Finding just the right Pro Domme is equivalent to finding just the right hairstylist. It takes some time and a bit of trial and error. The most important part is the connection. You have to have a connection with her, if there’s no connection the relationship is a waste of both of your time.
Start by hitting the internet and typing in pro domme and then what ever city you live in or live near. Figure out ahead of time how far you’re willing to travel. There are an insane amount of Pro Domme top lists and directories out there. Websites like Collar Me and other forums are great places to do your research. Even Yahoo chatrooms for your area can be a treasure trove of available dommes.
You want to start by looking at her website and seeing what she’s in to and if she’s compatible with your own needs and desires. Not every domme is in to every fetish. You want to be attracted to her so check out her pictures but don’t limit yourself to looks. Once you find a domme that’s a possibility, email her and explain what you’re looking for and a bit of what you’re in to. An online correspondence is important to get to know one another first. If you email her and she doesn’t respond, forget about her. Unless she emails you saying she was out of town or on vacation there’s no excuse to ignore you.
You have to remember, even though you’re dealing with a dominant female and you want her to take control during your session, you’re still a paying customer. Now that doesn’t mean you can make a ton of demands and act rude, that’s just a sure fire way to get yourself blacklisted. There’s also very little room for fee negotiation. If you start haggling with her, you’ll lose her. There are more submissives out there who are willing to pay more than the going rate for a good session then they can handle so keep that in mind.
When it comes to your first session with her, if you haven’t had an extensive online ‘getting to know you’ time period your first session should be only that, getting to know YOU. She should spend a good deal of time finding out your needs, your wants and the especially the things you don’t want. That’s not to say that a good domme won’t push your limits, she will, but after she gets to know you and gets to know your mind. If she just takes you to her dungeon and begins a session without talking to you first leave, she’s not a professional and has no regard for you.
A first session for you is to see if you have that connection. Is this the goddess you’ve been looking for? Do you feel a pull to her? If you don’t have a connection, don’t re-book but give her the courtesy of telling her that the connection isn’t there for you. If she’s a professional she won’t be put off by this.
It may take you a few first sessions to find just the right lady but it will pay off in the long run. The more time you take choosing your domme the better and more memorable your sessions will be.
Thank you Dr. Sue for spending time writing these articles. Your articles are very interesting and helpful to me.
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