Originally published on KinkEMag.com
The cuckold community has gone from bad to worse to wtf. Men get tired of being ‘bashed’ and I get that but I want to follow that by saying, maybe if you didn’t continuously act like one-celled organisms we wouldn’t have to. And ladies you are not off-the-hook in this and your role in the deterioration and/or metamorphosing (not sure which at the moment) of cuckolding is actually even more important but I’ll get to that in a moment.
Here is a conversation I had with a client that is a really good representation of what cuckolding is NOT. The backstory on this is that he said he was in a cuckold relationship and has been for over three years. I raise an eyebrow of question at this because if you’re in a cuckold relationship you should be living the dream not fantasizing and let’s face it, anyone can say anything over a phone or over the internet. I’m not in their bedroom but I doubt the validity of the relationship.
I’m paraphrasing because I don’t record conversations.
“I have this fantasy. My wife and I go to the beach and go to rent some surfboards but the guy who rents them is a real stud and is eyeing up my wife. He tells me he’s going to fuck her and I’m just going to take it. So I give her to him and watch him fuck her in the back of the surf shack.”
That’s not cuckolding, that’s pimping. ‘So I gave her to him…’? Oh how incredibly generous of you. I’m sure she was just so wet at the thought of you GIVING her to some random guy. You boys are forgetting that the main premise of a cuckold relationship is that the WOMAN IS IN COMPLETE CONTROL OF EVERYTHING THAT GOES ON SEXUALLY, not YOU and no the bull. That’s not to say that your wife can’t control other things too but the basic core idea is that cuckolding is a FEMALE LED RELATIONSHIP.
Too often I see men visualizing that cuckolding is about the cuckold nailing themselves to a cross and offering their woman to the God’s. Well get off the cross boys we need the wood, this isn’t about YOU. Cuckolding is about FEMALE POWER not men offering a damn thing. The minute you look at your wife as a commodity, you’ve gone off the rails.
Here’s how that fantasy should go:
“My wife and I were at the beach renting some surf boards when she eyed the very buff surfer dude who was running the rental shack. I knew that meant that she had found something she liked and before I knew it she was chatting and flirting with him and had given the guy her number and told him she’d call him later for more fun. And I was left standing there with a raging hard-on knowing what I was going to be seeing later.”
It’s bad enough that cuckolding now has ‘Professional Bulls’ who are hell bent on destroying relationships, (I discussed that in a prior article here in Kink E Magazinehttps://goo.gl/xPvoQd) and that men refer to their wives as ‘hot wives;’ which is the most demeaning thing you can call them and flies in the face, again, of the point of this type of relationship by making her a commodity. Or that many men share photos of their wives, without their consent or knowledge, with other guys online so they can all drool and circle jerk about who’s going to bang her first and how. But now you’re basically selling her off… it’s disgusting and it’s not cuckolding. So can you see why I will say, once again, that MEN YOU ARE FUCKING THIS UP! And ladies, YOU’RE LETTING THEM.
Too often I hear of women who want more ‘alone time’ with the bull. These alpha males should never be thought of as anything other than what they are; living, breathing dildos. Ladies you are dropping the ball by letting these snivelling omega males dictate how cuckolding is going to go down. And when I say omega I’m including the bull. Whaaaa! But Sue how can you include the bull as an omega male? Because if you’re doing this right and the wife is in control, ALL MALES ARE BENEATH HER INCLUDING THE GUY FUCKING HER! This is where you ladies are blowing it. You’re allowing either one of the penis people in the room to call the shots and that will NEVER come out well because neither one is thinking of you, they are only thinking about the flap of skin hanging between their legs. If you don’t have command and control of the situation, your relationship will completely unravel. And I shouldn’t have to remind you that the point is NOT to replace your husband.
Ladies you have to remember that if your husband is genuinely submissive, he can’t make decisions in the moment in that bedroom. He’s not on this planet, and he’s depending on you to ensure that nothing goes too crazy. That all the rules the two of you laid out prior to your first cuckold experience are being enforced because he CAN’T. As the dominant bitch in the room you have to always be in control of what is being done to both you and HIM.
It doesn’t mean you can’t be sexually submissive in that moment. You can still be a little whore but you have to be the little whore who’s in control. If the bull crosses the line, you have to smack him back over it. If he starts to push your hubby around too much it’s up to YOU to back him off and protect your pet (husband). If someone were to treat your kid or your furry friend negatively I would like think you would tell them to back the hell up. Well your submissive hubby is just as vulnerable.
So there should be no ‘alone time’ with a bull. There should be NO dinner dates, BBQ’s or romantic walks on the beach. I know some cucks want the ‘girlfriend’ experience and you want your wife to have a ‘boyfriend’ but I caution against this because it’s the first step to not having your marriage anymore. And really, if you think about it, if she’s ‘dating’ someone, you aren’t in a relationship anymore and it ceases to be cuckolding and becomes a pathetic weak husband who doesn’t have the balls to pull the plug on that relationship that now doesn’t exist anyway.
So yes for too many men cuckolding isn’t about his wife having fun and in being in control while they get off watching. It’s about them rubbing their dick and their bubbleheaded, blow-up doll wife is somehow along for the ride. “Golly that’s an awful big penis you have there, it’s bigger than my husband’s. He’s that guy over there jerking off behind the camera directing everything I say and do.” Give it up. That’s living in Pornland. Seriously, that’s right up there with assuming every UPS guy is fucking every female answering the doorbell.
And ladies, step up and remember – these bulls don’t give a flying fuck about you and will leave you in the dust the minute you leave your tiny dicked hubby. It’s time to take your power back from these males who are trying desperately to control and piss all over something we’re actually having fun with.