Pat probably thinks I forgot about him but I didn’t. He wrote me last month, yeah I know I’m a procrastinator with way too many balls in the air, but he always makes such valid points that I know others will benefit from and he’s done it again!
Here’s what Pat wrote:
“Does submitting to someone of the same sex, while otherwise being attracted only to the opposite sex, make someone bisexual?
Over the last few years I’ve realized that I am sexually submissive with women, and possibly, maybe with the right kind of man as well. But I otherwise have no interest in men. I have no desire for a vanilla sexual interaction with a man. It’s just about dominance and submission.
Have you ever encountered submissives like this and what do you think it means?”
I talk to many, MANY people who are sitting in this position. You guys always hear me talk about the sliding scale of sexuality. If we peeled away all the layers we are all inherently bi-sexual on some level. It’s just that some of us lean more one way or the other. Take myself for example; I have no lesbian tendencies at all. I’ve watched girl-on-girl porn, I’ve actually even participated in threesomes with 2 girls and one VERY LUCKY guy, yet I had no inclination to go near the other women, the urge or eroticism just isn’t there. But I DO know that given the right circumstances and the right mood or ambiance that I might go down that road. Who knows? I’m not about to pigeon hole myself and say, NO WAY I’M NEVER TACO MUNCHING!
I counsel primarily men and there are so many of you guys who are sitting in this position which I would say is right, dead smack in the middle of the sliding scale and sometimes that’s a harder position to be in.
I will say this again and again until I’m blue in the face; Pat’s position is all based on D & s. When you’re feeling sexually submissive, it’s more your need and desire to serve that makes you suck another man’s cock. It has NOTHING to do with your sexual orientation. Guys always figure if I suck a cock I’m a fag. Wrong! Unless you have romantic desires (i.e. Find other men sexually attractive and would go in to a romantic relationship with them) for the opposite sex you are NOT gay! Are you bi? Yup! But remember even bi-sexuality has a sliding scale. It’s our society’s need to label everything that fucks up your heads.
A submissive male who sucks another guys cock is not gay he’s SERVING! He’s PLEASING! It’s coming from that submissive part of you not the sexual orientation part of you. I see more people in pain from having confusing thoughts that don’t conform to what society deems as ‘normal’ that it saddens me. If we weren’t so god damn focused on what our neighbor is doing or who they’re fucking people wouldn’t have to feel this emotional confusion and pain. What you do behind closed doors (consensually) is none of anyone’s business. Would I like for everyone to be able to discuss what they do openly without judgment? Hell ya! Is that going to happen in our lifetimes? Sadly, no.
Even when you are in that submissive situation and you are sucking his cock or doing anything else sexually to this, I’m assuming, alpha male and he’s telling you you’re a ‘dirty faggot,’ even THAT doesn’t mean anything. It’s part of the humiliation streak that goes along with your submissiveness.
I have men who phone me in complete FEAR who say to me, “what if I suck a cock and like it?” So? Let’s look at that, you suck a cock and you like it, chances are you’re not enjoying the oral based on, “oh I want this guy to like me,” it’s because you are SERVING. You are delighting the idea of pleasing this guy and a lot of times it’s at the behest of a Dominant female who’s telling you to do it. In that case you’re doing what you’re told, you’re a good sub in that moment. Just relax and enjoy that wonderful feeling of submission instead of letting your mind squirrels tell you you’re wrong, or fucked in the head. You’re not!!!!
The real key in enjoying what you do is letting go of trying to ‘fit in’ with the rest of the world. Why on earth do you want to fit in with a bunch of fickle, mind-changing, bigoted, paranoid people? It’s a game you CANNOT win. So to try to play it is more ridiculous than you sucking a cock. Do what you love, what makes you feel good and let go of the societal/religious programming.
Sucking a cock in a D & s situation DOES NOT MAKE YOU GAY!
Brian L Wells
I sucked my first black cock today and it was awwesome. We meet on Grindr and talked a little for a few days until I told him I had some free time and ask if he wanted a blpwjob. He said Ok cool and gave me his address. I was nerxous but excited. I knew it would happen eventually, why not niw. I he meet me at the door and he was really dark and I felt like I dreaming. We went in and he droppef his pants and I felt like I won the Lotto. It qas long and dark, I ran my tongue up the side and began sucking. It was then that are realized just how thick it was. OMG
Sluttey
Oh my all this talk about cock is getting me so horny, I love cock I worship it. I can’t think of nothing more delicious.
Andy
I shared bedroom with older bro growing up. Ended up sucking and swallowing him often during hs. He was couple years older . I looked forward to servicing him. I would jo myself while I sucked him, took his cum, then ate my own. Lasted around 3-4 years. Probably happened over a hundred times.
David
Was forced to suck cock when I was 6. They used me as their own personal cocksucker. I sucked cock or cocks (most days 3 or more bfor the next 12 years. Got mostly away from it after high school, would have the occasional escapade. But I am single again and want to get back to the way it was as a kid. I am great at sucking cock so I get praised for it and I like it. Have Never had intercourse with a man but am able to deep throat at least 11 1/2 inches. That’s the biggest I have seen. And yes that was my favorite. I want to do an oral gangbang. I have had 7 at once. I want more. I used to be bitter for what I was taught, now I am glad they did wat they madde me do.
RIC CARTER
I’ve accepted the fact I like to suck cocks, and have men fuck me.
Ric
dub
i like to suck cock.i am black but have never sucked a black.i want to. i suck white cock.i love white cock down my throat.i like to play he is the slave master and i am the slave.it is super exciting. i love white dick.
Joe
In 8th grade, my best friend and I found a lot of porno mags in an abandoned house. We loaded them up and brought them home. We spent a lot of time looking at the pictures and reading a lot of sex stories. We got used to being naked and masturbating around each other and would dare each other to do things naked. You could say we were fairly comfortable around each other and never thought it as gay. Though I must say he had a very large cock which I commented it looked like it had muscles on the side of it. A lot of the magazines had girls with their asses in the air back then and we always were talking about how we would love to fuck that ass! My friend mentioned one day that if you fucked a girl in the ass would it feel the same fucking a guy in the ass, since an ass was an ass. We both agreed probably the same. Later I was dared to stand at the front screen naked for 5 minutes. There was something going on down the street and and he came up behind me to look. I went to back up from the door to not be seen and backed up against his cock. He pushed against me more saying he was trying to see and I was still pressing back, so his cock became firmly wedged in between my butt cheeks. Neither one of us move to seperate. I dared him to butt fuck and he dared me to go first. Luckily he meant for me to fuck him first or he would have split me in two as we had no clue and no lube. We found we really enjoyed me fucking him. He fucked me about three times, but his cock was so big it hurt. I read an article about a guy going to a bath house and meeting a guy with a huge cock. In detail it described him sucking this big cock. I immediately knew how I could please my friend. While looking at some pictures of a girl sucking a cock, I offered to please him in that way. He agreed to try and I lay next to him with my mouth at cock level. I put my lips around his fat head and he slowly started to fuck my mouth. He started hitting the back of my throat and only about a third of the way in. Each thrust he kept going a little further into my throat and suddenly I found my lips buried in his pubic hair and choking. He was fully down my throat. I pulled back for air. He could only talk about how good it felt in my throat with my muscles contracting around it. So I let him back in my mouth and he started slow again, but you could tell anxious to be back down my throat and soon he was. We did this several times, each time getting easier to hold a little longer. I found I enjoyed pleasing him this way. I would only get to suck on him 3-4 more times, as it made him feel strange. I would continue to fuck him for the next couple years and that was okay, but me sucking him made him uncomfortable. I would later find women a lot more fun and to my liking. I was never attracted to men, but to this day I am still attracted to a nice penis. And even though would never date a guy, but have found I do enjoy sex with men, especially if they have a large penis. I guess would consider myself bi, as I have had way too much sex with men.
Greg Cornelius
I agree
Paul
Sucked my first cock when I was twelve with older boy who was like seventeen, talked me into stripping off with him and playing with each other, got all nervous when he was stroking me and asked him to stop but he asked me to keep stroking him which I did, as my hand got tired cause I was not use to it he suggested that I kneel in front of him and continue shortly after that i was kissing and sucking on the head of his cock, I have to admit that I was now enjoying it and was getting great compliments on it, after awhile he bent me over and spread my cheeks and began to eat my ass out, you have to remember i was only twelve and had a real cute ass or so I was told, the sensation was unbelievable and he told me it would be even better when he fucked me, five minutes later he started to penetrate me taking his time he slowly fucked me till he came after which i was instructed to clean him up, i became his piece of ass for the next five years until he moved away, later I married and had kids, i am now 48 and still think back to those days, from time to time I will visit the adult book store and suck some cock, wish i was twelve again
mike
I sucked my first cock around 12 years old. He wss older by 10 years and I loved it
Now I think of sucking cock all the time. I sucked my first black cock and got so excited. Now I want more black cock to suck.
Paul
Can’t wait to suck my first black cock
Joe
I have sucked a black cock twice and really enjoyed them.
Raoul Richards.
I like the feel of a swollen dick in my mouth as the guy I am sucking stroke my dick.
goodboy
I suck cock very often and Im not gay, one day while drinking with my neighbor we got drunk and it ends with him fucking my mouth, since them we do it at least once a week for two years now its been evolutive with him getting deep into my throat and always making me swallow, at the begining I didnt like it was he was so gratefull everytime, now I like it and enjoy it, but I dont think it make me gay.
Frankie
I wish I had a neighbor like you ! I sucked my first cock at around 9 ( my cousin) then I was fortunate enough to be molested by my boss when I was 15 ( I was a dishwasher) he fucked and sucked me came in my ass and I loved it, then he face fucked me and I LOVED COCK EVER SINCE. I don’t want to touch or fuck a guy no kissing but I will suck a nice cock gladly. I’m now 55 and have probably sucked twenty cocks many belonged to tranny girls.
Dave
I sucked my first cock when i was about 15 after i had been masturbating with a school friend for a while. One day he asked for a blow job, so i did. we were both hooked. I love pleasing a guy and love it when they cum in my mouth.
Dave
I sucked my first cock when i was about 13. Did it with my school friend right until he left school. I then got married and stopped for many years, then one day i did it again. I decided i liked doing it, so continued on and off for many years. Nothing tastes quite like pussy, but i do enjoy the feeling of being submissive with a guy. Dont think i could ever sleep with a guy though.