Can a woman respect a sexually submissive partner? I get asked this quite often by men who are contemplating cuckolding and more specifically sucking cock in front of their partner. Don asked this recently in our comment section and the answer isn’t really easy and comes down to not only your definition of respect, but also a ton of variables.
So let’s break this down. In the broad scheme of things the answer is yes, of course she will respect you in every way possible, except sexually. However you can’t ask her to respect you sexually it doesn’t work if you have a Dominant/submissive relationship and I’m going on the premise that you do or at least want one such as a cuckold relationship.
As the man that I love and care for and want to spend my life with of course I will respect you. In some cases as the father of my children I will respect you. As the sole or part provider for our home I will respect you. As a human being I will respect you. But in the bedroom, when you’re on your knees and you’re sucking my bull’s cock the only thing I respect is that you’re being a good little bitch and doing what you’re told.
Now let’s look at it from the submissive’s perspective. In the bedroom, when you’re being my bitch, you don’t want me to respect you. That defeats the purpose of our relationship. In this room, it’s not about me respecting you, it’s about you respecting me. That’s the double-edged sword you walk in these situations and why I always say you have to have a very strong foundation in your relationship before you engage in any kind of kink play because if you don’t have good communication and that solid foundation it will all crumble.
And let’s not forget the variables I spoke of earlier such as how much D/s is in the relationship. Does it bleed in to your daily lives or does it remain behind bedroom doors? The more hardcore you integrate D/s in to your relationship outside of the bedroom the less respect there will be in the day-to-day activities. If your dominant wife is handling all the money and/or making all the money she’s less likely to respect you regarding money. See what I mean? It’s quite individual.
When it comes to cuckolding I would rather see you have a loving relationship that is equal in every way except in the areas you don’t want it equal. I’ve found the fear of a lack of respect comes from a fear of your own submission; that somehow she won’t see you as a man. But what does it matter if she sees you as Krusty the Klown as long as you’re happy and getting your sexual needs met? The key is to stop getting caught up in societal ideals of what a man should or shouldn’t be. If you enjoy her not respecting you in ANY way who cares? It’s like the old song Use Me by Bill Withers, “and I wanna spread the news that if it feels this good getting used, Oh you just keep on using me, until you use me up.”