In this first-in-a-series on cuckolding for ladies I’m already reprimanding you guys. 😉
But it’s very important that this subject gets top billing because it’s integral to your success.
Cuckolding can be a fabulous boost to what may have been a dry and lifeless sex life, but it can have its pitfalls if you’re not very careful. The key to making cuckolding work in your relationship is communication.
Let’s face it girls, there are times when we can get carried away when we really start to realize just how much power we have. Now that’s not necessarily a bad thing but it’s all in how you wield that power.
Remember that even though you are the dominant partner you are a partner. There is another human being involved in this. Notice how I said, human being not submissive. When it comes to communication with your partner you have to have neutral ground. You have to have discussions where there are no roles being assumed. Where both of you can voice concerns, ideas and boundary issues.
This isn’t a game that you’re trying to win, it’s a sexual lifestyle. Note I said, sexual lifestyle. Unless you both agree to life a D & S lifestyle full time you’ll probably just be using cuckolding to spice up your sex life and for the most part will live your lives as a ‘regular’ couple.
Power can be a heady drug and sometimes we start getting off course without even recognizing that we’re doing it. That’s why the communication is so important. Having regular discussions about how each of you is feeling will keep feelings of resentment and hurt from destroying your relationship.
There is no right or wrong way to practice a cuckolding lifestyle. But you can minimize problems by sitting down and discussing what each person wants, needs and desires. You will probably find conflicting wants, that’s completely natural, you won’t see eye-to-eye on every topic but NOW is the time to discuss them and come to an agreement not after you’ve started playing.
Ladies just try to remember that during these discussions you are not in domme-mode. This isn’t the time to start pulling the, ‘my way or the highway,’ attitudes. These are neutral discussions aimed at minimizing potential relationship killers.
First and foremost it’s imperative that you keep in mind that you are both human beings before you’re dominant or submissive, and as human beings there are emotions, fears, and feelings involved. Don’t let the power go to your head or you’ll find that you’ll be left with no one to cuckold.