Jimmy writes:
‘[sic]does a money dommes go after guys with less imcome as well as subs who can play big? also how does a money domme keep their slaves addictive to them when they first find a sub or pet?’
The first part of your question Jimmy depends on the Domme. A smart Financial Domme will go after anyone as long as they have money. However there are very picky Domina’s who will only play with you if you have a certain amount of money. What you have to keep in mind is that if you don’t have a lot of money you won’t get a lot of attention. Why would any business person spend large amounts of time on project that doesn’t have a high rate of return? It’s a no brainer, so if you think you’re going to get a Domme to play with you extensively and exploit your weaknesses and all you can give her is maybe $20 a week, not gonna happen my friend.
On to the second part of your question, a Domme, and this is any Domme, is capable of keeping her slaves by learning their weaknesses, their fetishes and then enhancing and exploiting them. This isn’t just something a Financial Domme will do, all good Domme’s do this. It’s part of the service they provide. For example if you’re a leg man she might start off by sending you a few pics of her legs for a price, later she may do cam work with you showing you her legs etc. Every client is different obviously and it’s up to the Domme to find out what your weaknesses are. She knows how to give a little bit to entice and then give more each time until your completely hooked.
As always, love your article and perspective on the subject, Dr. Sue!
Personally, I will play with every pet who pays, period, because for Me, it’s all about the money lol. That being said, you’re 100% right about the fact that big spenders get more attention than those that simply pay for a cam session or buy Me a small gift. I’m a businesswoman and, as you said, it’s not smart business to put time and effort into something that’s not going to pay out in the end.
Before I get a bunch of catty replies about how I’m not a TRUE Domme, let Me say this – I’ve been a Pro-Domme for about 6, going on 7 years now. In the beginning, when I didn’t have 100 guys a week wanting to tribute Me, then yes I would manipulate and exploit every single one of them to the best of My ability – because I had the time and because I enjoyed it. Now, however, I have an ever-growing stable and I simply don’t have TIME for all of it. I still enjoy the manipulation just as much, but I have the ability to pick and choose who I play with now, and I intelligently choose to play primarily with the deep pockets.
Re: tom – I love talented slaves! I have a mailing list 20 miles long and the way My email is set up, I can only send the same email to 100 recipients at a time. I found a webslave that I trust who does the mailing list for Me and I love it! He gets My attention usually whenever he wants it, I even let him sit in on cam sessions sometimes. He pays when he can, and when he can oh boy does he pay! lol, but primarily, he is a worker slave.
You’re nothing but a leech, Kiara.
Hello i have also felt the greed from the Mistress i belong to. When i first started i emphasized to her what i could afford, she agreed that was fine, as long as i remained steady, so i entered into blackmail with her. As time has gone on though now i get more threatening emails from her stating that i had better get another credit card, she also doesn’t want to hear any complaining from me if she assigns items for me to purchase from her wishlist and it goes above the amounts we first agreed on. When i do email her and try to bring up what we discussed when we first started talking, she just responds with shut up and stop complaining, and that my job is to make her life easier.
Hello i had to comment on this, even though i have been my Mistreses property for sometime and i’m obediant and know my place with her, i still get a kick out of the many men that approach her, and even in the beginning tribute her well and even purchase her things, but then there’s a few that do this and stop as they just don’t commit, but here’s the funny part, they continue to prod and poke her like it’s a game and i think to myself you guys don’t know what your getting yourself into because she can be very vicious, if i could warn them before hand i would but if she found out i intervened in how she deals with men that play with her i would be punished, and i’m on a short leash, just like many pets that’re her owned property.
And might I add on behalf of the Domme’s that this type of behavior is EXTREMELY ANNOYING and ultimately rude. Either shit or get off the fence but otherwise you’re wasting her time.
If you don’t have a lot of money, you might have a talent your Mistress can exploit. I’ve done some of my Goddess’ business paperwork for over 7 years, and She has still managed to extract over $11,000 from me during that time. There have been times when my Mistress has driven me to the brink by forcing to re-do days of paperwork … just because She knows I deserve the punishment. And I do. I’m such a wimp. She’s so Superior to me, that She deserves everything I can give Her and more. I’m just grateful that She keeps me on as Her slave.
The problem is that it is also a huge turn on. The scary part comes afterward when the remorse comes in after having spent that money.
But my point is, if you have remorse at any stage of the game, you shouldn’t do it. What if your turn-on was to go on a public bus and ejaculate in some woman’s face, I’d like to think you wouldn’t do it, I’m sure there are some who would and have but it all comes down to choice. Like drinking and driving. If you have addiction issues and can’t say no, stay away from your triggers.
That is called “buyer’s remorse” by marketers, Howie. Usually it sets in after a high pressure sale or impulse buy. Is there anything that’s more of an impulse buy than spending money because you’re horny? Coming down from that high is the ultimate let down but the financial domme has already achieved her objective, so she’s happy. You should take the “No Refunds” small print seriously.
LMFAO!! 🙂 Oh man that was brilliant!
I know I am responsible for my behaviour. And I know that I have no right to a refund. I am normally a very even keeled person. But I also know that I get so high during the seduction by the financial Domme. But then once it’s done, I feel that shame about the money being gone. I know that it may seem funny, and I can understand how, when looking at it from the outside, it can appear that way. But, it’s a serious thing from this angle, I assure you.
Howie…the refund was a joke. Here’s a better way to look at it if you want to still play but are having remorse. Depending of course on your financial situation and I’m assuming that you or anyone else is playing within your means, what you need to consider is this:
If you had a weekend hobby like golf, or tennis, or hockey or something similar you’d have to pay for the equipment, the fees to use the facility etc etc. What’s the difference between blowing off steam using an expensive sport or getting off with a Financial Domme? Keeping in mind that the criteria I set out in my first paragraph is being adhered to. Everyone needs a way to blow off stress, that’s why we have hobbies. There is no difference provided you’re not being a dick about it and robbing your kids college fund. Like I said, drink responsibly, gamble responsibly, play with Domme’s responsibly. But if you have an addiction issue, just don’t play.
If you have regrets about drinking, shouldn’t do it. If you have regrets about playing golf, you shouldn’t do it. It’s all the same thing. One must use one’s head. The one on your shoulders not the itty bitty one between your legs. It tends to lie. 😉
i do try to stay within my budget when i play, but there is one Woman who knows my buttons and pushes them readily. i do realize that i have to stay away from Her for the good of my financial health, but i do so enjoy being with Her. i have been reading all of Your advice earnestly and everything You say is absolutely true. And everything makes complete sense. But sense is sometimes no match for that small brain, especially when the buttons begin to be pushed.
And thus a shining example of capitalism and supply and demand is born. Remember if there were no demand there would be no supply….
Howie,
You sound like you know she is no good for you. You have to make the committment to stay away from her when you’re “sober.” Change your phone number, throw away hers, tell her you’re seeing someone if she contacts you.
Joking aside, I know it is a serious issue. I understand that you are addicted to this fetish which is why you have to structure your life so that will power never becomes the defining factor. If someone is a binge eater and they keep cookies and potato chips in their house, they will not be able to resist the temptation. They have to clean out their cupboards. Don’t even leave yourself the option!
That’s a decision you can make when you’re in your right mind. If you can’t do that then I think you probably need some addiction counseling.
Best of luck to you.
What does one do if he’s totally adicted to a Domme ?
It’s all true. And it’s all scary for us susceptible people.
Then if you know you’re susceptible…don’t seek it out. Pull up your big boy pants and play in another yard. If it’s scary to you, or anyone else, you should never, ever play the game because you’re starting from a negative place. Only do things in your life that feel good to you. If it feels bad. Don’t do it.
WE cant help it! i can’t..i really don’t think you understand..it doesn’t start out this way..we did not want it to happen!!!!
Who’s ‘WE’? Are you speaking on behalf of ALL men indulging in Financial Domination because that’s a pretty ballsy move. Believe it or not some guys LIKE it. If you don’t I’ve already told you what to do both on this blog and in your email.
I just want to say how I love your responses lol! I say this to ALL of My pets who whine about ‘it’s not my fault i’m addicted!’
When did seeking out ‘addiction’ become an excuse for personal responsibilities? We’re all adults here (or else some of us are breaking the law…) so be an adult and deal with the consequences and quit blaming ME for the money you GAVE Me!
That shit gets old.