Talking to your wife about cuckolding, now there’s a slippery subject and it’s usually you, sir, who ends up flat on his ass sliding across the floor. I’m going to give you some pointers that I’ve developed over the years of counselling men and couples on this very subject.
But first…BEHOLD…the understatement of the year; telling your wife that you want her to have sex with other men can be very tricky and volatile if it’s not handled correctly.
Seems like a no-brainer and yet, so many of you guys become excited Chihuahua’s when you discover cuckolding and you can’t wait to tell your woman all about it because, my God, surely she’ll think it’s as hot an idea as you do. Hell she even gets big dick, how could she NOT love this?
Yet there’s your little Chihuahua ass sleeping on the couch again because, “what are you some kind of freak?” Your ego still stinging from being told that you’re ‘sick and twisted.’ Let’s face it, we’re all very timid when discussing our sexual wants and needs and getting the courage needed to confide what you like only to have it dismissed or worse can be traumatizing.
To avoid this from happening, the first thing I tell a man who is interested in cuckolding but who hasn’t said anything to his wife yet…SHUT UP! (Runs kinda contrary to the title of this article doesn’t it?) But although that may sound crazy because I’m the one always saying your lines of communication have to be open and they do, just not yet, and this is why…
WOMEN OVER-ANALYZE EVERYTHING.
It’s in our nature and our minds never shut off. We try to read between the lines and many times our imaginations go wild and we aren’t even close to the point you’re trying to make. Don’t worry I’m not going to lose my chick membership card for telling you that because it’s pretty fucking obvious if you’re around a woman for more than an hour. And just so you know it’s no picnic for us either.
Here are some of the things that will go through a woman’s mind when you just blurt out that you want her to cuckold you.
“What man on earth wants his wife fuck another man? Who does that?”
“He wants me to fuck another man because he just wants to fuck other women.”
“Oh sure he wants me to fuck another man so he can hold it over my head and call me a whore when he’s pissed.”
“He doesn’t love me anymore and is trying to get rid of me.”
“He thinks I’m ugly, fat, thin, boobs too small, boobs too big, ass too small, ass too big, hair too long, hair too short…[insert insecurity here]”
“He doesn’t want to fuck me anymore.”
“I’m a horrible person that no one can love.”
“Who the hell did I marry?”
“He’s fucking Jenny from down the block. I KNEW IT!”
“Has he lost his fucking mind? I don’t have the time or the energy for something like this I’m too busy going to work, raising the kids, keeping the house clean, running my side business and keeping my mother happy to entertain his perverted ass!”
See I told ya it gets scary in there.
All of this couldn’t be farther from your mind but it’s too late, you poked the tigress the wrong way. If you’ve found yourself in this place because you already told her about your ‘great idea,’ don’t panic you can actually still do what I’m going to teach you but you’ve set yourself back a few steps and you’ll have to be more patient because now her radar is on HIGH ALERT.
And speaking of radar that’s exactly what I’m going to teach you to fly under so we can get your lovely woman to consider your idea from a different standpoint…her own.
Now some people might say that by me teaching men how to be a bit manipulative to get what they want I’m somehow being anti-female. Nay nay my negative friends, I’m simply going to show you how to get your cuckolding idea properly considered and that involves getting a woman out of her own way.
You need to be covert and stealth. This is where all those hours of sitting in front of the T.V. watching Die Hard and playing World of Warcraft might actually pay off. But there are two caveats to all this gentlemen and they’re nasty ones, patience and work.
Oh I know you wanted me to wave my fairy godmother wand, which is recharging at the moment, and make her magically accept what you want but only you can do that Luke once I teach you how to use The Force.
Besides the things I’m going to get you to do are actually going to be fun since I’m assuming you’re sexually submissive which is why you dig cuckolding in the first place. It involves treating your wife like you’ve probably forgotten how to do…like a Queen!
When we get in to relationships we get bogged down with everyday living and the first thing to go is sex. It’s usually the easiest thing to put on the shelf until later but then later doesn’t happen. And that works for both men and women.
The first part of your mission, should you decide to accept it, is to get the sexy back in to your relationship. I’m going to rely on YOU my submissive soldier to get back in the trenches. This is where the work comes in.
Until the next article you are going to spend every moment you can building up your wife’s self-esteem. Even if you think she doesn’t need it, you’re going to do it anyway. You’re going to start touching her again. Something I’m quite sure you don’t even realize you don’t do anymore.
That means you are constantly going to do things for her that consist of you touching her; massage after work (even if it’s just her shoulders for right now), a foot massage from you foot boys would be delightful as well.
If you sit across the room from one another while watching the boob tube that stops now. You are going to get the closeness back in your relationship.
If you’re not domestically inclined get over that in a hurry. I want you making her life easier in every way you can think of, from picking up the kids after dance class to scrubbing toilets. Whatever you can do, without being asked, that will help her get through her day.
Next you’re going to sprinkle in some genuine compliments. Did you notice I italicized the word genuine? That’s because if they are off-handed bullshit compliments she’ll smell it a mile away. So sit down and make a list if you have to of all the wonderful things you love about her, doesn’t have to be physical, and you start saying them. Don’t just think them. She’s not Miss Cleo and can’t read your mind. Verbalize them.
I’ll be honest once you start this she WILL raise an eyebrow. Wouldn’t you? Especially if you haven’t been all that complimentary or touchy feely lately. And she will probably think you just want to have sex. But it’s ok. She can be suspicious as hell the trick is to KEEP DOING IT! Eventually the compliments and affection will become second nature for you to do it and second nature for her to hear it.
The key to this is not having the affection and compliments associated with sex. That’s because if you’ve just been doing the horizontal mambo, in missionary position, with the lights off, twice a week (if you’re lucky) for the last several years then my guess is that’s probably the only time you’re affectionate with her – to get some dick action. We’re trying to reconnect with the sexual part of her mind. Yes her MIND. We want to open her up if she’s been closed off, not from life but with life for a while.
So why am I making you do these things? Because what you’re creating is the Queen mind-set. We want her thinking she’s better than you. (I’ll let that sink in and give you time to clean up the beer you just spit on your screen) See up to this point I’m assuming you guys have been doing everything pretty equal. But let us not forget my little WannaCuck, that cuckolding is a Dominant/submissive, female led relationship. We can’t create that without first creating our Queen.
The techniques I’m showing you may seem weird but I can assure you that they are based on years of experience and fine tuning. The frequency at which Kink E Magazine comes out is the perfect amount of time to implement each set of techniques you’ll learn and this is where patience comes in. But if you hang in there you’ll be rewarded in the end with a much more satisfying love life even if she doesn’t take it to full cuckolding.
In the next article we’ll be implementing sex toys and role playing games. Now off you go to complete your mission little WannaCuck and NO WHINING!