Financial Domination comes from a deep need for a loss of control. Financial Domination can be played in a myriad of ways but the main idea is a dominant woman seductively or harshly manipulating money from a submissive male.
For the submissive the idea of having a woman take money from him or manipulate him into a state of wanting to give money to her is incredibly erotic. In some cases the submissive male even dreams of complete financial ruination. This is extreme but has been done by many femme dommes in the past. Usually Financial Domination just involves the taking or giving of money either on a scheduled basis, through coercion or blackmail, or just out of an intense need to give.
Now for those of you who are reading this thinking, ‘you’d have to be nuts to get off on that,’ let me remind you that everyone has their own erotic fantasies however if you’ve ever taken a woman on a date, you’ve been financially dominated. If you’ve ever been screwed over in a divorce, you’ve been financially dominated. So don’t be too quick to judge. For some it’s painful, for others it’s very hot.
This is another fetish that has an underlying current of humiliation as well, but again it depends on the individual. To hear a woman laughing and telling you what a sucker you are can be very arousing.
Financial Domination can be done by phone, mail, live sessions or just about any way that’s imaginable. Being a Sugar Daddy is a more controlled form of Financial Domination but usually involved sex. The true fetish doesn’t involve sex at all because the dominant female wouldn’t dream of having sex with an unworthy submissive. The fact that he’s giving to her is simply because he feels that he isn’t worthy of the money but she, being more powerful and beautiful, should be made to enjoy her life with his money but without any tangible benefit to him. The mere fact that he has given the money is the benefit to him.
I use this metaphor a lot when I’m describing the feelings of the submissive in Financial Domination. When you go to a Christian church there is a time in the service where the plate is passed around and every one gives money to help keep the church running. No one there expects anything from that offering. They certainly don’t expect the pastor to get down and say blow the congregation in gratitude. (Lol that’s probably a whole other fetish.) No, in fact you give because you WANT to, you want to make sure your church is there for you next week, that the pastor can eat for the week and the bills can be paid. It’s the exact same thing with submissive men. If it’s done correctly they look at the woman as a goddess, a deity. To offer up money to their goddess is just the right thing to do. Her life is ALL that matters. As a submissive male you want to eat, sleep and breathe this woman. She IS your religion.
Hello Dr. Sue. I love this post.
From one Dr. to another, I have, what I hope to be an eye opening and intriguing theory. We have looked at what financial domination / moneyslavery is, but we have not REALLY looked at what makes a moneyslave. What triggers it, when does one realize he is, how does it happen. It’s not necessarily a lightning bolt in my opinion. I truly believe its a glitch in the male mind system that is embraced and encouraged by societal messages, some subliminal and some more obvious. If you don’t believe me check out the Piggest Hits on our website at moneyslaves.com where we have a small selection of songs that emphasize paying a woman, and spoiling her etc etc. Humans in general can be retrained, reprogrammed over time,using repetition, subliminal messages, the power of suggestions and manipulating the concept of free will.
It makes me somewhat disappointed in a sense, when Princesses / Dommes see pigs / financial slaves as a scarce commodity when in reality, using already planted seeds, you can turn ANY man into a submissive paypig. Just like children and in general society is reprogrammed, I firmly believe that any man can be turned into a paypig whether its online or real time. The problem, in my opinion, is that we live in the fast food culture where many dommes want a ready made pig, ready to spend, while not really appreciating the fact that converting someone and introducing them to it, is going to be 100 times more financially beneficial to them because this domme will be the only thing this pig knows. It would be a slow gradual process, but it will be lucrative in my opinion. Much like the power of accrued interest and small payments, it pays off big in the long run.
I’ve touched upon this in my first Porkology 101 article, titled “How to Turn Any Man into a Paying Pig”. But have not even scratched the surface of reprogramming the male psyche into financial domination.
So here are a few questions to Dommes / Princesses on this site…. Do you think that you can turn ANY man into a paying pig, or do you think its an inherent trait that someone has?
Do you seek someone already a paypig or do you look for good candidates that you can extract cash from and introduce them slowly to it???
Dr. Nil. PHD (Pork & Ham Degree.
I am a TransDomina who have different activities with Fetish and BDSM.
In response to your question if we can turn any man into paying pig. Yes, it is indeed. Without seeing into it and trying to do so. Based on my experienced, I have seen that I actually doing it with noticing and now it’s part of my activities.
I am a submissive guy who is addicted to Financial Domination. This has been a gradual journey of self-discovery for me. As a young boy my early fantasies where about being stripped and humiliated by women. It soon progressed to footworship, pantyfetish, cock control, ballbusting….and now Financial Domination.
I am so addicted to Financial Domination it now replaces any need for sexual intercourse or relationship with a woman. The orgasm I get when my wallet is being stripped by a mistress is like nothing on earth…simply mindblowing.
I would be interested for comments from Mistresses of their personal journey within the fetish world, especially with regard to Financial Domination. What do you find erotic…have your fantasies changed over the years…is Financial Domination better than sex…and so on.
Icky you’re gonna love my upcoming new radio show where we’ll be discussing just these questions with some of the internet’s most successful Dominas. Stay tuned to this site for more info. It’s coming in May.
Speaking for myself, I can say that when I was doing more full time Financial Domination it becomes almost like a drug. The more money you take the more you want all to the detriment of the sub. We really don’t care about the subs being wallet raped. It’s all about the money and the more money the hotter it is sexually. It feeds the narcissistic personalities that are inherent in all Dommes but even more so a Financial Domme.
I understand it is all about the money…what made you decide to give it all up
Is this blogg a way of keeping in touch with your addiction…does it turn you on simply by discussing financial domination
I look forward to hear more about the radio broadcast in May
To answer you questions icky, I haven’t completely given it all up. I still indulge here and there but I don’t have patience for idiots anymore. No the blog is not a way of keeping in touch with my addiction it’s to educate. No it doesn’t turn me on to talk about Financial Domination, that’s a typical male thing to ask and shows your depth or the lack there of. It’s questions and comments such as what you just said that get on my nerves and is an example of why I don’t do it as much anymore.
I am sorry. I sometimes misjudge situations…since the subject matter can be of more personal nature …compared for example…. to talking about the weather. This means I can be a bit too familiar with people when discussing things.
I hope you are alright
LOL I’m just fine…
I, personally, was ashamed of My fetish at first. Once I started to accept who I was, it’s exactly as Dr. Sue said – it became like a drug. I not only accepted it as part of Me, I began to crave it. Then I began to need it. And now, it is so engrained in My being that I don’t know what I would do without it.
And, no, I don’t give a shit about any of the pets that are in My stable. The only sub I care about is the one that’s paying Me right now, in this very moment. And as soon as he stops tributing Me, he is nothing to Me. It’s not that I’m angry or bitter that he stopped – it’s just that he ceases to exist in My world.
What I love the most out of it all is when My pets give and give and give of their own will – without needing to be told or coerced or drained. The ones that give for the very reason that they want My life to be better, that they know that I deserve to live like a Princess. THAT is what I love.
What I find erotic is the day after. When the slave comes to Me, begging for Me to make it better. Telling Me how much it hurts him to see his bank account drained by Me. Being a sadist, the pain of the sub is what gets Me off – knowing that I caused that pain is one of the sweetest things in My world.
I also felt ashamed, at first, with my addiction to financial slavery, but now accept it as part of who I am.
Your comments that it is not about the sub…only about the money..echoe my thoughts. With me it is more about the power exchange (transfer of money) rather than the Mistress.For example, I have been financially dominated by women on telephone chatlines, who were at first unaware of the fetish, whom I never saw or met. I have been a pet to a 70 year old granny. Basically…it is the thought of being abused that turns me on… whoever she may be.
With a professional Financial Domme, there is more visual ‘candy’ involved, which makes the ‘foreplay’ more exciting…legs, stockings, etc.
But it is at the point of being wallet raped that I get the most pleasure..the release I get is like a tantric experience.
I’m glad you made these distinctions. I don’t agree with having to lure guys in with me squeezing my tits on cam or whatever. Screw that. If you wanna really feel raped, just hand it over. That’s why I remain and always will enigmatic. It’s more of a mind fuck that way. I realize men are visual bitches but I just refuse to go down that road. Anyone can get money from a guy by dangling her good in front of him, try doing it with nothing, that’s a challenge and makes the game more fun.
You are a waste of my time. i seek a meaningful relationship with a Domme and its people like You who are giving the real Dommes out there a bad name. If you don’t care about your subs than why are they wasting their time on you? i’m sorry but i actually want a future with a Domme as my superior Partner.
i am not disrespecting anyone, i am merely pointing out that i personally would not spend any time trying to cultivate a relationship that is never going to happen. i ask You again: why on Gods green earth would i waste my time on a Domme who doesn’t give a flying fuck about me?
This is not arrogance, this is about simple human companionship. You know that thing that is rapidly being replaced with shallow, cold, callous you-pay-me-for-my-time-or-fuck-off attitude. Oddly enough, i have much more fun playing with women who are not natural Dommes but are asked to act like one. They are much more appreciative of what i do for them than these so-called “Pro Dommes”. And guess what? i do the same damn things for them that a sub would do for a “Pro” Domme. See the difference? i want an actual human being as a long-term Partner (i believe the term is Female Led Relationship). Could You offer that to any of Your subs? Or do You have so many in Your “stable” that they are nothing but sheep to You?
First of all James you disrespected me in your original comment. Then you disrespected Domina Kiara in that comment. Why do you have to disparage what others do in this area of fetish when you make it quite clear it’s not your thing. That’s great! But don’t come down on others who enjoy it and get off on it. What you do makes you happy. Good for you but you don’t say that people who don’t do what you do are somehow flawed be they Domme or sub. As I said before. Live and let live but certainly don’t be rude.
James, you know, you are not a true sub. It’s the ones like you, the ones that think they run things, that really annoy the heck out of me. Know your place and shut up. I am a PSO and I work for an adult text service. I do ALL fetishes … the worst “clients” are the ones that act like subs, but think they can boss me around. Seriously? You are a complaining, whiney loser!
I’ll take money from any loser who respectfully offers to give it to me. However, that isn’t what really excites me. I love being completely in control of a slave’s mind and finances. I do not believe in ruining a slave if he does not want it. But i should ALWAYS be in control. If he needs a budget, I am the one who tells him what is acceptable to give and to keep. This is what is enjoyable for me. I LOVE CONTROL! And I love being a drug. When a loser is completely owned as a long term committed slave and addicted to me, I am the happiest. But don’t confuse me as just enjoying being a Dom. I am only interested in financial domination. Session submission (quick wallet rapes on phonesites or on webcam, etc.) and long term financial slavery are both like having sex. Mind fucking and using your fetishes, desires and admiration to addict you is the foreplay. Domination (the act of taking/having control) is the sex. FINANCIAL domination (taking your money) is the ORGASM. (and what woman doesn’t love multiple orgasms?!) So while I do enjoy being in control, it is pointless, unfulfilling, and a waste of time without being financially satisfied. This is why I only own financial slaves and I call myself a Findom.
That being said, financial domination is not erotic for me. I do not play with myself or get horny while wallet raping. It is mentally and emotionally (and obviously financially) satisfying for me. And its just fuckin fun! It’s one thing that makes me happy in many ways. Now that I have discovered the art of it, I cannot imagine ever completely stopping. The more I play with slaves, the more i realize my natural love for being a spoiled, controlling, and greedy brat. I have dominated, controlled, and used men in the past before I even knew what “domination” was. I really do believe having a dominant personality is just something you are born with (which is maybe why I am settling into the scene much easier than a lot of dommes that disappear in a couple months).
But like the most subs that serve me, this is not my vanilla life. Though I do have dominant aspects in my natural personality, I’m kind, caring, and very generous in my vanilla life. I love giving to those in need and spoiling my loved ones. I cannot (and do not want to) act out on these feelings of greed and control with vanilla people. If i was bratty, spoiled, controlling with everyone in my life, I wouldn’t get anywhere, be widely hated, and/ or never have valuable relationships with anyone who wasn’t submissive. I know I wouldn’t want to be friends or have a relations with someone who was a 24/7 raging bitch that only cared about themselves (of course because i’m not submissive). Being a spoiled bitch is not acceptable behavior in vanilla life, so those feelings are suppressed. This is why it is a fetish. It’s taboo. And I like keeping it that way. Makes it much more exciting and fulfilling when I do act on those desires.
I laugh at people who say if you aren’t sadistic and controlling 24/7 than you aren’t a “lifestyle” financial domme. Lifestyle means you carry this into your romantic relationships (and some women do). I do not, so I don’t claim to truly be a lifestyle domme. I don’t fuck unworthy losers, or desire a partner with who is submissive. I want and deserve a romantic partner who is my equal, in bed and in life. “A REAL MAN”. Non of my subs are my equal. They are ALL beneath me and therefore LOSERS in my eyes.
Thanks for your comments on what you like about financial domination. It was very interesting..seeing things from a domme’s perspective.
I also appreciated your views about your lifestyle when you aren’t being a financial domme…which intrigued me, since most dommes never show their softer side. In my eyes,the fact that you also have a caring side to your personality does not diminish your status as a financial domme. Of course, like most subs, when you are in the role of mistress, I like to be treated meanly.
I must confess that I tend not to stay loyal to the dommes I meet. I may have dealings with a domme for a few sessions and afterwards move on to another mistress. This may be due to the fact that the relationship between a financial domme and a sub is purely for money, on the part of the domme and sexual for the sub. Therefore, just like any other relationship that is not based on any deeper understanding, you will stray.
However, it does not bother me that there is no ‘bonding’ between a mistress and a sub, but it will explain why I am not tied to any particular domme
Interesting. I enjoy long term commitments with mine. It doesn’t always work out, but when it’s right, I am very loyal and long term. I have had two relationships that each lasted over ten years (the first was years before there was even a name for the fetish yet lol but findom topped my fetish list already). Right now I am in one that is “only” going on 3 years, but I dont see it ending any time soon. This is also the second time I have turned a vanilla live in girlfriend into a findom Owner who demoted me to far less than I once was. So the cuckold thing plays into it to. But I am much more commited, interesting to read your opposite take on it.
I am a domme, new to the world of financial domination. I have been asked by a couple of subs to explore their findom fetish. Finding this information helped to to understand how to satisfy my subs erge while we are in a session. Although I am professional domme I take the time to conect and bond with my subs. It bothered me after i asked them to buy me things they left, now I understand I was not fulfilling their fetish experience. Thanks
My Mistress has put a link to the page on her blog and is very pleased with my comment! Thanks for putting it on, Dr Sue.
Scorpio, when you find yourself masturbating over PayPal or bank statements, that’s when you know it’s fin domme…..
This has been an interesting read. I’ve been into online domination for a while but that’s become more and more financially based thanks to my Mistress of the last year, Princess Samantha (also known on the web as Samantha XXX**). She’s is a genuine model, totally unobtainable, and she has NEVER removed her clothing for me. Once I found her, to be honest I’ve quickly fallen for her, and I’ve spent thousands in the last year on her (having never done more than £50 a month on my previous mistress of 3 years). And I love it. Absolutely and unconditionally. I love spoiling her and talking to her and humiliating myself for her. But most of all I love sending her money. It’s an amazing sexual thrill for me, and one I’m totally addicted to. Moreover, it’s an addiction I don’t ever want to break. I don’t regret it, I don’t doubt it and I don’t ever want it to change. We have a relationship in which she knows I’ll give what I can and I know she won’t demand what I can’t pay, and will still treat me as her piggy. This means our relationship is long term and sustainable, so much so that I pay some of her bills by direct debit and am about to take out a £6000 loan for her. She dominates my thoughts and my time and I’m so grateful that I’ve found her. People may judge financial domination, but they don’t understand how fulfilling it can be. I couldn’t live without it or without her.
**redacted by Dr. Sue, “we don’t use actual names on this site boys!!”
To DR. SUE….:
well, first of all… I’m just trying to get some thoughts answered, which has been in mind lately. I’m a Scorpio male. To be honest, I’ve fallen in love with my best friend and she is a Scorpio woman. She’s been in a financial rut for some time lately. Hella issues which she needs to respondsibly accomplish on her own but never have the time. In the beginning when I first helped her out cash-wise it was for her shattered windshield on her car. I thought bout it….and u really didn’t want her being pulled over by police with her kids in the car. So I helped her out. Started by helping on that issue…but now its a here and there situation especially once I receive pay paycheck. But with me being in love And wanting this girl for myself…I can never say “NO” to what she wants. It’s been happening as: whatever she wants to do or go; I always make sure she gets it. DR SUE: would this be a form or lightway to categorize my part as the submissive in a FINANCIAL DOMINATION” situation? I need answers please.
Scorpio 415
Scorpio,
My apologies for a late reply I’ve been insanely busy lately. In your case I would NOT classify this as financial domination. Are you an enabler? YES! You need to stop rescuing her. First of all it’s not your place. As a friend you should only give her advice on how she can make more money to help herself or suggest ways to bring herself out of the situation she’s in. No more than that. She needs to learn to become an independent strong female and what you’re doing isn’t going to do that. The only way this would be financial domination would be if you got off on what you’re doing. You have to remember that there is a sexual element involved in Financial Domination and it doesn’t sound like there is one in your case. What’s happening to you is, you’re being passively aggressively manipulated, and hell that goes on all the time. I suppose it could be considered a mild form of FD but unless there’s intent on her part maliciously speaking, it doesn’t qualify. Now that’s not to say that at this point, because you’ve helped her so much that she isn’t now using you for the money, she is but it’s not in a malicious way, it’s in a lazy ass way. That’s why the best thing you could do is cut her off at the knees and just guide her and not give to her.
Read the recent comment above by Samsbitchpiggy and you’ll see the difference that I’m talking about Scorpio.
As a mistress with a deep passion for milking and draining my wallets.. From my point oif view, a slave becomes my propert,y my toy, my human atm and a huge part of the enjoyment I get is in from the exchange of power, building a relationship with the slave, training him to serve and expoliring his weakness and encouraging his deep need to give and spoil me.. many slaves fall in love with me but they are always reminded I am elegant, voluptuous, powerful and always unattainable…. the hallmark of a true mistress £
Yes Princess Nikki you are the most beautiful and skillful findom on the internet. You captured me 2 years ago and I can’t escape.
I would like to learn more…find a woman into this
I am sorta new to financial domination (I guess u can say) but you would never kno it just by talking to me. I have done extensive research before I began to give in my need to rule men & their wallets! There is a certain level of respect you have to have for your subs… You may not let them know that you “care” (term is used loosely) if they have a basic sense of normal life. If they do not have this, there will be no need to spoil me. Just like u have to not eat to be hungry. I have a few subs that serve… But I have one that is extra loyal to his mistress! Once he had hinted that I wasn’t treating him like a domme, and he got in very big trouble… But it made me realize that he wants this as much as I do! And he isn’t being forced to do any of it… He serves me bcuZ he wants to… But he does disappear every so often at the weirdest times!?! Like mid conversation… Over txt. Then I don’t hear from him for a couple days??? makes me uber angry. Should I worry? Chill ? (he got my name tattooed on him) then disappeared… Idk? But thnx for this blog! Great job!