the whole thing is a set-up. That’s a common response as well. I mean what guy in his right mind, like I said before, would allow his wife to fuck another man? There is no way this is real. It’s a test to see if I would cheat on him. Or, he just wants to fuck other women and wants to feel better about it. And those two thoughts are fair game. They are an expected and totally normal response. So let’s address them.

If you think this might be a set-up to see if you would cheat on your man that tells me that you don’t have a very trusting relationship and you don’t want to be considering any alternative lifestyle at this point in your life. And yes, I said it was a common response but that’s because there are a lot of folks in relationships that aren’t healthy. Ok so, if you think that this is all a game and you’re being played you need to work on that lack of trust issue. Because if he’s the type to be suspicious enough to try to trap you and you’re the type to think he would do that, what does that say to you?

As for the, he wants to fuck other women, thought, if he wanted to just fuck other women he would have brought you the idea of swinging, not cuckolding.

If you’re feeling like your man just wants to throw you away, that again, not true. It’s the exact opposite. He’s actually being vulnerable. He’s saying to you that he knows he sucks in bed, or that his dick is too small or whatever his personal reason is, but that he wants you to still be this beautiful sexual being. He knows he doesn’t rock your world the way it should be rocked. He doesn’t want to lose you. He wants to see you fulfilled.

Now some of you will be think that this is just silly. His dick size is just fine and so is your sex life. But I want you to really think about that for a minute. Be honest with yourself. Because usually when I press a woman she will confess that the sex wasn’t all that great but it’s adequate and so what if his dick isn’t that big he’s a good guy, great dad, doesn’t cheat and pays the bills. And that right there is the mating call of the ‘settled housewife.’

This is the coma that most women end up in through no fault of their own. Their husbands bitch that their wives no longer want to fuck them when they are the reason why. If a woman can shelve her sex life, it wasn’t that great to begin with. So either your dick is small and forgettable or you never did anything in the bedroom that made her want more.

Women love sex, some won’t admit that but they do. I’ve seen women begin to feel alive again when they take a lover. It is, as cliché as it sounds, like watching a dry flower perk up after it gets some water poured on it. And this crap about menopause is just that, crap. Yes you have to work more to have sex post-menopause, like using lube and being a bit more gentle, but there’s no reason for your sex drive to die and trust me ladies, with the right guy, it doesn’t.

This isn’t about replacing your husband, it’s about every once in a while taking the lover of your choice and either having sex in front of your husband or telling him about it later. Everyone is different in how they like to play that. And by every once in a while I’m not talking about every day or even every week.

Cuckolding is about female empowerment. It’s about taking your relationship and molding it to suite your needs. It’s about doing something men have done forever, our way. Whether you choose to make your relationship completely female led and you live a lifestyle dominant/submissive life 24/7, or you choose to occasionally have sex with a guy a few times a year for special occasions, the point is it’s YOUR CHOICE. The only real rules are that he DOESN’T get to fuck other women and you are the supreme ruler. You can create this in any way you want.

And if the thought of having sex with another man really does make your skin crawl because it’s not part of who you are, that’s okay too. You can still have fun using sex toys. You simply buy a dildo the size you want it that’s bigger than your husband, name it, and then there’s your third party. Your husband still gets to see you opened up by a bigger dick. He gets to be the one who facilitates it by being in control of the dildo and you can role play how much you love “Big Bob” inside of you. Everybody’s happy.

You’re going to keep searching the internet and you’ll see all sorts of crazy stuff being touted as the only way to cuckold etc. There’s a ton of terminology and jargon. Don’t get caught up in that. Just look at it as ideas. You can take them and use them or not. But don’t just throw the whole idea out the window without giving it some serious thought first. Take it all at your own pace and create this the way YOU want. Not the way some website or male is telling you to do it.

More information about Cuckolding:

Common Sense Cuckolding
Cuckolding Pitfalls
Cuckolding Lies Uncovered

What do you think? Sound off in the comments below.

What is Common Sense Cuckolding?

Common Sense Cuckolding™ is a term I created for the type of cuckold relationship that I teach couples. Common Sense Cuckolding™ is quite simply a real world way to successfully enjoy a cuckold relationship. It strips away the hype created by the porn industry and shows you precisely how to have the type of cuckold relationship that can actually work as opposed to the entertainment many men think is cuckolding.

The internet is both a blessing and a curse. It has made it so that many of us with differences that go against the societal norms, such as having a particular fetish or enjoying an alternate lifestyle, can connect with others with the same feelings or viewpoints and as such we don’t feel as weird or alone as we would without it. It has brought people together and created connections that for many have been quite positive.

But as with anything, there is a good and a bad side. The negative repercussion of having an unregulated and open internet that connects the world is the dissemination of false information, and the sex industry is not immune from this type of issue. As a matter of fact, you’ll find because it is an entertainment industry that it will in fact, exacerbate or exaggerate some of these falsehoods for entertainment purposes.

Many, many men get their first exposure to cuckolding through porn. The problem, porn is just what I said, entertainment. Unfortunately the visual is all most men care about. Then they drag it back to their wives and say, “HERE, do this for me okay?” and the wife is left standing there thinking wtf.  Common Sense Cuckolding™ removes the porn aspect of cuckolding and makes it reasonable and even better, doable.

The horrendous crap you see in porn strips the wife of her power and makes her nothing but a sex object for both the bull and her husband. This is the antithesis of what true cuckolding is – a woman in power, choosing her lovers and in the process turning her partner on by doing so.

In Common Sense Cuckolding™ the woman is in full control of her sex life and usually the entire relationship. The lovers are not there to replace the husband as is usually not only portrayed in porn but also fills the minds of many submissive men. Unfortunately that isn’t a viable roadmap for a successful relationship although you boys may dream about it.

The ‘dating’ aspect of cuckolding is completely removed for the reasons above. Much of what you read and see on the internet is what I call Extreme Cuckolding. Many men gravitate to the extremes but the extremes are not realistic. That’s not to say that some couples don’t play in extreme ways but your chances of successfully maintaining your relationship under those conditions are very small. The internet is riddled with tales of men who have been left in the dust, no longer married and no longer being cuckolded.

Common Sense Cuckolding™ allows the couple to mold the cuckolding to their own personal needs and the needs of the relationship. It’s meant to be practiced several times a year not several times a week as many of you think it would be. The reason is, it’s just not feasible to expect to entertain a bull several times a week. Why? Because there’s this little thing that gets in the way, it’s called LIFE. At best a real common sense cuckold relationship is done for special occasions, anniversaries, birthdays, holidays etc. And by playing this way it doesn’t take over the relationship it actually just adds some yummy spice to it and it’s easier for a woman to maintain.

Look at it logically most women are balancing a career, kids, a relationship, relationships with friends and family and if she has the energy at this point her own hobbies and interests. So when you throw having sex with random men in there, there isn’t a ton of time. That may be a bummer to you boys who want extreme cuckolding, but this is reality. Remember you’re basing your observations on porn and how it makes your dick feel.

Common Sense Cuckolding™ is based on just what is says – common sense. So if you want to learn more about integrating this type of lifestyle in to your relationship in a realistic way just get in touch with me and I’ll be happy to help you out as I have hundreds of couples, successfully.

Want to learn a little more about Common Sense Cuckolding™ have a listen to this episode of  In Bed with Dr Sue:

Ah you boys, you’re so cute, you’re cruising around the internet or more precisely Pornhub™, when suddenly, “What’s this? Why, that guy is watching his wife fuck another guy right in front of him. And he’s TURNED ON BY IT!” You start to put yourself in the position of the observing husband, your mind flooding with thoughts of your wife being fucked by another guy and before you know it, you’re stroking daily to both the porn on your computer and the porn in your head.

For some of you gentlemen, once you get these thoughts bouncing around your skulls you become a zealot about your newly found kink and you begin your quest. What quest you ask? Why, the quest to get your beloved wife to bang another guy.

“As God is my witness, I shall see my wife get plowed by a huge cock!”

I mean, come on, how could she not love it, right?

But just what does go through your wife’s mind when you ask her to have sex with another man because it gets you hot?

Well first she hears the screeching of tires and for some women it’s followed by the feeling of the floor dropping out from under them. Her world turns upside down. Her body goes into fight or flight mode trying to process what you’re asking her to do.

All the while you’re sitting there like an excited puppy wagging your tail waiting for her to say, “Sure honey, we’ll do that next Tuesday after the Henderson’s come over for dinner. Marge always said Jerry had a big cock.”

Yeah…no.

By now she will be having a myriad of thoughts racing through her mind some of them (not in any order) will sound like,

“This is some bullshit attempt to get me to fuck another guy so he can fuck another woman and not feel guilty about it.”

“This is so fucking stupid! What a fucking pig!”

“What kind of happily married man would not only allow that but encourage it?”

“How could he just throw me away like that? I thought I meant something to him but if he can toss me off to another guy so easily maybe I was wrong.”

“I guess I’m just not good enough or enough at all.”

See where she lands? In the exact opposite place you wanted her to land. And notice how it goes from disbelief all the way to blaming herself in the end for not being good enough.

I’m going to tell you a true story about a woman who reached out to me to help her understand and indoctrinate her into a cuckold lifestyle.

Many of you may remember that I mentioned about two and a half years ago that I was going to work with a woman and document her journey of going from being asked by her husband to actually becoming a cuckoldress with my help. We’ll call her Mary.

When Mary first approached me she told me her husband wanted her to cuckold him and she wanted to learn how to do it properly. Seemed rather straightforward to me but after our first session together it became very clear this was not a good idea for them.

Mary had been at the top of her game in her career and was feeling very powerful and confident when her husband asked her to cuckold him, however instead of her having a positive reaction, just as I mentioned above, her world crashed.

Mary started to second guess herself in everything in her life, not just with her sex life. Once I heard the back story I immediately took cuckolding off the table. The relationship wasn’t stable enough to make it through any type of alternative lifestyle.

Instead Mary and I worked on getting her self-esteem back. But that was not to happen. You see when her husband asked her to cuckold him or as most of you boys put it, “fuck another guy for me,” Mary became hyper aware of his behavior. So much so that it started to drive a hideous wedge between them.

She began to resent his porn watching, something the two of them did together as a ritual in their sex life. And I must add that in my opinion he does have a porn addiction issue beyond watching it together before sex. She became distrustful of him because right after he brought up cuckolding he started showing interest in a female friend of theirs. Now it turns out it was nothing and Mary was overthinking the entire situation but it was too late. Because she was so hyper aware of his activities, anything he did was suspicious.

Mary’s career went down the tubes at the same time because she became slightly agoraphobic and she wouldn’t leave the house – possibly subconsciously to keep an eye on her husband. She kept thinking her husband was always looking at other women when they went out. So much so, any time they went anywhere it lead to a fight. “I saw you looking at that waitress.”

For two years I tried working with Mary to get her back on her former confident feet but nothing worked for a variety of reasons but the most prominent being that she had come to a point where the fighting and continuous mean jabs and accusations was all she knew. It was as if she hated her husband but loved him at the same time.

They had been building a house together from scratch; as in her husband built it all by himself with her help. For years they were living in a tiny little trailer. This alone put a strain on the marriage but I had hoped once the stress of living in such tight quarters was over and they moved in to their dream home that she would relax a bit. Plus Mary hadn’t been working and money was also getting tight which didn’t help matters any.

Well they finished the house and moved in not too long ago and things only got worse. By this time her suspicions and complete lack of confidence had become a pattern that she couldn’t break. The fighting got worse, her husband couldn’t make move without be accused of something to the point where last weekend he pulled the plug on the marriage after twenty four years and asked her to leave.

Are there other issues beyond the cuckolding inquiry that contributed to the breakdown of the relationship, yes, but it was the cuckolding request that knocked her off of her stride. Remember she was happy and successful and loving her career and her life despite the fact that they were living in a trailer.

She told me she felt as though she wasn’t good enough and would never be good enough. That she couldn’t be the women in the porn he was always watching. She couldn’t compare to those women. Once the cascade of negative thoughts hit her career she felt she wasn’t good enough to do that anymore either. It became a perpetuating negative spiral that just got worse and worse. She could no longer have sex with him because she felt she was being judged.

This is a very sad true story. You guys know me I’m a huge believer in incorporating your partner into your kink if you can, so to see a relationship go down in flames for just that is heartbreaking and unnecessary.

So what went wrong?

Well as I said there are things I won’t get in to here but the primary take away is that his request catapulted her to a place where she felt totally unsafe. She couldn’t trust her partner. She hated herself. She disintegrated and took it out on him. Why? Because he was the one who caused her pain. He was the one who she allowed to punt her from her confidence. Because in the end, it doesn’t matter how hard a woman works, or how well she keeps her body, men are never satisfied and are always looking for greener pastures.

I’m not saying every male who approaches his wife about cuckolding ends up in this type of situation but I’ve certainly seen many who were similar. I think part of the problem is the difference between how men and women think. Men tend to require sex and think about sex far more than women do.

I found this after a ten second Google search and it’s from WebMD, granted not a shining example of academia but here’s what they had to say about the difference between how men and women view sex:

“Well, yes, they do. Study after study shows that men’s sex drives are not only stronger than women’s, but much more straightforward. The sources of women’s libidos, by contrast, are much harder to pin down.

It’s common wisdom that women place more value on emotional connection as a spark of sexual desire. But women also appear to be heavily influenced by social and cultural factors as well.”

“Sexual desire in women is extremely sensitive to environment and context,” says Edward O. Laumann, PhD. He is a professor of sociology at the University of Chicago and lead author of a major survey of sexual practices, The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States.”

The first takeaway in that piece is this, “men’s sex drives are not only stronger than women’s, but much more straightforward.” And this is where things usually go horribly wrong. You see boys, because you think about sex in a more straightforward way, you tend to drop your desires on women in the same way. “Oh honey, let’s say tonight you tie up my balls and get the ping pong paddle to swat my ass hmmm?” when prior to this your sex life consisted of missionary position every Tuesday night for the last fifteen years. So when you find this new toy, this shiny new object and you want to play with it you simply think, “Why wouldn’t anyone want to play with this?” So you’re that excited puppy wagging his tail but because you chose to please your mistress by chewing up her Louboutin’s proudly you don’t get the reaction you want and instead get a swat across the nose or worse.

And as Dr. Laumann states, “Sexual desire in women is extremely sensitive to environment and context.” The key word in that is ‘context.’ You can see where dropping a bomb probably wouldn’t work out well when she has no idea where it came from.

Remember, you’ve been sitting in the dark when she goes to sleep yanking your noodle to these thoughts for probably months while she’s been going along thinking her life is just peachy. Let alone the fact that most women don’t know what the sweet fuck cuckolding is in the first place and all she hears when you ask is, “Hey sweetcheeks, I want to see some other man defile you for my pleasure cause you mean nothing more to me than that bone I threw out for our dog Rex this morning. Thursday good for you?”  So you can see how important context is. We aren’t in your head (thank god) so we don’t know what’s been getting you horned up over the last six months nor can you expect it to make us horny the way it does you. You’re partners, you aren’t the same person, she has her own tastes and it’s probably not (SPOILER ALERT), about some guy with a twelve inch dick. That is all in your fantasies.

So as much as you may think that she is going to look at you and say, “GREAT! Bring on that dick!” it’s probably not going to happen that way. And if she was that quick to say yes, I’d raise an eyebrow anyway.

Keep this in mind. Because we raise all of our children in the puritan ways of boys always having to be strong alpha males and girls being raised to be submissive, sweet and quiet, it means that when men go into the dating game, they have no choice but to present themselves as that strong, alpha guy. And that is what your partner believes because that is what you chose to portray to her.

[Enter submissive feelings…]

Now we have a majority, not minority, of men who are in these relationships in roles they don’t identify with deep down. You gentlemen are now stuck in a relationship that is basically a façade based on conforming to societal norms. But where does that leave your submissive side?

Well now that you’ve found your submissive self and you want to experience it you think, “Oh how I’d love to see another man satisfy my wife in ways I can’t,” the ultimate cuckold fantasy. But your wife is still sitting with the alpha guy façade that she married and when you dumped this on her after say ten years of marriage, she’s left standing there thinking, “who the fuck did I marry?”

This is why making a list of all your kinks and handing it to her, or who am I kidding, leaving it under her pillow cause you’re afraid of confrontation, can lead her to being drop kicked in to WHAT THE SWEET FUCK land feeling betrayed and disposable.

This is why I don’t recommend sitting down with a laundry list when you have any kink or new lifestyle interest. The poor woman doesn’t know what she doesn’t know. So you can’t expect her jump in the deep end with you. You have to take her by-the-hand gently into the shallow end first and then move her slowly to where you want her to be and if in the end she chooses not to go there with you, you have to respect that.

You also need to ask yourself what your motivation is behind you wanting to see your wife have sex with another man. Is it because you’re a genuine cuckold who wants nothing more than to see his wife pleased in ways he can’t, or is it because you just want to see your wife get plowed by another guy cause it makes your dick hard. Not that option one doesn’t make your dick hard too, but when you’re a voyeur it’s coming from a more selfish perspective. Voyeur’s are usually the ones who use the term “hot wife,” whereas true cucks are all about their wives pleasure over their own.

If you’re motivation is just to see your wife pummeled by a big cock then you need to ask yourself why? Why do you want to see your wife hurt that way? Do you secretly have a grudge or even hate her?

And if you’re a man who wants to see your wife truly enjoy sex more, then it’s time to sit down and have an open and honest conversation not about what YOU want but how your kink can benefit her. It’s all in your delivery gentlemen. By showing her why you want this, over it just making your dick hard, you’ll get a much better response. But in the end, as I’ve said, if she doesn’t want to, she doesn’t have to and she should NEVER do it just to, ‘make you happy.’ That is a recipe for disaster.

Let me know what you think in the comments below:

This was a comment left on Can Cuckolding Ruin a Marriage and I felt it needed more of an explanation than a comment reply would justify.

Hi Question for you. My (now ex) bf likes to be cuckolded. Either he drops me at theirs and waits or he watches and partly joins. He told me very early on about his fetish and I allowed it to happen after about one year of dating (we’ve been dating two years ago). Now I do find it exciting and also a turn on that he seems me as a goddess however… I would rather we had vanilla sex. I did it only to please him. I did it so he won’t leave me for another woman who will cuckold him. I could never fully understand how him wanting me to be with others meant he loved me. He got upset and said he thought that I wanted to be with other guys and broke up with me. He says he doesn’t want to date me anymore but wants me to date others and text him to tell him about it. This has been going on for three months now. I’ve refused to do it as without a relationship from him then I do not want to sleep with strangers. I do not want to give him sexual satisfaction without having my needs met either. I feel so unloved. So hurt. So confused. Is he using me? What should I do?”

This brings up many issues that are common when cuckolding is brought up to a woman who has no idea what it is.

So I’ll break this down piece by piece. My first red-flag is this lady saying, “I did it only to please him…” Ladies, I implore you, NEVER, EVER do anything just to keep a man…EVER, like Taylor Swift NEVER EVER! Ok, that’s number one. Unless this man is King Midas and there’s some sort of payout somewhere you never compromise your own needs to make someone else happy. But I get it because women do this all the time. It’s ingrained in to us to please. Be good little girls, be quiet and make sure everyone is happy at all cost to the detriment of our own mental and physical well-being. So the first thing that went off the skids is this lovely woman doing it to ‘please’ him.

As the comment goes on it’s obvious that this guy is nothing more than an intensely selfish faux submissive male. The selfishness starts with his lack of trying to help her understand what cuckolding is. He fails to tell her it is a female led relationship and that she was to be calling the shots, not him. The fact that he would occasionally, ‘participate,’ proves this guy is in it only for himself and his baby gherkin because if he had presented this right he would NEVER have been able to participate and she would understand why it’s actually a loving act when done right (heavy emphasis on those last three words). But you see if this selfish douche bag had told her the truth he would have lost his control.

But the narcissism doesn’t stop there nay, nay, this fine example of the male homo erectus goes on to begin his gas lighting of this beautiful lady with this gem – “He got upset and said he thought that I wanted to be with other guys and broke up with me.”

I can hear it now, “YOU BITCH! YOU SAID YOU WANTED TO FUCK OTHER MEN!” This guy is a treat, isn’t he?

Ok, so now Captain “It’s All About Me” decides that she can be allowed the HOLY HONOR of being in his life but ONLY by texting him when she’s on a date with another guy. Are you fucking kidding me? Who the hell does this ass wipe think he is?

Now to the sweet woman who has been living a nightmare I’m sure you can tell what my advice is. LET HIM GO! He’s not worthy of you. Not even close. He is a pig. He has no clue what cuckolding really is. He doesn’t know what it means to be submissive. And wants to use you for his own McMasturbation fun. None of which has anything to do with cuckolding. And what are you getting out of this? I’ll wait… I’m not seeing any Goddess worship going on here, are you?

You are doing the right thing by not giving him what he wants because what he wants is disgusting. YOU are not the issue here. And you are wonderful, loving, beautiful woman who deserves to be loved and respected not bullied and controlled. This guy is a learning curve and I’ll say it again, he’s NOT WORTHY OF YOU. Kink or no kink.

Unfortunately this shit goes on so much more than you could imagine. Men with the most distorted view of what cuckolding is and don’t get me started on these same men not having a clue what submission is about. Hint: It’s not about your dick.

Ladies cuckolding is a female led relationship whereby you have sex with other men to satisfy your sexual urges. You run the show. Cuckolding is also about a submissive husband who loves to see his wife sexually satisfied in ways he cannot provide. The husband is NEVER REPLACED nor is the relationship, as a matter of fact without the relationship it CANNOT be cuckolding. The relationship is the most important thing and must be protected, not flaunted.

So if you see any signs similar to what this woman is going through when your husband brings up cuckolding, you need to snap back and tell him, I don’t know what you’re thinking of but it’s NOT CUCKOLDING.