Lee commented in my What is Financial Domination article:
[sic] “i believe women love doing this to all of us men. There are sooo many women doing this!! they are destroying are lives & keeping us in poverty forever!! I truly think this should be illegal… And: “But MOST Dommes do take us men to the point of total ruin.in most all cases they could care less…this is happening to me now.i am told oh well there will be another to take your place!”
Okay once again I’m laughing at you little victim males. And NO it’s not just because I happen to be a dominant female.
It’s because you guys make yourselves out to be so innocent in all of this. If you get sucked back in to Financial Domination after getting it allegedly ‘under control,’ then it’s your issue not hers.
Understand something here, we don’t give a rats ass about ruining your lives. Well, okay most of us girls don’t. I’m not saying there aren’t some out there who don’t love watching a male lose his life to her. Yeah okay they’re out there but for most of us we only want the cash and YES I love taking your money. I don’t give a fuck what your life is like. And let’s call a spade a spade here, what about all the guys who use Financial Dommes who specialize in blackmail to break up their marriages? YUP! That’s right, some men are so ball-less they get caught on purpose in order to facilitate their weakness in breaking up with their partners.
I’m going to say this until you guys get it through your incredibly thick skulls. WE AREN’T PREYING ON YOU, YOU’RE COMING TO US VOLUNTARILY, and WE ARE DOING OUR JOB! You can’t have it both ways. ‘I want a powerful woman to wallet rape and humiliate me because it turns me on’ ‘HEY you just raped my wallet, that’s not fair! You’re MEAN!’ Pick a fucking side you morons.
I’m so sick of hearing whining subs go on and on about how hard done by they are. If you have addiction issues and many of you do, then address them. It’s as asinine as blaming the dealer for selling drugs. If you didn’t have the addiction to getting high there would be no demand and the dealers would dry up. Is that gonna happen, ah NO! So deal with it but saying it should be illegal when you guys are the ones seeking us out and not the other way around is ridiculous. And for the love of GOD stop playing the victim. Pull up your big boy pants, remove the tampon outta your ass and wake up and smell the bank drain, YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP! And Lee? Yes there is ALWAYS another sub to take your place if you don’t pay. DUH!
Thid is the best thing I hsve read in days. Dr. Sue, you’re my hero of the day! I think the same way and it is refreshing to hear it so simply and eloquently stated. Cut through the bullshit like a hot knife through butter…or maybe like scissors through a maxed out card. Boo hoo.
Frankly, there are just a huge number of people in the fetish scene who have very low self esteem (that goes for some dommes and subs alike). Some of these guys willingly give all their money away because they feel they are so worthless, yet at the same time they know they are being completely screwed. They’d be better off spending their money on a good psychiatrist to help them build up their self confidence.
Now I’m not saying that is the case with all of them. Some people are in control of their fetish desires and just get a kick out of playing power games, and that’s cool.
I agree, I have never had it in me to complain about a dom draining me fully, even to the point of telling me to sell items to generate more cash after she had drained my liquid cash dry.
This is a bullshit issue some subs have. I have issues with some of the things a lot of doms do/say but its never about them doing there jobs. More about NOT doing there jobs in other ways.
Another Great Article.
Hello, yes my Mistress who can be very cruel if crossed basically has several things that we her property must live by, and yes i fully accepted these before becoming her property as i knew if i failed once aggreed to and owned and then didn’t follow through i would be in serious trouble.
Loyalty: If Mistress finds out her pets are purchasing other clips and or emailing other Domina’s, as she states i’m fucked.
Worship: Alway’s be thinking of Mistress, as she puts it she is The most important thing in my life, she comes before family, friends, everything.
Spoil: self explanatory.
Listen: Do exactly what she says when she says it no questions asked. If i do have a question i have to ask her first if i may ask a question, if she says no, i’m to never bring it up again.
Work Hard: Always be working to please Mistress.
Learn: I’m always open to learn, Mistress is very intelligent so anything she has to say is a true treat for me. She has me so trained now, i don’t even make a move in everyday life without consulting Mistress.
hello love all your articles.
when I have money too spend I seem to come back to theses women. for some reason I enjoy it but I always or mostly try to control myself from spending too much on this lifestyle. then I wake up the next day wondering why I let myself do that and I think I falt myself for it and not the dommes
Wow! What a fantastic blog… you are SO right! These guys like to play the victim, but they are willingly putting themselves (and their cash) in our hands. We are Financial Domme’s- if you willingly contact us you will be convinced to give us everything… that is what we are here for, and that is why you come to us! If you can’t handle it, get off the net, close your Niteflirt account, and as Dr Sue said- get the help you need. It’s not like we are showing up at your door demanding money- you are the ones contacting us 😉 (Although I’m sure some of you *love* the thought of us showing up at your door and ordering you to hand it over…lol).
Great post Dr. Sue- first time I’ve been on this site, I will be sure to visit again.
Um…….Your sarcasm only exacerbates my problem, Dr Sue……. Thank You
At what point was I sarcastic. I tell it like it is. You can’t take the Domme out of me if that’s what you mean. Get over it Howie, you’re acting like Lee.
i certainly don’t mean to seem like that, Dr Sue. And please be assured that i am over it. i am responsible for my own behaviour. It’s just that i am weak. i just am.
FINALLY someone who takes responsibility for their actions. That’s refreshing Howie.
Sometimes the temptation can be overwhelming, but i think most of the time, i am able to manage the cravings and balance them out with the financial outlay. But as i said, the temptation never really goes away.
You say they are doing there job? what job? you say i need help? fine, you are right,..but who do i go to for help? I am lucky that the person i speak to on niteflirt has recently moved & she has not been able to get on the phone for the last 2 weeks.The last time we spoke she took ALL my paycheck!!! I want this to stop & you act as if this is a joke, it is not & i do not know how to stop this.I am also borrowing money from family members…..can you help me? suggest how i go about getting help?
Lee you have to take responsibility for your own actions. If I’m a meth addict, I can’t blame others for being the one who smoked it or snorted it or whatever. I have to take responsibility and say, “I have a problem, this isn’t fun anymore and I want to stop.” If that’s the point you’re at quit whining about it and DO something. Find a sexual addiction counselor in your area and get some help. Stop running around like a chicken with your head cut off placing blame for your own actions. You’re wasting time and if you truly are fed up, you’re wasting your own time.
You are absolutely right, Dr Sue. And i know that i am just so weak when it comes to this.
Poor Howie…poor weak…vulnerable…powerless,..ney I say, delicate Howie….How we all weep for you….