Financial Domination comes from a deep need for a loss of control. Financial Domination can be played in a myriad of ways but the main idea is a dominant woman seductively or harshly manipulating money from a submissive male.
For the submissive the idea of having a woman take money from him or manipulate him into a state of wanting to give money to her is incredibly erotic. In some cases the submissive male even dreams of complete financial ruination. This is extreme but has been done by many femme dommes in the past. Usually Financial Domination just involves the taking or giving of money either on a scheduled basis, through coercion or blackmail, or just out of an intense need to give.
Now for those of you who are reading this thinking, ‘you’d have to be nuts to get off on that,’ let me remind you that everyone has their own erotic fantasies however if you’ve ever taken a woman on a date, you’ve been financially dominated. If you’ve ever been screwed over in a divorce, you’ve been financially dominated. So don’t be too quick to judge. For some it’s painful, for others it’s very hot.
This is another fetish that has an underlying current of humiliation as well, but again it depends on the individual. To hear a woman laughing and telling you what a sucker you are can be very arousing.
Financial Domination can be done by phone, mail, live sessions or just about any way that’s imaginable. Being a Sugar Daddy is a more controlled form of Financial Domination but usually involved sex. The true fetish doesn’t involve sex at all because the dominant female wouldn’t dream of having sex with an unworthy submissive. The fact that he’s giving to her is simply because he feels that he isn’t worthy of the money but she, being more powerful and beautiful, should be made to enjoy her life with his money but without any tangible benefit to him. The mere fact that he has given the money is the benefit to him.
I use this metaphor a lot when I’m describing the feelings of the submissive in Financial Domination. When you go to a Christian church there is a time in the service where the plate is passed around and every one gives money to help keep the church running. No one there expects anything from that offering. They certainly don’t expect the pastor to get down and say blow the congregation in gratitude. (Lol that’s probably a whole other fetish.) No, in fact you give because you WANT to, you want to make sure your church is there for you next week, that the pastor can eat for the week and the bills can be paid. It’s the exact same thing with submissive men. If it’s done correctly they look at the woman as a goddess, a deity. To offer up money to their goddess is just the right thing to do. Her life is ALL that matters. As a submissive male you want to eat, sleep and breathe this woman. She IS your religion.
Thank You for putting this in such wonderful perspective, Dr. Sue. I’ve been serving the same Goddess for 7 years, both with my money and with my time in helping produce Her porn Web site.
I’m one who believes that financial domination is just part of a subordinate male’s lifestyle. I’ve had a foot fetish since I was a teenager – and the more I learned about a cuckold lifestyle, the more it appealed to me (now if I can get my Wife to have sex with another guy!). Kissing my Superior’s ass for real is a dream of mine. And She has helped teach me that being a good slave involves an interconnected series of sub desires & behaviors.
She has eaten up the greater part of a $20,000 credit card and I cannot be happier. It’s not regular. Sometimes, I beg Her to screw me over — and sometimes, She’ll just do it. Occasionally, I’ll tell Her what I’m thinking, and She uses it against me as a creative, erotic way to sap more cash.
My slave contract states that I must be honest with my Superior at all times, while She can lie to me any time She chooses. We talk about that sometimes – it truly is a wonderful, amazing feeling.
I’d be lying if I said that I don’t feel guilty about the money She takes from time to time. But then, I’ll see a confident Woman’s image on TV or print, and realize all over again where my true place in this world really is.
Dr. Sue, Thank you for being the kindest woman ever to me. Your blog has been quite useful. I have researched Financial Domination and find that your review has been the most conclusive and has helped me better understand my slaves. That doesn’t mean I am any less lenient with them but it helps me understand them on another level. You’ve opened my eyes. Thank you.
poked around for a couple of days, completely new to this…and online i found a woman to use me. so far ive bought her two individual 100 dollar amazon giftcards, and after i sent her the first one her response to me was “idiot im on vacation dont bother me”
so i bought another 100 dollar card and mailed it to her.
this looks to be quite a problem in the making…
Hi Tommy,
Maybe you didn’t notice on her site that she was away or perhaps she’s just playing princess. Don’t get discouraged just yet. But I have to admit that your choice in Financial Dominatrix could be better. A smart woman wouldn’t act that way unless she really is on vacation and posted it and you missed it.
Couldn’t agree more, Sue. I could never do that to a financial pet.
I have been trying to Master the art of Financial Domination without falling into the Teen Princess game of “Give me money because I am hot and young” but have nothing else to offer.
I like to play, I like to give a little and take a lot. I guess I like them to want to keep coming back over and over again instead of binging when they are horny and then having “buyers remorse” when they get the credit card bills.
As an exotic dancer, I have been enjoying financial domination since before I knew it had a name. I never understood why men went to strip clubs (basically , they are paying to get blue testicles) but was always glad that they did!
After reading this, I understand now that they actually enjoy the torture being received as much as I enjoy giving it.
Well, Im doing hard research on becoming a financial dominant woman. And this site just summed it all for me. Thank you.
Hello there, i must say money slavery has been a major force in my life since i started when i was 18, i am now 28 and i dont see the end in sight. i started back when yahoo messenger still had the chat groups, and i remmeber i used to laught at the guys there who said they spend 500 a month on money slavery, then this one Goddess, who is till around today, told me to give her three days with her and she said after that this would be my life afterwards, i laughed and said ill call once,,WORST mistake of my life i was hooked after this one session and thats when everything changed. i started to stay in more and more, started to stroke alot more also, after the first year i was down over 8k and it just got worse from there, started to be a slut for a few years, everytime i went online 3-4 Dommes be messaging for cash,then got into panty wearing,then into being on cam,, then by 2009 i had my biggest year over 36k gone! it was out of conrol, online 3-4 times a day,,id be on cam,,in lingerie,,while they on teamviwer raping amazon and paypal, while i on niteflirt with them just being drained,,i couldnt stop,,just pounding down on penis while the money flowed. I recently found out that this group of 3 Goddess was using 7 or 8 different names on yahoo with me and just laughing at the games they put me through. i remember just wanting to prove that i was the biggest loser these Goddesses ever knew because they kept telling me that its so hard to find the real deal losers like me and to find losers like me who could maintain this over years and years and that i was a desired slave. And it felt that way i had lots of girls messaging me about serving them etc. I tried to quit january 2010 but broke down a week later! Not sure what is going to happen, it has now been over 3 years straight of stroking and paying every single day!
Anyways just felt like sharing!
It’s obvious that you broke down and went back to serving because it is your place in life. It”s a fetish, not a kink. Kinks are optional, fetishes are a necessary part of who we are as human beings. My fetish is being worshiped as a Goddess, and I know that I deserve it, and nothing is going to change that. your fetish is obviously serving Women like Me, and nothing is going to change that.
It’s really less of a fetish and more of a lifestyle. It’s who I am, not what I do. It’s not a job, it’s not a hobby, it’s who I am, every day, 24 hours a day 7 days a week, 365 days a year, 23 years of My life.
Now that I think of it Dr. Sue I was recently a victim of financial domination by my girlfriend. Stephanie was constantly demanding I give her money and expensive gifts. This went on for 3yrs and all I ever got was some kisses, If I tried any thing else I got my face slapped. Her crowning achievement was filing suit against me saying I promised to marry her! I now have to give Stephanie $75000. and continue to pay my ex-wife her alimony. All you women seem to enjoy taking men to the cleaners!
To say that you were a victim of financial domination is like saying I’m a victim of the government because I have to pay taxes. Financial domination is only that when it’s two consenting adults playing the game. You were just fucked over by a female. Now unless you get off on it it’s not financial domination. Doesn’t sound like you got off on it Joe. It’s all in how you look at it.
Well said, Dr, Sue.
Well I’ve had years of experience as a Financial Domme. It’s been an interesting ride but there is something hot about being able to spank men financially. I love the control I have but it is definitely something I moonlight doing and kind of a double life I lead.
Hello very nicely put and 100% true. I can speak on this topic as i’m currently the property of a Mistress, and i did sign a blackmail contract.
Please let me start off by saying i mean usually we men that get involved in this are adults so i wont preach, but what i will tell you here is the absolute truth, so you make your own determination if this is the path you want to choose and i’m speaking of any submissive that is thinking about contacting a financial domme.
Now the addiction itself is very real, but actually can be controlled, but can also can lead you deeper into her world, which abviously we all know she doesn’t want you to go anywhere especially when she sees that you do spend money and are not just talk. You will find if you contact one that has been around awhile she will welcome you with open arms, usually answering any questions you might have, she actually can be quite nice, this will quickly end if she sees your just wasting her time, she uses the phrase “wanker” most of the female dommes do.
The spending, well if you can keep a handle on it, say for instance purchasing her clips, if you like them because of the way she taunts men in the video and she is speaking right at you in the video, whatever cool , get off and call it a night. But remember we male submissives are here because we like the idea of women humiliating us and taking from us so be very careful its easy for your addiction to become stronger and more out of control, and i’m meaning this is when you start on a more regular basis speaking with and getting to know the Mistress you’re interacting with, more important she is getting to know you, and i mean if you have contacted one that wants a little more from you she has more than likely done a background check on you. Like i stated if you purchase clips and just get off, cool, but when you contact this woman believe me if she sees you’re a spender and you’re around more and more she will do everything she can to keep you with her and spending.
Ok this leads me to this and this i’m speaking of is getting a little more dangerous and that is if you’re thinking of taking this to the next level, mainly because you get highly excited at the thought of this woman running your life, be careful one you enter into this blackmail and she usually has you sign something with all of her stipulations on there, and believe me if you’re thinking about it read it very carefully, what i’m inplying by that is you think you might be just set up to make a certain payment to her everyweekm but what many men miss is the little infraction clauses she has put in there. Being late on payments, infraction which usually carries another added amount, and believe me they add up. If she contacts you and she states you disobeyed her in someway, infraction. Before when you used to talk freely with your domme you might see that changes a nit when she has you in blackmail she wil ignore you until she is ready to talk to you, and if you talk back to her or get irritated because she is ignoring you, infraction, and it will cost you. Trust me these women find ways to rack up those costs.
I also want to finally add this about the Blackmail contract, please make no mistake these women eill use that information agist you, i know you think nah she wouldn’t dare, trust me she does and believe me there’re a lot of little worms she has out there that might not pay her like you do but she uses them for her own entertainment, they usually are around because she can get them to do anything she wants them to do, so for example if you try and disappear and not stick to the contract you signes and trust me she usually gives you a few chances to redeem yourself but the cost keeps adding up, infractions. So what i was saying she will get one of these guys to call from an anonymous number either to your boss, your workplace, your wife if you’re married, a girlfriend, your parents