Do Dommes Hate Men

I get accused of hating men on a frequent basis and I understand how from an outsider point-of-view dominant women look as though they are man haters but in reality that’s not even close to being true.

I have to admit that over the years I’ve become more feminist-like. I would never call myself a feminist. But even for those ladies who are feminists that doesn’t automatically mean misandry.

In order to be a good Domme you can’t possibly hate men it just doesn’t work. Yet I can’t tell you how many times I’ve spoken with women over the years who when they find out I’m a retired dominatrix they automatically say they would make a great Domme because they’re really mean, especially on their periods. Or they spit out the classic, “I could whip a man,” with the cliché evil grin. To which I tell them, “you’d suck at it.” Once I tell them what true female domination is, they immediately lose interest.

Female domination is not about torturing men and making them ‘pay’ in some way. It’s about creating an atmosphere of pure power exchange thereby allowing the male the ability to drop the incessant alpha programming and giving him the freedom and the safety to release himself in to what, in some cases, he feels is his true nature. How this is broached is strictly up to the Domme and the submissive. And obviously that will include a variety of different ways to express that submission whether it be through pain, humiliation, loss of control or the myriad of other delicious modalities of D&s.

Good Dommes know that submissives, be they male or female, are exposing their souls to them and that to be trusted with such a treasure is nothing short of an honor. To think you can just pick up a whip with absolutely no training is the equivalent of a garbage man picking up a scalpel. And no I’m not being dramatic. You can inflict horrific damage and in some cases death if you don’t know what you’re doing. So to say that you’d be good at whipping a man when you know nothing of the art of using that instrument tells me you’re reckless and cannot be trusted with the life of a sub.

And yet I hear story after story about women reading an article online and instantly they’re a professional dominatrix because they went to the local sex shop and bought a cheap ass whip. Not even giving a thought to actually learning this profession. These are the women who should be doubted as to whether they hate men or not.

If a woman has the opinion that men need to be taken down a few pegs she is instantly thought of as a man hater, feminist and female supremacist. The incel alarms go off in basements everywhere feeding their self-loathing. Then while they’re seething and filled with shame because they not only listened to my show but were turned on by it they sit down at their keyboards and regurgitate messages like this:

“There is no diff between feminism and female supremacists. It’s all about demeaning men, hurting us, devaluing us, and empowering women at the [sic] expence of male dignity. It’s why i haven’t dated since I was 24 (now 46) and I’ll never date again.”

This gentleman actually claims to write femdom fiction. You can see where the confusion comes in. I understand that from the outside looking in, that that’s what female domination looks like to people who don’t ‘get it’ but messages such as this just tell me that the issue is with the male who wrote it.

In actuality I love men. I would rather spend my time with a man than a woman any day of the week. If I have a choice I like to be in the company of submissive men, not because I want to spend my time bullying them but because I find most alpha males to be boorish. It’s also my personal opinion that female supremacy works in theory but not in principle. But that said, I also believe that men have been fucking up this planet for a very long time and it’s long overdue for them to step aside and quit trying to grasp on to the manhood they seem to think we’re coming for because we’re not, we just think you’ve had enough time in the sandbox.

So instead of freaking out when a vagina has an opinion that perhaps triggers you or pushes your buttons you should take a step back and ask yourself why it’s triggering you. Nine times out of ten you’ll find it’s because deep down inside you might know we’re right and that’s what scares you.

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