Switching to Voyeur

I know I already discussed the whole are you a voyeur or are you a cuckold in another article but it bears a more in-depth discussion because I believe a lot of men are not in fact, cuckolds.

I’ve noticed many men lately thinking they are cuckolds when in fact, they aren’t. They are simply voyeurs. But what’s the difference and how can you tell when you get a boner watching cuckold porn?

Well the first thing you need to realize is that cuckold porn isn’t real. It’s entertainment like any other genre of porn. Thus it doesn’t depict real life experiences, which is why when kids watch, it distorts their view of what goes into a real sexual relationship. In the same way, cuckold porn does the same thing when you watch it. You get a distorted view of what cuckolding really is. And just because you get turned on by cuckold porn doesn’t make you a cuckold. In fact, more men are voyeurs than true cuckolds. But how do you make this distinction?

In my article Cuckold or Voyeur, I examine the extremes of voyeurism in cuckolding. And yes you do need to ask yourself why you want to see your wife or significant other annihilated by big cocks because if you want to see her choked, spit on, and basically debased, that’s an issue unless of course she likes that.

There is a subset of voyeurism however, that I didn’t discuss and I will here. You see some men are very much middle-of-the-road kind of guys. And what I mean by that is they are switches for the most part.

Now I know many of the uppity, clique types in BDSM will tell you they don’t believe that there is such a thing as a switch but that’s just ridiculous. We are all switches it just depends on the circumstances as to which way we’ll lean. Think about it, everyone has a “B” side. Some really like both sides and some like to lean more towards one or the other. In the case of BDSM I’m talking about dominant and submissive. And insisting that people be one or the other is absurd.

In my article The Game Submissive Men are Forced to Play, I talk about the duality we force men to deal with daily. You must be alpha to conquer the world but what if you don’t like to be alpha all the time? And that happens to many, many men. Even the most dominant of men like to take a break and not have to think for a while and let someone else call the shots. That just makes sense. It’s not easy being dominant all the time, especially if that isn’t how you feel deep inside.

For example I consider myself pretty much dominant 90% of the time. But even I get sick of always making the decisions, despite the fact that I would never relinquish my control of everything. That’s why I have sex with somewhat dominant males, it allows me the chance to just chill and let go for a while. Now does that mean I let myself get choked and spit on? Of course not, but that’s just because I don’t find that erotic. But I do like to get pounded and ravaged like any other woman.

All of this brings us to the voyeurism in cuckolding.

If you think the idea of your sweet wife taking over the reins in your relationship is either absurd or there’s no way you’re willing to relinquish that control, BUT you would love to sit back, relax, and watch her take a cock bigger than yours then chances are you aren’t a cuckold, you’re a voyeur and more and more men are realizing this.

I’ll do my Jeff Foxworthy impression her:

If the idea of your cock being locked in chastity is outrageous you’re probably a voyeur.

If the idea of submitting to your wife makes you laugh you’re probably a voyeur.

If the idea of being humiliated turns you off you’re probably a voyeur.

If you picture yourself in the position of the husband in the cuckold porn you watch usually with the sound off you’re probably a voyeur.

If the idea of your sweet submissive wife being taken by a cock bigger than yours without any of the aforementioned aspects to it you’re probably a voyeur.

Here’s another example. My husband falls in the middle of voyeur and cuckold. I don’t put him in chastity because if your man is properly trained they don’t need it nor does he want it. I fuck other men in front of him but rarely does he do anything bi-sexual; only if I ask him every once in a while because I know he enjoys doing it from time to time otherwise he doesn’t care either way. Now we DO live an FLR. I run everything including the money and all decisions defer to me. So you can see how he straddles the two and to be quite honest for me, I don’t want to see him that submissive. I don’t want to be with a bitch in panties. It does nothing for me. But is he tied up during my encounters with other men? Yes, not because he’s into bondage but because I want to ensure that he isn’t touching himself while he’s watching me. I find it disrespectful plus it makes the time after the bull leaves way more fun because he’s losing his mind with lust by the time he’s cut loose.

Now you can see why just because you like cuckold porn or the idea of your spouse being fucked in front of you doesn’t make you a cuckold necessarily. It just makes you a guy who likes to watch what his woman looks like when she’s taking a bigger man. It’s just that simple.