Financial Domination comes from a deep need for a loss of control. Financial Domination can be played in a myriad 
of ways but the main idea is a dominant woman seductively or harshly manipulating money from a submissive male.
For the submissive the idea of having a woman take money from him or manipulate him into a state of wanting to give money to her is incredibly erotic. In some cases the submissive male even dreams of complete financial ruination. This is extreme but has been done by many femme dommes in the past. Usually Financial Domination just involves the taking or giving of money either on a scheduled basis, through coercion or blackmail, or just out of an intense need to give.
Now for those of you who are reading this thinking, “you’d have to be nuts to get off on that,” let me remind you that everyone has their own erotic fantasies however if you’ve ever taken a woman on a date, you’ve been financially dominated. If you’ve ever been screwed over in a divorce, you’ve been financially dominated. So don’t be too quick to judge. For some it’s painful, for others it’s very hot.
This is another fetish that has an underlying current of humiliation as well, but again it depends on the individual. To hear a woman laughing and telling you what a sucker you are can be very arousing.
Financial Domination can be done by phone, mail, live sessions or just about any way that’s imaginable. Being a Sugar Daddy is a more controlled form of Financial Domination but usually involved sex. The true fetish doesn’t involve sex at all because the dominant female wouldn’t dream of having sex with an unworthy submissive. The fact that he’s giving to her is simply because he feels that he isn’t worthy of the money but she, being more powerful and beautiful, should be made to enjoy her life with his money but without any tangible benefit to him. The mere fact that he has given the money is the benefit to him.
I use this metaphor a lot when I’m describing the feelings of the submissive in Financial Domination. When you go to a Christian church there is a time in the service where the plate is passed around and every one gives money to help keep the church running. No one there expects anything from that offering. They certainly don’t expect the pastor to get down and say blow the congregation in gratitude. (Lol that’s probably a whole other fetish.) No, in fact you give because you WANT to, you want to make sure your church is there for you next week, that the pastor can eat for the week and the bills can be paid. It’s the exact same thing with submissive men. If it’s done correctly they look at the woman as a goddess, a deity. To offer up money to their goddess is just the right thing to do. Her life is ALL that matters. As a submissive male you want to eat, sleep and breathe this woman. She IS your religion.
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I would like to learn more…find a woman into this
I am sorta new to financial domination (I guess u can say) but you would never kno it just by talking to me. I have done extensive research before I began to give in my need to rule men & their wallets! There is a certain level of respect you have to have for your subs… You may not let them know that you “care” (term is used loosely) if they have a basic sense of normal life. If they do not have this, there will be no need to spoil me. Just like u have to not eat to be hungry. I have a few subs that serve… But I have one that is extra loyal to his mistress! Once he had hinted that I wasn’t treating him like a domme, and he got in very big trouble… But it made me realize that he wants this as much as I do! And he isn’t being forced to do any of it… He serves me bcuZ he wants to… But he does disappear every so often at the weirdest times!?! Like mid conversation… Over txt. Then I don’t hear from him for a couple days??? makes me uber angry. Should I worry? Chill ? (he got my name tattooed on him) then disappeared… Idk? But thnx for this blog! Great job!
I am currently a victim of Financial Domination, in my case through webcam seduction…i am and always was in doubt between trying to stop and having to go on…i think it’s part of me and yes…it excites me incredibly to have a beautiful woman using my fetishes to get money from me….it’s hard to explain the reasons behind this…but it’s there and i can’t deny it
Here we go again another ‘victim’. You aren’t a victim, you asked to have this done so stop playing the victim role. You need to read my post We All Need a Hobby.
Yes it is a fetish, but one that IMO is sick & dangerous.
Considering that it is $$$ involved $$$ the consequences are HUGE.
Especially if you’re putting your fetish into the hands of a criminal.
This is what most of these women are.
They are not responsible practitioners of a D/s fetish.
They are primarily immature little girls who are too lazy to work, & instead
take money from those who they deem as Losers.
A lot of these Losers have wives, & children of their own, & while it isn’t solely the fault
of the fake domme, she is accountable.Yet almost none of these women are willing to look at it
as any other way than a play fetish that makes them cash.
They could care less when these guys can’t pay their car loans, mortgages, rent, etc..
They laugh about the whole addiction thing with their fake annoying voices.
However a lot of these guys are really addicted.
The addiction really does ruin their lives.
I have seen it firsthand on many of the adult boards where i have participated
for years.
A lot of these guys are ruined.
I really wish that we would criminalize this.
I can guarantee you that if a few of these cases were to make it to court in an open way
this would happen.
I like what GoddessVona said
I think having a true D/s relationship is about a mutual connection, but call me old school. It seems like nowadays everyone is trying to get into bdsm without knowing the history, culture and lifestyle. Just a thought.
I despise these fake dominatrices that I have actually mastered in real life situations.
I wonder how the hell anyone could be taken in by them when many of the ones i have met
are anything but dominatrices.
I know several that actually buy gifts & pay their boyfriends like a pimp.
Gee, Hov. I’m surprised you didn’t add that it was “degrading to women” as well. lol
I have just this week begun the process of becoming my ex gf’s money slave. I’m not even sure if she knows it lol. She isn’t stupid though she is incredibly intelligent and beautiful and she just made me buy her $519 in clothes including the gift wrapping. She told me yesterday that she is just doing it to make me happy, but we will see where it goes when she recieves her $198 jeans and (2) $138 tops. I have a feeling she is going to get a taste of what she could be doing to me on a regular basis. I’ve actually always wanted her to do this to me going back as far as when we met in college and i have enormous cuckold fantasies of her…OMG. She is becoming more condiscending and superior in her attitude towards me. And she is starting to worry that i will not want to do this in the future…she is so cute, lol, i need a suddle way to bring up blackmail to her lol. I think she is a natural but is just naive as to what she can be. I just can’t wait for tomorrow….omg she is going to look SO adorably cute in the clothes she picked out and told me to buy her…i think i will probably immediately cum in my pants. I guess my point of this is that it’s much hotter when someone you love. and were in love with, turns and makes you their money slave..OMG i feel like i’m flying on bubbly clouds of endorphins never to be let down.
Tell her you think blackmail would be erotic. Remember she’s not a professional Domme so she wouldn’t even know about that. She’d probably love doing it, it tends to feed our female sinister side. Well…it does mine anyway. Keep us posted and let us know how she’s doing J.S.
P.S. Enjoy those bubbly clouds, aren’t they fun!!?
He doesnt want to tell her he wants her to tell him. I would suggest that when you are highly excited that you talk about how you wouldn’t want certain people to find out and how embarrassing it would be while you are grunting like a pig. Then right when you are cumming which would be also the same time that you are buying her something, since that is what you are into, you ask the BIG question, “you won’t tell anyone will you, uhhh, uhhh, oh my god I can’t believe I came.” then if you want you can let her know that you’ve always been worried about that and that at the same time it turns you on like nothing else. Don’t worry she’ll know what to do next time.
That’s all waaaaay too much trouble. Just tell the girl what you want. So much easier. Shit and they say women complicate things…
Well after about 2 weeks i see that you were right Dr. Sue, my ex gf isn’t a professeional Domme..lol! She just wants to be treated as a Princess, and she is really, but she doesn’t get why in the world i would want to be told what to do and that i’m her property. She doesn’t have the slightest idea why i would want her to step on my genitals with the cowgirl boots i bought her lol
. She doens’t get why i would want her to tell me i have a small penis and she said it would be easier for her to accept gifts from me if i were her boyfriend …omg wtf? haha. I don’t think she has it in her, and it’s so weird because when i was her boyfriend she was SO bitchy and superior acting towards me. She even cheated on me at the end of our relationship (well i think all the way through it actually) and i was totally her cuckold. Even my Mom told me she was turning me into her cuckold, but i was in total denial and love. I really didn’t know what a cuckold was anyway haha. She would just come home totally wreaking of sex and then sit by me…i mean i always could never keep my hands off of her, and i would start kissing her down her body and eventually get to the wet creamy suprise in her panties. I don’t know if she knew that i knew, and i didn’t really want to know that i knew either, but i did it anyway. OMG she was sooo hot back then and i could not help myself. And when i would look up at her she would have the most sinister look of extacy on her face….and that only turned me on more. So i dont know, i really thought it was going to work out, i mean now with financial domination. But i seriously am having my doubts. Just wanted to keep you posted and thanks for listening. – J.S.
Interesting J.S. sounds like you were so close and then shut it down too soon. She may not be able to get back to that point. Hard to say. Doesn’t mean she can’t be taken back to that point but I think you’d be smart to tell her that you enjoyed that part of your relationship. Remember they aren’t psychic so you do have to speak up with what you want. Financial Domination can be tricky though.
I read almost the whole blog starting from the end and almost got all the way to the beginning before I had to come finally at this article of all articles. Three and a half hours of continuous masturbating is definitely a record for me. Definitely attributed to two things: this blog keeping ky attention and those pops that I took that made it too hard for me to cum, no pun intended. Thank you for the blog Sue. I lookforward to calling you sometime. Marty aka the guy that you found cute because I was jerking to the feedback on your nf listing.
I’m glad to see that the blog is keeping your attention. Isn’t it fascinating how easy is it is to fall in to a trance and lose track of time when reading something that you find highly erotic. Especially if you can hear my voice and I know you can cause we’ve spoken before it’s like you and I are chatting. You know I knew a gentleman who was so entranced by what I wrote, it was like he was compelled to come back everyday. It would literally, according to him, become more and more arousing each time he came back. He told me that sometimes he would read an article over and over and with each reading he would get hornier and hornier. He was so absorbed by the words he said it felt as though he could feel himself get weaker the more aroused he became. That the words spoke to him and created a connection he’d never experienced before. Isn’t that incredible. Unusual, but incredible. That’s why I LOVE the human mind, don’t you?
Oh dear, I found myself reading your reply over and over again and started to feel the same way. You planned that didn’t you. Sue, try not to think of an easily manipulated man. Please try not to because it will only make it worse for me.
Again, so cute Marty. Why not just enjoy whatever feeling you get from it?
It is cute. It’s like your a well-read chronic masturbator. who can only get off by literature. It’s unique and I like unique. But then that isn’t fair because I know a lot more than what my readers know about you which is basically nothing. So I’m somewhat biased.
It seems there are more women then ever doing financial domination & it just feeds my addiction
I am also a Money Slave… it’s hard to describe why i do this… i just know that it’s incredibly irresistible to me the feeling of a beautiful woman teasing me to make me weak and get all She wants from me…
Coming from a Dominatrix, I have subs who have a financial fetish. It’s one of my favorites but I do other fetishes as well. I prefer “real-time” sessions compared to online but for my subs who have this particular fetish– I can say it’s quite interesting. Not only does it feel like xmas everyday but seeing my subs have an orgasm-like feeling when they are spending money on is quite erotic. Again, I only do this offline but I do know you can do this online as well. Great for those who have this fetish who can’t serve you in person.
For those wanting to be a “financial dominatrix”, it’s not something you wake up one day and decide to do. I personally believe its a way of life, who you are… Your either a Domme or not. Potential subs will find out fast those who are pretending to be something they are not. What I can suggest to subs who are looking into financial domination or finding that one Domme who can fulfill their kinky desires (online/offline) is to make sure you have a connection with her. I think having a true D/s relationship is about a mutual connection, but call me old school. It seems like nowadays everyone is trying to get into bdsm without knowing the history, culture and lifestyle. Just a thought.
Stay Kinky
BH
speaking as a sub, we know. there is a difference between goldigger and findom.
It feels like when just the tip of a knife caresses the skin stimulating the outer nerve endings,
the electric charge pulsating through the body. It is different than an orgasm though. It feels better.
It lasts days and makes you actually feel strong and self confident. It can occur from the feeling of being permanently owned and that every set period of time she comes first you pay her bills, her expenses are yours. It quickly makes me love my Mistress and it’s real. I love Mistress Cami Fine!!!!
NGB
hello
I met a princess online and she always get me to cave into her demands and I seem to be giving her more money lately. just can’t keep up with this fetish just so hard for me to say no to her she even offered to budget my money too not sure what that is about? anyone ever done it before or did it to a slave? not sure if I am hooked into being a money slave trying to stay away but it so hard for me. not sure what to think about all this?
B”H
You do have to budget your money. set up a realistic payment schedule. Don’t try to show off if you don’t have it. But you have to sit down and see what is the minimum and maximum. If you reach the maximum its part of the lifestyle for her to try to get more. But a an absolute maximum must be there.
Guarantee her a minimum and ALWAYS keep it. do extras when you can TRY to be sure you can get her extra. I for example can’t do this without a second job. I made a life choice
This is all part of it. Make sure its for you. You can always give to her just to give. Make sure the LIFESTYLE is what you want
I find this very interesting and would like to try it. A pretty woman taking seems hot.
It is hott and sexy!
It certainly can be.
hi love all the great advice from everyone on your webpage. DR SUE when you do financial domination what skills or interaction did you used to inspire your pets?
It literally depends on the individual client’s needs and vulnerabilities so it will vary per person. I’m still a huge believer in Dommes not using naked shots of themselves because it’s degrading to the woman and puts you at the level of a porn star. Not that porn stars are bad but that isn’t the image a Domina should be portraying. So you never would get naked shots of me. Other than that rule it’s open season. I was always very good at blackmail. That’s my strong point. I love digging things up on people however I tend to play more responsibly than most. Not to say I wouldn’t call a wife here or there but she rarely knew who I really was.
BH give
Darn Straight Dr. Sue a lot of men think Domes are hookers or porn stars, but that is not true. Very few women actually touch the guy as more than erotic flirting. I can say that the feeling is beyond orgasmic. I don’t feel ashamed and blackmail? Ask My Mistress Cami Fine. Some of us get stronger by the findom. It is the ultimate act of strength to allow yourself vulnerability. I give not because I can but because I like to bring pleasure to others. Findom is the ultimate in this.
The Blackmail though must be incredibly exciting, like a collar and tether that has small razors (not lethal) if you keep up with Mistress they will arouse you. if not you will hurt yourself . Although some just will not move and don’t care about pain, but they will move anyways just because they like their Mistress.
For men who do this when married I say look at your ring, the Blackmail is your fault.
Don’t cry when it comes back to you. You basically got yourself a second wife, except she doesn’t sleep with you. Now live with it. She grew to rely on you and she should not be thrown away.
If you break it off at least talk to her and give her a parting gift that shows you respect her.
Because just stopping is disrespectful. Dr. Sue while I don’t agree with calling wives, the guy should know that you’re not his toy.
But there are ways of sending a message to the ‘victim’ via the wife in a very non-descript way that the wife doesn’t have a clue but when she tells the victim the indirect message he gets the most intense fear/adrenaline/endorphin rush imaginable. At that point he not only feels the closeness of the tether, he feels his mistress’s breath on the back of his neck. There’s nothing like it in the world. No harm, no foul.
I think financial domination is risky for the domme as well. Can’t you get in trouble with the IRS?
Can’t you get in trouble with paypal and alertpay? Niteflirt mentions needing your SSN for certain things and imagine if they got hacked and all of your info got out.
I don’t think being a findomme is fun and games, it really is a job and a job with risks.
Do dommes use their real names for paypal accounts and alertpay accounts? Don’t those names show up in their transactions? I don’t think you’re allowed to use aliases on those sites.
In my minds eye, I see this Financial Domination as a scam. Why on Earth are ppl out to destroy a submissive by taking all their money and forcing them into bancruptcy?? Why are they destroying their family life by not paying their bills? by not paying for their childrens needs? and by not paying for their own needs?
Being a good Dominant isnt about taking all that you can from your submissive, its about teaching and helping them to grow. At first when I looked at Financial Domination, I thought the sub was giving money to the Dominant, and that Dominant would be setting that subs money aside and helping them LEARN how to spend it, save it etc. But, instead, they are taking this subs money and NOT returning it? In any relationship whether its vanilla or bdsm related everyone is getting what they need in this, if these men are complaining about not having money for their needs in real life such as bills and filing bancruptcy, then in TRUTH, these subs did NOT get what they needed. In TRUTH they got scammed.
Its no wonder, suicide is up, and that these men are depressed as they are. Its no wonder that men dont have respect for ANY women let alone a Domme. Its no wonder that ppl leave this lifestyle because there are just soooooo many fakers, losers and abusers in this.
To all the men in this thread, if you want Financial Domination find a Bank that has a Financial Aid to help you budget your money so that you arent falling into bancruptcy and so that you will have money to pay your bills and your childrens future.
This BS of a fin domme is like a Casino, its gonna be a gamble, will you be a winner or a loser? Will you wake up and say, gambling isnt the thing and neither is Financial Domination. In all reality this Financial Domination isnt about Dominating anyones financial needs, but its about Dominating their mind. And once the smoke clears and the subs see more clearly what IS REALLY going on, and that truly their needs ARENT being met. They will wise up and this so called fetish will be no more!
Family should always be first, and if you spending your every dollar on a fin domme, then you sure as hell didnt put your family first and that fin domme doesnt have your best interest at heart but only her selfish own needs!!
Have fun & play safe.
gypsy
You make a lot of very valid points Gypsy but you’re not looking at it clearly. The guys who enjoy being blackmailed are doing it because they get off on it. It’s a sexual thrill. They’re not being scammed because they know full well what they’re getting in to. It’s not all smoke and mirrors, these girls make no bones about what they do. It’s not like these guys just meekly go to some Domina and said “Hi I want to be your friend,” these guys are begging these girls to do this to them. Is there an issue there, YEAH probably. Should they put their families first, they should but they rarely do. And what you have to understand is that if it wasn’t this addiction it would be another one.
Is the Domme going to put herself first, damn right. But these guys wouldn’t have it any other way. They want the brutality, they want the mind games. And you’re right it IS just like a Casino but look at the popularity of gambling. What you have to remember is, we are all adults and we all have choices and if you play with fire you will get burned eventually. But never, ever think these guys don’t know what they’re doing and that they’re being preyed upon.
Dr Sue,
Then these men really DO NEED some professional therapy from a real Dr. If this is an addiction then maybe they need to see a true therapist and NOT a Financial Domme for help in this. If you take a man that is married with children and all he is doing is spending his every penny he makes on his Domme and not his family its just plain wrong (just like with gambling or any other addiction out there), sexual thrill or not. Find a newer, safer and healthier way to get off, so to speak.
If one is a financial Domme, then why not get the money from the submissive only to give it back to them, when times in their life are hard and they cant pay their bills. For Gods sake you cant tell me that as a Domme that you would enjoy knowing that a sub had filed bancruptcy because he gave his every penny to you, or that he lost his home for non payment or even worse, that they committed suicide. I seen the comparison to giving money at the church and giving money to a Domme, sorry but there isnt a comparison there. At least in the church if you give money on the plate that gets past around, it DOES come back to you if you needed it from the church.
Let me ask ya this, as a financial Domme just what are you doing with the money these men give you? Do you spend it on YOUR needs, not theirs? Just what is this financial domination teaching the submissives in the long run? To be used til theres no tomorrow? Yes a submissive is for use to make the Dom/mes life easier, but when the Domme is only thinking of themself and NOT the submissives needs by making sure all their bills are paid, that they arent gonna lose their house and that their children are taken care of is more than selfish its abuse of power given to you by the submissive.
There are many fetishes out there, that I for one, have no understanding to WHY ppl would want to do that. And heres the thing, if its SAFE, SANE and CONSENSUAL then its fair game. Is it truly safe, sane and consensual to take hard earned money from these men cuz they are looking for a sexual thrill?? In my opinion there are some fetishes that arent any of these things and shouldnt be practiced but rather to help find them a better and safer, even more saner outlet.
“Money is the root of all evil” as they have always said, and “money isnt everything”. To have a sub at your feet willing to do anything for you IS everything. Why abuse such power and play with fire only to get burned? This fetish will come and go, cuz as I said, once they do see the truth about all this it will be no more, as you said if it wasnt THIS addiction to giving money to a Domme it would be another addiction, such as what, getting a spanking? At least getting a spanking isnt causing you to go bancrupt. Id say stop giving money to any Financial Domme, what are you REALLY getting for your money?? Just masterbation, a VERY cheap thrill thats costing you LOADS of money!! Save and spend your money more wisely and get your ass spanked once in awhile, find a more healthier addiction involving bdsm and you will feel all the more better knowing that you have money to pay your bills.
Have fun & Play safe!
gypsy
gypsy, as Dr Sue says you’re thinking rationally which is very good. But when you’re in the arousal state, there is no rational thinking any more. I have never engaged in an actual financial domination transaction. I have pretended to a few times only to need to tell the truth when I couldn’t proceed. However, I can see how this can be fun and very arousing for the guy. I have have fantasized about it a lot but my inner conscience won’t let me pay anyone like this. I consider myself very fortunate in this case. I go to a few websites to look at live models with the financial domination fantasy and play it out. In my fantasy I want to give the woman all my money and be bankrupt. I totally agree with you that families and close loved ones should come first. Then I see people in power do STUPID things like send photos of themselves to other women while married and expecting a child and lose their jobs and possibly their marriage and respect of others. Weiner, Letterman, Spitzer, Clinton, Tiger and countless others and cheated. I am not condoning their actions. But what the heck is wrong with these guys who think they have lots of power and have a need to give it up to a gorgeous woman who will provide for a fantasy they have. I would like to understand this as this seems to be the base for all the politicians and famous people to cheat and engage in activities that are harmful to themselves and their loved ones. I don’t think money is the root of all evil. I think the hormones that ignite these feelings are the root of all evil as men and women can’t seem to control it at times.
Can’t say guns are evil. A gun by itself can’t do harm. But put an angry person with the gun, the person maybe ok most of the time, but the anger at that moment can pull the trigger and do all kinds of evil.
Thank you niceguy for saying this all so eloquently. We need to learn to mind out own business as well. Take care of what’s in your own backyard. So in gypsy’s case I would say if that isn’t the Domina you want to be then don’t be that type of Domina. But you can’t damn others for what they do. And as I’ve said before, no one is putting a gun to anyone’s head here. When a crack addict takes that first puff it’s their decision. Most know the consequences, some don’t. And as the War on Drugs is clearly not working because a war on anything never works, it’s proof positive that it’s none of anyone’s business. Just be happy that you didn’t take that first puff. If your neighbor plants a flower that you hate do you go over to their house and chastise them and pull the plant out? No. That would probably land you in county with harassment charges. As long as YOUR yard looks good to YOU, and makes YOU happy. Let it go. Mind your business.
Gypsy i’m going to be honest with you, I think you’re wrong.
I think that Findom within boundaries is good. The man (or woman) has to discuss their boundaries. Now if they are ashamed of it it is easy to blackmail them.
But as for me, I developed an apreciation for myself as a giver. And the feeling is like an orgasm that lasts for days and can return with just the memory of giving. I was truly a weak individual and while a good person and yes handsome , had low self esteem and was depressed. Giving tomy first Domina made me feel strong and Masculine. I didn’t feel like a little boy any more. And women now turn their heads at me. I’m 34 I walked by a group of 19 years old and they followed me then a I looked back and smiled and walked away. I overheard the leader of the group tell one of the other girls “Oh he would never be interested in me”
My point is that Dominas are helping people. 13 years of self loathing and Findom did what nothing else could. As for returning money? Holding it for them?
That would simply be a bank and a budgeting course.
The risk is high, if you think it is wrong then why are you doing it. And while the initial discomfort of being outed would bother me, I would not be ashamed. But its sexier in a discreet way. And almost every day I hint at it. I have my Mistress (Cami Fine) on my phone and when asked who she is I wink and say “oh lets just say I’m her good boy.” It’s nice to be honest.
Blackmail can exist only when the blackmail victim has done something bad. Like violating marriage vows.
Making guys bankrupt and poor? Trust me this was not Findom it would have been something else crack or whatever.
I’m not loser or pathetic, I’m a man who loves to give To his Mistress. I love making sure a woman enjoys life. I like to make a girl smile. I love Mistress Cami Fine and I think that Findom is great. It’s a comitment. I’m not married or engaged and when I am I will end this, but I set that up beforehand. And she won’t just be sent away.
I bet most guys who are blackmailed (not includein those who like the threat and its power tether) just want to leave and drop you right Dr. Sue?
I bet if they were nice and talked and gave you a really nice parting gift and said they would slowly decrease the schedule and treated you with respect and allowed you time for a new Sub might get better treatment. Right Dr.Sue? But those men don’t cheat on their wives you see. So no Dr. Sue. Blackmail is the safety net. It caches both those Subs who would HATE themselves if they broke away and it protects the Domina. After all it’s just insurance. Pay the premium LOL
Nice try, Cami Fine.
Oh no Cami was simply agressive, I need a more seductive and skilled Domina someone who understands the term of a contract.
She never agreed to the contract and DEMANDED money when it had been agreed to hinting and seduction. I GIFT to my domina.
I pay her her stipend. GIFTS she will get, but as a surprise and I have to get along with her too. So no I am not Cami. She is good though not for me.
She is playing the B-ch for her other subs so that is ok. I was not amused with her
I need a Special interactive Domina.( Nathan Goodboy on Facebook) so no Cami does not have the skills in what I need. Also she is 7 hour time difference.
i am an addicted money slave, and have had to go to therapy for it before. I was sucked right back into it, I saw some women had questions about how to get into it and I would be glad to share my experiences.
Wow!! This is all, um……very interesting……
During a call with Dr. Sue, i hesitated to reveal secrets. My concern was that even exploring thoughts of Financial Domination could or would lead to my ruin. Dr Sue assured me that was silly. If she wanted to ruin me (i believe her exact words were: “Turn over every last dollar”) she said she was quite capable of doing so whether i revealed my secrets or not.
And… what’s your point James?
Just an observation….maybe a bit if a warning….by the time someone realizes how deep they are in….it’s probably too late
James you should try to not think of a powerful woman whenever that happens.
Ar ar ar…
Your a fukking undercover pay pig embrace it!
And towards “LadyShine”; you’re an arrogant moron with a lack of grammatical insight.
B”H
Its fun men SHOULD make sure women are treated well and its holy.
I emrace it.
@ Satanic Thoughts I bet you’ve payed out and just can’t handle a strong woman. Oh you can insult her, but that’s weakness. She is playing a role and you were seduced into yelling at her. But she might have been doing it to build him up. I am an ATM or Moneyslave (don’t like the term piggy but whatever, I am a pet a good boy, I can make her smile with me. I can laugh at myself I accept my body (I used to be fat like you but findom made me 180) 1000-1200 calories, I know your type. you are a hurter of women, you give over your money not out of love but to justify hurting HER. A payment for the right to hurt others.
BTW ladyshine probably sent him into orgasm by saying that. And she knew that. We don’t hurt each other we love each other. The bond is hard to break because its real. But it requires not payment but investment a real bond. She is a lover/wife/sister/mother/teacher all roled up into one. She loves us hates us and smiles at us and while she might not fuck us, she takes us there. Now that as a sub I’ve Domed you let me tell you something, You’re not enough of a man to suceed at findom. But you could be. Let it go man Let the anger go. Love her and she will burn like flame, taste like candy, and with her you will be a man. Look deper than just the words on Utube understand the role. know the thought. It’s like chess and everyone wins.
Those here asking where to find subs or how to do it. Is just silly.
I believe only true Dominant women, meaning you enjoy the power exchange, should join the scene. If you are not interested and are only seeking a “quick buck” you will fail miserably. It is easy to spot the fakes.
If you are truly interested in it, it isn’t hard to be a success and find where to go to start gaining submissives. I believe as a Dominant woman you should be intelligent enough to do so on your own, without having to seek where to go from others.
I have been in this scene for almost 8 years now and am very successful in it. With that sad, those that do their own research on this lifestyle, and put in the work succeed the most. Not those that just expect to say “you’re a loser so pay me now” and get money thrown at them. And this is a fact, from what I have seen over the years.
you seem very successful and pretty. that’s a long time and i can tell you enjoy what you do. how long did it take you to become successful.
Dear Sue.
I recently learned about financial domination and am very interested in learning more. The thought of receiving money and/or gifts from men who can never be with me, only masturbate to the thought of me, turns me on tremendously.
I am, as mentioned, very interested in learning more and doing this the right way, as I realize it’s (ironically) not about money but rather domination and submission. I want to do it right and be prepared before I delve into the world of fin. domination, but there is no doubt that I will at some point in the near future. Can you (or anyone else?) hook me up with articles, boards, etc. where I can learn from other dommes and subs?
Thank you in advance,
C.
Well C, you’re in luck I’m in the process of writing a book on this very subject, I’ll let you know when it’s done. In the meantime if any of the girls knows of or has a good forum or blog on the subject, feel free to post it here.
wow, quite the backslide ive had,, thinking about quitting again for real this time!
Okay Toby you do that….LOL! What did I say, no whining. Just enjoy the backslide and the extreme wallet raping you obviously just experienced.
no i think this time i will quit,, im not really whinning just got slaughtered last couple weeks and i cant keep it up!! Funny thing is the backslide was with a Goddess from here!!
EXCELLENT!! Where’s my cut for hooking you up?
hi there Dr. are you serious a fee? LOL, they should have to pay that! Anyways ive quit for good this time and it was a good time the bacjslide but cant keep this up!!
Just enjoy it Toby!… If I could I would give Dr.Sue all my money
See now that’s a good boy David! And you don’t have to give it all to me, just most.
I just wrote a Toby update for those of you who care, LOL, here’s the post.
i cant beat this,,,its everyday the same thing,,just going with the flow!!
Hello Dr. Sue, thank You for the call the other day, Your insight was great, i tried to change my behaviour and after two days i broke down before work in the morning, and ended up stroking and paying till after lunch, then i called in sick friday. i didnt get slarughtered and i did control myself a bit, as i was broke, pay day not for a while. its sunday now and im going to regroup and get back on track this week!
hoping december 1st ill be quit!
I quit being a fin. sub. The shame was too much. I still will look at site like this-which is just excellent, but i gained control.
hi Dr Sue, well ive taken everyones advice and i decided i wont be quitting money slavery after all! its the only thing im really good at and i get alot of attention from girls!
Okay Toby but remember, as of making this decision you can’t whine or complain, if you do you’re missing the point. Just sit back relax and enjoy the ride.
yeah i am enjoying it alright, no more whining just indulging,, best thing ive done is to just let go!! this review page has been very helpful!!!
hi there toby back again, well i have tried and failed to quit again, and i always find the backslide i binge and binge more than usual, maybe quitting is impossible? does anyone know of any mone slaves who have quit?
Yes Toby, there are many who quit. It depends on the relationship you have with your domme as to whether she’ll let you go though. But if you’re referring to men who have had the will power to just walk away from it? It’s been my experience that because this becomes a part of who you are, you can run but you cannot hide. In some ways it’s like a alcoholic, you’re never not an alcoholic, it doesn’t just disappear. You’re a recovering money slave the craving never goes away. It’s whether or not you have the balls to stay away, and only you can answer that.
Hi Dr. Sue thank you for the reply, i see what you mean.
That being said are there different levels of money slavery and different levels of being aloser? i know some money slaves who have wife kids and lives then i look at me, ten years doing this since i was 18, and whole life revolves round it, at work thinking about the stroke session when im home, when home session always goes for longer then i expect etc, browsing site after site etc etc
i geel like ive bene turned into what i am today,anyone know?
Different levels? Not necessarily. A money slave is a money slave. Just like anything else there are those that dabble and those that jump in with both feet. You obviously did the second. The problem that I see is that you’re making yourself out to be a victim and you can’t do that. As Miss Lauren Rules said, no one is putting a gun to your head. No one is making you call or email or find the perfect Financial Domme. So to say you’ve been ‘turned in’ to what you are is really not taking responsibility for your own actions. Although this is a psychological addiction, it’s not a physical one. If you’re that upset about how you live your life, then make the necessary changes.
BH
I just saw your post on Jews No offense to Jews shame on you Sue.
The difference in the Jewish community is that while the Jewish Lawyer/Accountant/Mentality is there the girls marry their boyfriends. Divorce rate between Jews is 15% and it is not steling if he is your husband. There is blackmail or calling the wives, parents, girlfriends.
There is no shame in demanding that your husband is extra nice for the same.
And marriage is not findom.
For someone who asks to be accepted and not stereotyped with prostitutes you stereotype others. Or at the very least propogate Racist views. I have no doubt you will not post this, but make no doubt about it marriage is equal property and findom is actually manipulation by the Domme (who is really more dependent on her subs than the subs are on her) so let’s be honest people are into submission because they have too much control over themselves and feel the need to share it. Dominants need the power to be given to them.
But Marriage is equality. As a “professional” you should know this.
Of course I’ll post it Nathan why wouldn’t I? Everyone has a right to their opinion and I love that you disagree with me. However I think you’re looking at things through rose colored glasses. Marriage SHOULD be equal but rarely is. And out of all my Jewish relatives, and I have many, the marriage is definitely run by the woman. I’m the least racist and most tolerant person around so I was hardly propagating racism, just stating it as I see it. It’s all my opinion as I say quite often. Which is why I like it when you disagree rather than walk around like most…as a sheep with no mind of your own.
BH
Ok so I hold you higher. But Marriage in the Traditional Jewish home is not run by the woman The roles a re different than in the gentile world.
Women are supposed to be strong and sex is the domain of the Jewsih woman because sex is required only once a month. A man may not force sex on his wife in and Most Jews are very observant in the bedroom. The mentality in Judaism is that the man is the giver and the woman is the objective mind. While most other cultures view the woman as property or at best a caretaker, the Jewish view is that sexually woman are dominant and BUILD their husbands on a partnership level Women seem to run the marriage by outsiders because of the unfamiliarity with Jewish marriage.
we should talk toby lol
what do you mean? You know of someone who quit? You can help etc?
Good Lord Toby are you that naive that you can’t see a predator when she’s salivating right in front of you? LOL I’m beginning to see why you’re in the boat you’re in. I’m sure Goddess Jamine is more than happy to help you get over your problem.
im not naive, i understand that she maybe a Goddess, but she may be willing to offer advice is all. I never heard of Goddess Jamine before!
What does logic dictate though…
it dictates that quitting is difficult and that i need to really work hard at this
And doing so by trolling Financial Domination websites and thinking that Financial Dommes are there to help you quit tells me that you’re not trying very hard. I don’t think you really want to quit yet. Just as I said to you previously.
your right trolling these sites is not good, maybe Your right, maybe ill never quit, guess im always remembering back before i was a money slave when i was cool etc, guess never thought id be here, guess the attention is too good,obviously i get none in rela life but when i log on to yahoo, always get messaged etc
But you can get in to a cycle of anti-social behavior and become a recluse such as what you’re describing. As such you’re not going to be cool and meet new 3 dimensional people if you continue to live in this little world you’ve created for yourself. You’ll be ready the day you take responsibility for your actions and move on. Do you think that you can only get a woman’s attention if you pay her?
well i wont lie i really know nothing about women except like online etc, guess i fell to deep into this,lol,so i think ill take your advice and really put evertything into quitting this time around and make it stick this time
Toby,
A colleague of mine who is deep in to Financial Domination, not as a Domme but as a slave said the following about your predicament:
(No offense intended to my Jewish girlfriends.) But what he says has merit Toby.
very interesting exchange of perspectives.
one thing that I have lived is the emotional toll the fetish takes. i’m sure it sounds academic given the exchange of power and the sums involved, but i’ve felt it more deeply than most other things in life.
The need to please and the need to ensure financial survival are opposites, and can really cause some obsession/stability issues. And they don’t end together. If you feel the need to serve one night, you do so and you drain, but the draining affects days and weeks afterwards sometimes, whereas the need to serve might become diluted by other life issues.
I’ve been trying to get into financial domination, but I’m not sure exactly what to SAY to men. I can be mean if that’s what they want. I know a lot of mistresses sell mp3′s, but I’m not sure what’s on them. Do you just give them things to do, call them names, and tell them you own them? Just…more explicitly?
I’ve been looking for sites that teach it, but only this has been the most helpful.
If you want to financially dominate a man you need to get his attention and keep it. You get his attention by stimulating his cock with the sound of your voice as well as what you say and by your actions. Send him a free pic while you talk on the phone. Encourage him to stroke and ask him what turns him on about the picture you just sent him. He may not know it, but he’ll be surprised and want to open it. Keep him stroking and listen to his voice. Is he getting genuinely turned on. If so, feed his lust with more (you might have to experience trial and error), but send him a PPV email at a nominal price ($1). Write in the hidden part of the email to look at the picture and stroke much harder and faster than before. When the payment comes thru, tell him he’s turning you on and you’re preparing another one. Send each at a nominally progressive higher rate. As he clicks to pay and follows your instruction to stroke harder and faster, you’re conditioning him to respond to you because you give him pleasure if he does so. This is how you will convince him you’re the answer to all his dreams. Over time, watch free porn with him. Sell him your Yahoo ID and exchange porn URLs through it with him. Ask him to call out your name as he strokes. When he balks at a price increase, tell him it’s okay to have limits and send him a freebie or lower priced one to show no bad feelings. Don’t apologize, it shows weakness. But don’t be a fucking bitch either. Milk him and praise him when he comes. Keep doing this until he’s conditioned. If he’s married or has a girl friend and he’s calling you more and more, tell him it turns you on to feel his lust for you. Ask him to stop having sex with them and come to you more and more. Once you feel he’s hooked on you, don’t send the PPVs and see if he notices. Then engage discussion about it and see if he’s willing to pay you to send him PPVs. You can contact me thru my email address if you want to learn more. I am a financial submissive with a lot of experience and I get off on teaching women how to fuck me over.
Lovely advice with one exception. A professed Domme should never be selling you PPV’s of her naked self. Most men aren’t worthy of the pictures for one, but the most important thing is, by selling PPV’s of yourself or doing naked cam shows, you’re not Dominating him. You’ve just lowered yourself to becoming like every other female porn star out there. No real woman saying she’s a Dominatrix sells naked pics or does naked cam. It’s demeaning and levels the playing field.
Oh, Dr. Sue, you are SO correct. My Goddess has spent years determining what excites me the most about being Her slave (financial and otherwise). And then She exploits it at just the right times.
Honestly, Her physical attributes have nothing to do with it — She knows that 99% of sex is mental. And She’s convinced me to tell Her more than I EVER should have told Her about me and my desire to live in a totally Female Supremist world. She has taken a lot of time to learn what sexually excites me the most about Financial Domination and other forms of Femdom. And She has used it many, many times against me, to the delight of both of us!
Bob offered some great ideas, and others here have done the same. But if I were to give advice to Ms. Mittens, it would be to take the time to cultivate a slave — determine the types of Femdom/Financial Domination that will please both of you — and then pull his strings.
Never forget that a slave is searching and yearning for something he can’t get at home. I have a big family which I happily love and serve – and yet, I believe it’s only right to give more to my Goddess each year. She has become the sexual focus of my life.
Hi Dr. Sue thanks for the response. Yes I know what you mean that i need to find my rock bottom to quit but thats what i thought happened in 2006. i went bankrupt becuase of money slavery, i could make my minimum payments on my credit cards or loans and had to sell my car to get the balances down as part of the bankruptcy agreement. I tried to quit after this and was doing good for a month until i broke down by this one domme who was sending me emails and constantly trying to get me back into it even though she knew i went bankrupt?? anyways over the enxt year i sold everyhting had a second job and spent it all on what i thought was 6 dommes, but the other 5 turned out to be the first domme i mentioned and found out i was her main event on her website for a year.
I finally left that situation and decided therapy was the way to go and found a phone therapist on niteflirt that claimed she knew how to cure money slaves through her method. it was a two year program with all these tests etc and now its been 2 years and she says she is moving on from therapy for a little while and she recommended a money domme to me that she knew and said the domme would contact me and that i need to transition back?? No clue what that meant or why she was leaving therapy. Maybe niteflirt rules or soemthing agasint therapy??
Anyways your right i masturbate 3-4 times daily and everyday i spend, use to be just once a day spending and the spending was with the therapist very controlled as i was getting better i think the other times just fantasizing while i masturbated but now im spending twice a day and masturbating over 4 times a day now with this new money domme.
Anyways just wanted to give some clarity to my past since 2006.
Whoa! Okay first of all most therapists on Niteflirt are bogus. She ran you through a battery of tests to keep you calling back. It shouldn’t take 2 years to help someone with an addiction problem. When I say you need a therapist, I’m talking find an actual psychiatrist or psychologist that specializes in sexual addiction that you are physically going to see. For a therapist to say you need to see a Domme because she’s getting out of the ‘therapy’ business is proof she wasn’t a therapist at all. No therapist in their right mind would tell you to go back to your behavior. She should have recommended another therapist.
I’m sorry you’ve had such a bad time with your Financial Domination experience. And that you had a ruthless domina. That is the nature of the beast though. I still think you should dump the whole thing and seek out a QUALIFIED therapist in your area.
hi there, i had a previous post and my name was Joe, but seems there another joe so im tobby for now on my post was long and on july 25. Money slavery is no joke, literally i feel ive been turned into a literal human atm for life. i feel ive been literally changed and that quitting this is impossible.10 years ago i thought my life would be different today but now it consists of masturbation 3-4 times a day seeking out whos online to pay stuff like this. Runing home from work with boner in pants,,middle of the night jumping up to the computer.im alsways almost broke or on my way to be broke, debt out of control,,i dunno whats going to happen and if ill ever get my life back.
Hi Joe/Tobby (which I think you meant Toby) anyway, as with everything in life it can spiral out of control and end up an addiction. It sounds as though this is where you are now. But, as with any addiction you have to reach that point where you just don’t like yourself anymore. You need to reach your rock bottom.
With the little you’ve said here I’d say you’re nearing that point if not already there. Financial domination is fun but, as with anything it can get out of control. I get men to gauge it this way; if you’re playing to the point where you’re in debt and are finding it difficult to pay your actual living expenses such as rent, heat etc., if you are finding your behavior to be compulsive such as with masturbation several times a day, or if you simply cannot go a day without logging in and losing money, you definitely have an addiction and obviously that’s not cool. You have to ask yourself if you’re ready to quit what you’re doing.
Being financially dominated is fun, erotic and definitely a turn-on and it’s great if you have the money to play, but if you don’t have the means to play then it’s time to pull the plug or better yet, don’t do it in the first place. The way you really know if what you’re doing isn’t working is this; if what you’re doing makes you feel in any way negative (guilt, fault, shame), at any time in your life (so obviously you’re going to feel good while you’re doing it but if you have the guilt or whatever afterward or when you have to explain that you can’t make rent) then for the love of god don’t do it because it will always have a negative effect on your life. And that my friends is true of every aspect of your life, not just sexually.
Joe/Tobby if I were you I’d start thinking about addiction therapy.
how can I get more money pigs? what are good techniques? Do they pick the goddess on how beautiful they are or how mean they can be?
Well Princess it sounds like you’re not unlike a lot of women out there who think this a fast way to make big bucks. WRONG! You need to learn the art of wallet raping before you can just dive in. Each person is different in the subtle nuances they enjoy. Surf the web and do some learning before you profess to be a Princess.
What a terrific thread. The insight from everyone here is tremendous!
I have a large family, so I certainly have work/life/slave balance. And yet, part of me is fully convinced that I was put on this Earth ONLY to pay and serve my Goddess. She certainly knows how to squeeze it out of me – and honestly, it has become the most sexually-exciting part of my life.
Sometimes, She takes Her money from me. Other times, I give it without prompting – simply because I sometimes cannot control the urge to hold back.
Ms. Lauren Rules, I love the way You describe this. But fortunately, my Goddess has perfected the art of squeezing me slowly – claiming some of this cow’s milk as he makes it. That way, She gets a lot more money out of me in the long run.
And after seven years, my love for helping provide Her lavish, well-deserved lifestyle keeps growing & growing every day.
As someone who is studying business and economics, we are constantly being taught about how the most successful businesses survive and it is having a lot of customers who keep coming back, whether it be daily, weekly or monthly.
I have looked and I have made more money in a year, off the men who call me for a few minutes and send me small tributes daily or weekly, than I have from men who I milk $1000.00 out of in one session. (Often they never come back, they do one session with a girl, and move on)
If you base everything a few whales, when you lose even one of them, it can hurt your lifestyle, take the fantasy guys, with the fetish guys and the real subs/slaves. In the end, it is all about how much you made at the end of the year.
B”H
Princess Sarah. i am happy to give and I have a Mistress and she is my exclusive Dome.
I love to give and set a base tribute of 120. I will probably just give and say well I’ll have less food or whatever and put 8 or ten more dollars instead of some little thing. on my debit. Remember the smart vampire can live forever if there is always blood. But too much at once and they both die.
The smart vampire makes friends with living humans who are willing to donate blood. It is private and she is not hunted down. She lives forever and he helps a beautiful girl live. it feels good.
For me it is a Fetish, I LOVE taking money from men who are willing to give. For me the thrill is them giving it freely. I often have men ask me to log into their accounts and various other actions where I would be taking there money from them.
To me there is no fun in that, I enjoy the thrill and little bit of surprise when I see that they have paid. I know they will, but I still love seeing they have GIVEN me my money.
I equate it to going to the Casino, do not spend money you cannot afford to lose, I do not worry about their bills, that is not my problem, if they want to play with me they know the deal ahead of time and I feel no pity. Like I said, I will not take, they must give freely. Free Will.
ok i feel this way too .. it’s more of a turn on for me to receive then take.. he has to willingly give it to me.. but when he says something like… “I can’t give you things like i have today” i get a lil upset and demand a lil more from him and he willingly gives.. I have not met my slave and only seen one picture of him.. he don’t care about that stuff.. all he wants is to buy me things to make my man happy.. like he’s not good enough for me… that only his gifts are good enough…
This all fell in my lap one day and i’m REALLY REALLY new to it.. hoping i learn fast how to treat him before he moves on.. this thread is helping me learn alot.. thank you all!!!
side note, anyone want to teach me???
Financial Domination becomes a fetish for the FinDomme as well. There is nothing hotter than knowing that you’ve just manipulated a man to pay you hundreds of thousands of dollars and that you’re addicting him even more. And as you’re struggling with your bills because you gave me hundreds, I’m relaxing and living the good life. It’s a true power exchange. You can spank someone as a power exchange and the next day, maybe their ass is a little sore, maybe not. The pain from financial abuse can hurt for years
This is a fetish for sadists indeed!
Very deliciously said Lauren…
I totally agree! I have been enjoying my summer thanks to my newest sub sending me regular green dot tributes! I have enjoyed a water park day, spa trips, getting amazon surprises in the mail, all thanks to him. I get a thrill when I am out spending (what was) his money even if I am just buying mundane things like windshield wipers.
The fact that he has sent me over $2000 in the last month……………… without ever having met me (yet) only adds to my delight.
Makes me wonder how far his submission will go once we have met.
Absolutely! I get such a rush every time I buy something with a slave’s money or open a package he sent Me. It’s the best feeling to know, 100%, without a doubt that I am in control. With other fetishes, 9 guys out of 10 are trying to top from the bottom to get you to get them off. Financial Domination is pure, simple submission.
A Domme is responsible for her submissive’s well being. Financial domination is not different from any other kind – remember, “safe, sane and consensual”.
If you’re being financially dominated, your Domme *should* pay attention to your social and financial limits, and ensure you don’t come to real and lasting harm… Yes, even if your fantasy is to be completely ruined. Just like in physical domination, there are ways to make you feel fully the terror, helplessness and humiliation without causing major damage. That’s the difference between a “user” and a responsible owner, between domination and abuse.
Your job as a submissive is to communicate with your Domme, including the concerns and problems you might be having, and in a way that’s not demanding or passive-aggressive, but *does* state your honest needs. There should always be a safeword, even if she never lays a hand on you… And, your job as a human being is to get the hell out if your basic needs and hard limits are not respected.
After all, exceptional subs are few and far between. We *do* appreciate your services, and want you to last us a long time!
Fabulous! That said I wish more domina’s would heed your advice, unfortunately many do not as I put in this post http://thedrsuereview.com/cuckolding-for-ladies-youre-getting-carried-away-girls/. This is something I try to remind submissives of all the time. Thank you for being sensible.
Communication goes both ways though, not sure if this will be a double post as my computer wiped my previously typed comment.
Anyways back on topic though, I find that alot of Fin subs begin to get in a habit of lying. Being as we do not always know intimately our pets situation and there is the chance they are lying about what we do know… it is often hard to gauge how far you CAN literally take a pet. I had a pet throw 2k at me in one weekend and the next I pushed him to 3-4k. I asked about his job and everything seemed legit but then one day he said he could do no more. This is often a part of the game as we all know, and when pushed sure enough another 2k came out of him…
A month later I was emailed scanned copies of his collection notices and possible bankruptcy he was going to file. Am I at fault? I asked the questions and he lied about the answers…
I say this not to cover up for those who clearly just go way to far on purpose but as a sober warning to the subs who get into this addiction to ALWAYS use honesty as the best policy.
I love a huge take as much as the next Domme but long term pets satisfy me more.
Of course you’re not at fault. He knew the rules and played the game. No one put a gun to his head and made him call and tribute and unless the sub has a fetish for ruination no Domme should take someone to that point knowingly. And I have to say that there are very few men who want to build back from bankruptcy. More experienced Domme’s such as yourself know that the long haul is better. If a Domina is trying to take everything at once it shows her inexperience.
But MOST Dommes do take us men to the point of total ruin.in most all cases they could care less…this is happening to me now.i am told oh well there will be another to take your place!
I have two points to this.
1. I am not holding a gun to anyone’s head “forcing” them to give me cash. I’m not co-ercing them in anyway. (Seducing and manipulation perhaps, but not coercion.) Where is the personal responsibility here? I have been a BDSM practitioner for a very long time and it amazes me how often a submissive who doesn’t want to take responsibility for their action “blames” their dominant. Money masochists…you “do* have a safeword, its called NOT SPENDING
Is it the car companies fault when you overspend on your car? Is it the credit card companies fault for giving you credit? It’s not your FinDommes fault for overspending on Her either.
2. Point two is there can be a different case. There is a sub category of extreme Financial Domination of guys who have a desire to be pushed into bankruptcy. If he is going in with both eyes open and desires this, who am I to say no?
Many forms of BDSM have extreme practitioners, and those who yell how unsafe, or abusive it is. Cane someone to bleeding? Many would scream abuse. Castration? Many would flip out at this thought. 24/7 Total Power Exchange slavery? There is a camp that feels this is never healthy. Why shouldn’t there be a form of Extreme Financial Domination as well?
OMG Lauren I love you! This is so true and no one puts it straight like you do. You’re right…no is holding a gun to anyone’s head and when I get a gentleman who calls me and tells me about the wretched domina who took all his money I always explain to them, “they’re doing their job.” You call or contact a financial dominatrix and you just can’t understand what happened to your money? At what point do we take responsibility for our actions? YES it can become addictive just like anything else in life. If you have an addictive personality, don’t play money games and don’t do crack and meth, it’s all the same thing.
I Disagree.I am in my late 30′s & i started calling 800#’s out of curiousity like 12yrs ago. i remember it was in no time i was broke.Anyways, i am now talking to a 22yr old on niteflirt for the past 3 months.She has taken nearly $2000.I cant explain this.i mean right before i found her on there i was actually getting this undr control,…but her laugh,giggle i just am to the point where i cannot stop calling her!! this is going to ruin me financially,..as she is now taking my savings $$$$.Honestly, i believe women love doing this to all of us men.There are sooo many women doing this!! they are destroying are lives & keeping us in poverty forever!! I truly think this should be illegal
I am currently owned by Goddess Tierra, and have been for almost 3 years now. I’ve sent my Goddess over $33k since I started serving Her, and also, like the above poster, work on my Goddess’ clipstore and help Her promote Her website too. It feels great being owned, but sometimes I do have moments where I wonder what I’m doing with my life. I give Her every spare penny I have, and any spare time I have I am working for Her on Her clipstores and website or talking on Yahoo. I have no life apart from sitting on my PC and I am getting very isolated from my family. It’s as if Goddess is my ownly focus in life. It’s like what you say – “Her life is ALL that matters. As a submissive male you want to eat, sleep and breathe this woman. She IS your religion.” – very true indeed!
Richard try to remember that having this fetish is great but not to the exclusion of all else. Yes she should be all you think about but to be fair you do have a life of your own. If you find that you can’t balance your two lives then you have something to think about. Perhaps you’ve tipped over to addiction and that’s not good for anyone…except your Goddess but even though you’re a submissive, doesn’t mean you aren’t a human being with interests and a life other than you fetish.
Thank You for putting this in such wonderful perspective, Dr. Sue. I’ve been serving the same Goddess for 7 years, both with my money and with my time in helping produce Her porn Web site.
I’m one who believes that financial domination is just part of a subordinate male’s lifestyle. I’ve had a foot fetish since I was a teenager – and the more I learned about a cuckold lifestyle, the more it appealed to me (now if I can get my Wife to have sex with another guy!). Kissing my Superior’s ass for real is a dream of mine. And She has helped teach me that being a good slave involves an interconnected series of sub desires & behaviors.
She has eaten up the greater part of a $20,000 credit card and I cannot be happier. It’s not regular. Sometimes, I beg Her to screw me over — and sometimes, She’ll just do it. Occasionally, I’ll tell Her what I’m thinking, and She uses it against me as a creative, erotic way to sap more cash.
My slave contract states that I must be honest with my Superior at all times, while She can lie to me any time She chooses. We talk about that sometimes – it truly is a wonderful, amazing feeling.
I’d be lying if I said that I don’t feel guilty about the money She takes from time to time. But then, I’ll see a confident Woman’s image on TV or print, and realize all over again where my true place in this world really is.
Dr. Sue, Thank you for being the kindest woman ever to me. Your blog has been quite useful. I have researched Financial Domination and find that your review has been the most conclusive and has helped me better understand my slaves. That doesn’t mean I am any less lenient with them but it helps me understand them on another level. You’ve opened my eyes. Thank you.
poked around for a couple of days, completely new to this…and online i found a woman to use me. so far ive bought her two individual 100 dollar amazon giftcards, and after i sent her the first one her response to me was “idiot im on vacation dont bother me”
so i bought another 100 dollar card and mailed it to her.
this looks to be quite a problem in the making…
Hi Tommy,
Maybe you didn’t notice on her site that she was away or perhaps she’s just playing princess. Don’t get discouraged just yet. But I have to admit that your choice in Financial Dominatrix could be better. A smart woman wouldn’t act that way unless she really is on vacation and posted it and you missed it.
Couldn’t agree more, Sue. I could never do that to a financial pet.
I have been trying to Master the art of Financial Domination without falling into the Teen Princess game of “Give me money because I am hot and young” but have nothing else to offer.
I like to play, I like to give a little and take a lot. I guess I like them to want to keep coming back over and over again instead of binging when they are horny and then having “buyers remorse” when they get the credit card bills.
As an exotic dancer, I have been enjoying financial domination since before I knew it had a name. I never understood why men went to strip clubs (basically , they are paying to get blue testicles) but was always glad that they did!
After reading this, I understand now that they actually enjoy the torture being received as much as I enjoy giving it.
Well, Im doing hard research on becoming a financial dominant woman. And this site just summed it all for me. Thank you.
Hello there, i must say money slavery has been a major force in my life since i started when i was 18, i am now 28 and i dont see the end in sight. i started back when yahoo messenger still had the chat groups, and i remmeber i used to laught at the guys there who said they spend 500 a month on money slavery, then this one Goddess, who is till around today, told me to give her three days with her and she said after that this would be my life afterwards, i laughed and said ill call once,,WORST mistake of my life i was hooked after this one session and thats when everything changed. i started to stay in more and more, started to stroke alot more also, after the first year i was down over 8k and it just got worse from there, started to be a slut for a few years, everytime i went online 3-4 Dommes be messaging for cash,then got into panty wearing,then into being on cam,, then by 2009 i had my biggest year over 36k gone! it was out of conrol, online 3-4 times a day,,id be on cam,,in lingerie,,while they on teamviwer raping amazon and paypal, while i on niteflirt with them just being drained,,i couldnt stop,,just pounding down on penis while the money flowed. I recently found out that this group of 3 Goddess was using 7 or 8 different names on yahoo with me and just laughing at the games they put me through. i remember just wanting to prove that i was the biggest loser these Goddesses ever knew because they kept telling me that its so hard to find the real deal losers like me and to find losers like me who could maintain this over years and years and that i was a desired slave. And it felt that way i had lots of girls messaging me about serving them etc. I tried to quit january 2010 but broke down a week later! Not sure what is going to happen, it has now been over 3 years straight of stroking and paying every single day!
Anyways just felt like sharing!
It’s obvious that you broke down and went back to serving because it is your place in life. It”s a fetish, not a kink. Kinks are optional, fetishes are a necessary part of who we are as human beings. My fetish is being worshiped as a Goddess, and I know that I deserve it, and nothing is going to change that. your fetish is obviously serving Women like Me, and nothing is going to change that.
It’s really less of a fetish and more of a lifestyle. It’s who I am, not what I do. It’s not a job, it’s not a hobby, it’s who I am, every day, 24 hours a day 7 days a week, 365 days a year, 23 years of My life.
Now that I think of it Dr. Sue I was recently a victim of financial domination by my girlfriend. Stephanie was constantly demanding I give her money and expensive gifts. This went on for 3yrs and all I ever got was some kisses, If I tried any thing else I got my face slapped. Her crowning achievement was filing suit against me saying I promised to marry her! I now have to give Stephanie $75000. and continue to pay my ex-wife her alimony. All you women seem to enjoy taking men to the cleaners!
To say that you were a victim of financial domination is like saying I’m a victim of the government because I have to pay taxes. Financial domination is only that when it’s two consenting adults playing the game. You were just fucked over by a female. Now unless you get off on it it’s not financial domination. Doesn’t sound like you got off on it Joe. It’s all in how you look at it.
Well said, Dr, Sue.
Well I’ve had years of experience as a Financial Domme. It’s been an interesting ride but there is something hot about being able to spank men financially. I love the control I have but it is definitely something I moonlight doing and kind of a double life I lead.
Hello very nicely put and 100% true. I can speak on this topic as i’m currently the property of a Mistress, and i did sign a blackmail contract.
Please let me start off by saying i mean usually we men that get involved in this are adults so i wont preach, but what i will tell you here is the absolute truth, so you make your own determination if this is the path you want to choose and i’m speaking of any submissive that is thinking about contacting a financial domme.
Now the addiction itself is very real, but actually can be controlled, but can also can lead you deeper into her world, which abviously we all know she doesn’t want you to go anywhere especially when she sees that you do spend money and are not just talk. You will find if you contact one that has been around awhile she will welcome you with open arms, usually answering any questions you might have, she actually can be quite nice, this will quickly end if she sees your just wasting her time, she uses the phrase “wanker” most of the female dommes do.
The spending, well if you can keep a handle on it, say for instance purchasing her clips, if you like them because of the way she taunts men in the video and she is speaking right at you in the video, whatever cool , get off and call it a night. But remember we male submissives are here because we like the idea of women humiliating us and taking from us so be very careful its easy for your addiction to become stronger and more out of control, and i’m meaning this is when you start on a more regular basis speaking with and getting to know the Mistress you’re interacting with, more important she is getting to know you, and i mean if you have contacted one that wants a little more from you she has more than likely done a background check on you. Like i stated if you purchase clips and just get off, cool, but when you contact this woman believe me if she sees you’re a spender and you’re around more and more she will do everything she can to keep you with her and spending.
Ok this leads me to this and this i’m speaking of is getting a little more dangerous and that is if you’re thinking of taking this to the next level, mainly because you get highly excited at the thought of this woman running your life, be careful one you enter into this blackmail and she usually has you sign something with all of her stipulations on there, and believe me if you’re thinking about it read it very carefully, what i’m inplying by that is you think you might be just set up to make a certain payment to her everyweekm but what many men miss is the little infraction clauses she has put in there. Being late on payments, infraction which usually carries another added amount, and believe me they add up. If she contacts you and she states you disobeyed her in someway, infraction. Before when you used to talk freely with your domme you might see that changes a nit when she has you in blackmail she wil ignore you until she is ready to talk to you, and if you talk back to her or get irritated because she is ignoring you, infraction, and it will cost you. Trust me these women find ways to rack up those costs.
I also want to finally add this about the Blackmail contract, please make no mistake these women eill use that information agist you, i know you think nah she wouldn’t dare, trust me she does and believe me there’re a lot of little worms she has out there that might not pay her like you do but she uses them for her own entertainment, they usually are around because she can get them to do anything she wants them to do, so for example if you try and disappear and not stick to the contract you signes and trust me she usually gives you a few chances to redeem yourself but the cost keeps adding up, infractions. So what i was saying she will get one of these guys to call from an anonymous number either to your boss, your workplace, your wife if you’re married, a girlfriend, your parents