I’ve spoken quite a bit about how popular cuckolding has become, albeit quietly popular, and within cuckolding itself there is a practice that is also gaining momentum with younger couples and that’s selective breeding.
Now for some of you this will be a touchy subject because I’ll be discussing racial issues. Like it or not, for many couples who are in to cuckolding, race comes in to play. Not in the usual white over black way but the other way around with black power over white.
So just what is selective breeding? As the name suggests it’s essentially choosing the (perceived) genetically superior alpha male to breed with as opposed to the weaker, submissive male. In many cases, but not all obviously, the alpha male is black and the cuckold couple is white. Cuckold couples are choosing to breed with the alpha male as opposed to the husband in order to create a (perceived) genetically superior child.
Why do I keep throwing the word perceived in parentheses? Because genetic superiority is relative to whomever is speaking. What I think is genetically fantastic isn’t going to be what you think is. This topic also rubs up against test tube babies and the ability to create the ‘perfect child,’ so it can be a hot button subject.
Now a whole host of issues come in to play with this and it shouldn’t be considered lightly when we’re discussing bringing a life in to this world. I’d love to say that all couples who practice cuckolding do so in a safe, sane and consensual way but that would be in a perfect world. Unfortunately there are those who get so intensely involved in the lifestyle and it’s extremes that they choose not to consider the ramifications of what they’re doing.
For the sake of argument let’s just ‘assume’ that a couple living the cuckold lifestyle have decided they want to have a child and they agree that selective breeding is the way they want to go, what happens besides the obvious? Looking from the outside in from a non-kink point-of-view you have to wonder, why would a husband be okay with this?
There are actually a myriad of reasons why but the most obvious is humiliation. Humiliation runs as a thread in all aspects of submission. From the cuckolded male’s perspective nothing could be hotter than pushing a baby carriage with a mixed race child that is blatantly not his. For him the idea that genetically superior seed impregnated his wife is intensely erotic and knowing that other people are now seeing the product of his wife’s pregnancy and it isn’t what anyone was expecting… that drives him wild.
For those cuckolded males who are serving the black, alpha male beyond the bedroom and believe that black males are genetically superior to themselves, it becomes an honor to raise this genetically superior child.
There are also couples who embark on this because the cuckolded husband cannot impregnate his wife. I’ve personally observed that many submissive males with small genitalia have difficulty procreating. So for some couples this is the only way the wife can become a mother.
And just what role does the alpha male have in the process besides a lot of sex?
For a true alpha male — and by true you have to understand that many men are pseudo-alpha more middle-of-the-road kinda guys — at a primitive level it’s about spreading his seed. Alpha males cannot be tied down, it’s not who they are. They are the seed spreaders. They aren’t in to relationships, they’re about freedom. They LOVE the idea of leaving a trail of their offspring. Not in a crass, typical, ‘guy who just fucks a woman and leaves when she gets pregnant’ way. That’s trash. To an alpha male open to selective breeding, it’s a boost to his ego, it’s a sign of his virility. He’s proud to impregnate another man’s wife. And it’s clearly another way of dominating the cuckold husband.
One couple I counsel have integrated selective breeding very well in to their relationship. They chose both times to try breeding parties. Breeding parties are sometimes used for anonymity. By having sex with multiple partners who all know they are there for breeding purposes it’s not known who the father is. So in a case like this although the couple still protected themselves legally it’s less likely using a breeding party as it’s not known who the father is.
For another couple they decided to allow their alpha male to pretty much take over their lives. So they know who the father is and although the alpha signed off legally he still maintains tight control over how the child is raised. And these are just two ways of implementing the breeding process. There are as many ways to implement selective breeding as there are different couples applying the concept.
Just as there are a vast number of reasons why couples get in to cuckolding in the first place there are just as many reasons why some cuckold couples choose selective breeding. Whether you’re for it or against it the practice of selective breeding is gaining in popularity and isn’t likely to go away any time soon.
Ricardo
I am 40 years old and I am sterile,married for 9 years with my 33 old wife.
Our history is the opposite of most, selective breeding was our gateway to the cuckold world and not the opposite as it happens with most.
8 years ago when we found out I was sterile after failed attempts to get my wife pregnant, she and I decided to use sperm donor, we chose a clinic that, in addition to giving the complete history of the donor, allowed the donor to be contacted directly.
After having chosen 8 profiles of donors with very similar profiles, we made contact (a kind of interview) by skype, to our surprise 3 men sent photos of themselves completely naked during or after, another 2 sent them after we asked.
After a lot of talking between me and her we ended up admitting to each other that out of the 5 who sent naked pictures we were inclined to pick the one with the biggest penis.
And that’s what we did, we chose the sperm of a Dutch guy with the same skin tone and hair as ours, but taller than us,with a much bigger penis than me.
This ended up taking us to the cuckold universe over time as she ended up admitting her dissatisfaction with my size and sexual performance.
Two years after “our” son was born, she began seeing other men on a regular basis.
Dr Sue
Thanks for sharing that Ricardo.
CoS
https://fetlife.com/users/14876109/posts/8679928
Someone copied your work on Fetlife without giving you proper credit.
Dr Sue
Thank you. I’m on it with Fetlife, yet again. These cunts don’t have a clue in their pea sized brains to be able to string a sentence together let alone an original thought.
Kevin
Dear Dr. Sue,
It is not often that I read and listen to someone that is really correct about so many issues. I read stuff from others online, but they all seem lost, you on the other hand are usually spot on. For example the masterbating vicious circle that white men go through, the dominance of a cuckoldress or how to even get a woman to Cuckold one’s self. You are right about why white men obsess about BBC, because they fear it and see it as sexually superior. I really love and appreciate your writing like a holy book.
I have been pondering about black impregnation, selective breeding. I’m torn between being for it or against it, because I’m thinking about the child’s interest. I’m talking to a black king here in Germany named Sadate and he is my exact opposite counterweight. Tall dark and very handsome, he is also torn on this issue. What is the right course of action? In the end, it’s all the woman’s choice any way, but I also believe that she would be torn on the topic. So if everyone is torn, should the black king have the privilege or not and why?
Best regards
Hermann
Alan
My wife began showing instructional videos a year ago for interracial breeding. At first I didn’t understand her need and desire. But after watching them I was aroused by the masculinity of these alpha males and understood my wife’s need for real men. I’m only 3″ and I began to realize I would never be able to please her the way she needs and deserves. Eight months ago she suggested that she would like to bring a “friend” home for cocktails and dinner. When he arrived, I couldn’t believe how well built he was, very muscular and about 4″ taller than me. He was very defined in a tight t-shirt, but what blew me away was the bulge in his shorts. After dinner, my wife stated they were going to our bedroom for “real sex”, but I was welcome to come in, but not be in the way. My wife and her new lover stripped and I couldn’t believe how big he was, my guess at least 8.5″. I didn’t think he would be able to fit, but to my surprise my wife was in ecstasy. I’ve never been able to please her the way he did. Since then she has had a few other black studs that have filled her and pleased her. Since I can not please her the way a black man can, she is now black only and we no longer have sex. We are now waiting for her to become impregnated. It’s something she really wants and I support Her. Thank you for opening my eyes to a alternate life.
Dr Sue
Well, that’s not how you do it but if it works for you…
mysteryman
The cuck not being allowed access to the wife is a good way to ensure there is no chance of any inferior white DNA contamination of the Black pregnancy. Some couples within the cuckold community are leaning towards keeping the husband away from the wife permanently at some point. There is a building movement within the cuckold community where the husband never has access to the wife’s vagina, ever; the rare virgin cuckold. Women (including white women) should not have to put up with white penises which are inferior to all other penis types.
slave cc
Hello Alan, my wife is from Long Island NY , when she was 14 my wife and girl friends would hang around this restaurant after school, there was an older black man well my wife said he was 30 years old , well he always was there and he’d talk to the young girls like friendly telling them jokes , well after a few times my wife said he seemed to zero in on her, when she use to walk home he always seemed to be around , well one day it started to rain and he offered my wife a ride home so she went with him and that was all that happened , so then he started giving her a ride a few more times and he parked away from her house all the time , then one afternoon before she got out he kind of surprised her and kissed her , she jumped out I guess it it took her by surprise I don’t know but the seed was planted , she became real horny and the next time she saw him ,she went right to him and he drove her to his apartment and well he started kissing her and touching her he got her naked and well he was the first man to have sex with her , so my wife use to go to him every chance she could, she told me she would sneak out of her bedroom window at night and go to see him , she told me he passed her around to his friends at different times he ,had her on birth control pills her mother didn’t know about it , I guess he was a drug dealer and he got busted and thrown in jail and that kind of ended that, but she always dated black boys in high school , I met her a few years later when she was in college , with me it was different she had intercourse with me a few times and our relationship quickly became Femdom , she told me she knew I was a submissive right off and I only had sex one time before I met my wife and that was a fumbling around deal in a car and it lasted like 2 minutes , my wife dominated right from the start , I was in love with her and begged her to marry me and well she finally said yes but it was strictly femdom and soon after we were married she started cuckolding me and well she still is bbc only and I’m her submissive cuckold husband I’m only only allowed to have oral sex with her and I’m locked in chastity and I get ruined orgasms when she feels like I deserve one , my wife doesn’t want to get pregnant by anyone so at least that wasn’t an issue lol take care slave cc
Telly
I am another with low sperm count, so we discussed my wife getting pregnant by another man. We talked about how we wanted to go about it, and both agreed we wanted to put a chance element in it.
We decided on 4-6 men to try to impregnate her. It took us nearly a year to make our selections. I would go to the gym, and observe cocks for size, and got to know the guys who were well hung.
Two I selected, were men I had exchanged oral sex with many times. I hoped to possibly have a son by one of them, that may also grow up with a gay side.
Once the selections were made, we met with all of them, to see if they agreed to do this. Only one said no, and we ended up with four who wanted to donate their sperm. We set a weekend, and asked them all to edge all week, so they would have the largest load of cum possible.
When they arrived, we gave all a Viagra. Then the fucking began. I enjoyed watching the cocks enter her, and how their balls rose and pulsed in their scrotums when they were unloading their seed in her. All kept their cocks buried in her as deep as possible when cumming, to give their sperm the best chance of entering her womb.
All in all, they cum inside her 27 times. After they were done fucking her, I finally added my weak seed into her.
The weekend was successful, resulting in her being impregnated. When the child was born, I was pleased to see he looked just like one of my cock sucking friends.
It will still be a few years before I know for sure if he is going to like sucking cock as much as I do. He spends a lot of time with male friends, and I suspect and hope he may already be a cock sucker.
Laura
Dr Sue,
Thanks for an awesome read. It’s very liberating to hear about the subject from an expert like you. It’s also nice to know that we’re not the only ones who want to practice selective breeding (a great and precise term).
I would like to share our situation with you and your readers. I am a (white) German nurse who is married to the most fantastic (white) German man. We’re very much into interracial cuckolding as we both find it very arousing and very rewarding. It has added new wonderful dimensions to our marriage and to our lives in a more general sense.
You’re indeed very good at understanding the psychological nature of a white cuckold husband who desires to be cuckolded interracially. You describe the nature and the feelings of my husband very well – in fact your description fits so accurately that I would assume that you knew my husband if I didn’t know otherwise.
It was originally my husbands idea to start cuckolding, but in retrospect I don’t hesitate to say that it has been the best thing that could happen to our marriage. Our love for each other has been strengthend in a very beautiful way.
I receive a lot of attention and recognition – both from my husband and from my black boyfriend. It has made me feel complete as a woman.
For some time, I have had a rather strong desire to have a child. Many months ago my husband suggested that I should get pregnant by my black boyfriend. In the beginning I was a little shocked when I found out he seriously wanted this to happen. I thought it was only pillow talk.
My boyfriend has often talked about getting me pregnant with a black baby during our sexual encounters. This has been an unbelievably strong aphrodisiac for all three of us.
When my husband suggested this, my initial thought was: “I can’t do something that cruel and degrading to my husband – even if I would LOVE to have a black child.”
My husband didn’t/doesn’t want to have his own biological children due to a heriditary desease in his family. He wanted to practice selective breeding.
After having considered the matter for many months, we have now finally decided to try to conceive a black child by my lover.
You pose this very relevant question: “Looking from the outside in from a non-kink point-of-view you have to wonder, why would a husband be okay with this?”
And you are absolutely right when you state that humiliation plays a very important role for cuckolds – at least it does for my husband. And like you, I see cuckolding as a form of submission as far as the husband is concerned. I have asked my husband how he’s going to react when other people learn that I have cuckolded him with a black man. It’s absolutely spot on when you write:
“From the cuckolded male’s perspective nothing could be hotter than pushing a baby carriage with a mixed race child that is blatantly not his. For him the idea that genetically superior seed impregnated his wife is intensely erotic and knowing that other people are now seeing the product of his wife’s pregnancy and it isn’t what anyone was expecting… that drives him wild.”
I have asked him numerous times if he is absolutely aware of the ramifications of the decision to have a biracial child. I mean, it may be very hot in the heat of the action, but it’s something very different once a (white) woman married to a (white) man gives birth to a biracial child.
We have decided to do so for these reasons:
We are choosing the (perceived) genetically superior alpha male to breed with as opposed to the weaker, submissive male. My lover is muscular, strong, very handsome and very dominant. My lover is genetically perfect. My husband is a caring man with excellent parental skills. This offers optimal health and optimal opportunities for our child.
TampaJohn
Being a white Alpha male, I don’t participate in that lifestyle, but I would think that a breeding party would be the ideal way to have a child. In my younger years, prior to meeting my wife, I was going through a dark period in my life. I was seeking out married women in chat rooms (less drama). I can’t count the number of married and romantically attached women I have slept with. Many of them were black women. I say this because I don’t feel that black women and white women see black men in the same light. They don’t see black men as the superior beings that cuckold couples do. Plus I read that in real cuckold relationships, the alpha is just as likely to be white than black. People who think that they are all black watch too much porn.
StephanieCDCNJ
Long before I found out I was born without the ability to produce sperm I was a sub sissy (still Closeted). It’s interesting because infertility devastated me and almost destroyed our marriage (nothing to do with sex). While I was open to utilizing a Sperm donor my wife never was. And me being open to it had nothing to do with kink.
It’s weird that something I would think turn me on would hurt so much.
Rusty
Actually for us, we have a cuckold relationship, but years ago we tried and tried to have kids. I had low sperm count and she had issues which surgery fixed. We spent about $30,000 doing invitro and insemination, but non worked. Looking back on it, we should have let one of the men impregnate her which would be the natural way, and saved $30,000. We did end up adopting kids, so for us it would not have been an issue having another man impregnate her, since via adoption, our kids are not from me.
We both agree now, we should have tried that.
Peter McCarthy
Dr Sue,
There are many truths in this article that cannot be denied.
Cuckolding, i think, just makes ‘overt’ what women have been doing instinctively forever – seeking better genes for their child.
Its interesting to correlate this to penis size. I believe most cuckoldresses select men with larger penises, not only because of the enhance deep pleasure they bring her, but also because they are an advert for superior genes. Now, it could be argued that if this was the case, evolution would select out smaller men. However, i believe that the species requires a ratio of about 1 dominant larger male in 20, and women are instinctively procreating in that ratio. The smaller men exist to serve, provide and care for the woman and her children. The larger men display and compete for breeding rights, to ensure that there is always a portion of himanity that carries the dominant gene.
Pete
Dr Sue
Glad you enjoyed it Pete!
Peter McCarthy
Very much so, Dr Sue.
I do think your views on penis size are on the money.
pete