I have been into findom for about 15 years, and accept it as part of what helps fill the needs I have. I also date fairly often, but they never seen to have success. I’m intelligent, reasonably good looking, but overweight.
My issue is these dates are often followed the next day with ‘the “you are great but we should be friends’ text. In some cases I may not have been into them, and its fine, But in cases where I was into them, this initially hurts, but then I have this burning desire to be used financially by them. They are vanilla to that point and as far as I know, and I have yet to respond suggesting my desires.
Is there a way to do this? To take a rejection and ultimately be used by them financially? Is it even appropriate to try? How would one approach this?
I appreciate all you do and your help.
Thank you for writing in D.
I help men with dating in addition to the other ways I help you boys out. My #1 dating rule for men is never take a woman out to dinner on a first date. Why? Because you don’t know if you’re going to be compatible so why waste all that money on someone who may or may not be for you. One of my reasons for this rule is, it’s almost impossible to go out to dinner these days (COVID notwithstanding) for less than about $150 if you’re both drinking, so why would you spend that kind of money on someone you don’t know? You might as well give that money to your favorite charity rather than spend it on someone who is either just using you for that meal or be stuck in an uncomfortable meal with someone you don’t like. This isn’t 1950.
Now I’m sure some of you are thinking I didn’t read D’s questions right, and you my friend would be wrong. My point in telling you this is, you are already being financially dominated the more money you throw at potential females. So maybe it’s not perfect. Maybe she doesn’t know how to do it TO you, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still play the game. If you shower her with lavish gifts and dinners and she still rejects you, that’s some pretty damn good humiliation right there.
Eventually you’ll find that one female who is willing to take you for everything. She’s the one I spoke of earlier who is a professional dinner whore. She’s the one who goes out on dinner dates specifically so she doesn’t have to buy groceries. SHE’S YOUR GIRL! If you want to be used you need to set the trap. It’s not hard. You go on dates and throw money around. In no time you’ll have greedy women slobbering all over you taking you for more and more.
Do this and you don’t have to have “the talk.” You can just go about your business. She may not get what financial domination is, but she’s still doing it. She thinks she’s pulling one over on you but in fact it’s the other way around. But no matter what she’ll be laughing at you all the way to the bank.
Good luck D!